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idiocratik
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I don't really feel much about death unless I was very close to the person. My grandfather, for example. He was my father, pretty much. My dad never knew how to be one, and still doesn't. He was always just the party guy you drank with. My grandfather (on mom's side) was like a mentor to me, and he was very protective of me. He died in 06 and I was devastated.
When his dad died I didn't really feel anything. In fact, I think I made myself cry over his death so I didn't have to go to school a couple days later.
My grandfather on my dad's side is another story. I went through emotional hell with him. I didn't care at all that he was sick and dying, and I felt nothing when he finally did die. Despite his warm moments, his tyrannical personality overpowered that.
There are some people I don't know, like certain musicians and actors, that I'd probably be very upset over their death. But I think all of that is quite normal.
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TB
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| Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 9:14 am Post subject: |
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| im the same as you, it almost seems like most people are affected by just about anyone that dies or they just pretend to be. it only affects me if that person actually meant something to me. |
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PlatedDrake
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| Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 9:32 am Post subject: |
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Id gotten sad with the passing of others twice: Death of grandmother (mother's mother) and family pet (golden retriever). For me, death of a loved one means that i lost one person/pet that was close to me, got to know me, and now im alone again. I know that loneliness is a constant issue for a lot of us, but its worse when the one passes who knows you and accepted you. In a world where you dont know who to trust, you just shut down when you lose something like that. However, i found it hard to mourn the loss of my father's stepfather when he died (no real connection between us) . . . not sure i could even empathize with my dad (though how well he got along with him is unknown to me).
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Eggman
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not when i'm not aware of it, People die all over the world without everyone else knowing
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smokiethebear912
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| Posted: Thu Dec 31, 2009 7:07 pm Post subject: |
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| Well i went to work like nothing happened the day my dad died. Not to say I don't miss him as a person I just didn't feel a strong reaction to it. I just don't get sad about death. It is a natural part of life. It would be like getting mad I had a zit or a cold. It is to be expected that people and things will die. |
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tweety_fan
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| Posted: Thu Dec 31, 2009 7:59 pm Post subject: |
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| If it is a member of my family or a pet of mine then yes. |
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Odin
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Only if it's someone I know personally.
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M_p_furo
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Only when I'm very close with someone. It's strange though, with the close family members who died, I cried for less than a day and I accepted it. I was still sad, but I could deal with the loss. When I've lost pets however, I am crushed. I will cry for days and it will take weeks for me to accept the loss. Even months later, I will still burst into tears if I see a picture of my pet.
I might sound like a terrible person, but a loss of a pet is much more significant (to me) than a loss of a person. I have a stronger connection with animals. |
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Bataar
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| Before I was diagnosed or even knew about Asperger's or HFA, this was an issue for me and one I felt quite guilty about. I remember when my grandfather died a few years ago. At his funeral, I think I was the only one not teary eyed. I just remember being bored, albeit respectful. I wasn't overly close to my grandpa so I thought maybe that was it. On further reflection, I came to the conclusion that if someone dies, I would miss what the person does for me rather than the person themself. I still feel guilty about that. |
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ruveyn
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It all depends who and how. If it is someone I cherish and they have lived a long successful life and died with little or no discomfort, I celebrate the fact that they lived and that I was lucky enough to know them.
We are all going to die, every last one of us. Death, is by and large, not to be upset about. Of course when a child dies or someone you know dies hard and painful, it is the pain they suffer that is upsetting. When a child dies, it is the lost possibilities that the child had that is upsetting. Death, per se, is not be be upset about. It will happen and there is not stopping it.
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Tim_Tex
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I always get upset when it happens.
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tektek
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| Posted: Fri Jan 01, 2010 5:55 am Post subject: |
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based on my experiences; pets, yes... humans, no (not so far).
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PunkyKat
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No. I was only upset during September 11 because my schedule had been turned upside down. Everything was closed, all my TV shows were canceled to show the same newscast over and over. The change in routine was what was so upsetting to me. I was taken to the funeral of a family friend who had committed suicide and had no clue what was going on. I didn't really know her anyway. I saw her dead body and it did not faze me. Looking back now I think it should have. I've never cried over dead celebrities or strangers killed in natural disasters or accidents. I never cried for fictional characters or cartoons. When my first grade teacher let us watch Lion King, I was the only one who did not cry when Scar killed Mufasa. My best friend at the time was so upset she was even crying when the movie was over. I remember watching an old live action movie where a dog got hurt really bad and died and was really upset. My mom had to explain that the dog was okay and it was just like when a person got hurt or died in a movie, they were only pretending to be hurt so the director could tell a story. Acting. I tried to comfort my friend, telling her it was alright, Mufasa was "just acting". But she was inconsolable. I thought she was downright silly. My mom says it's because I didn't understand the concept of empathy at the time. Maybe she's right, but I look back on that incident today and think she was ridiculous.
When I hear that an animal had attacked a person and the animal was later tracked down and killed, I felt bad for the animal and not the person. I was told that feeling this way was wrong because people are supposedly oh so much supperior than animals. I never bought it. Usualy the person had it coming to them anyway such as when the tiger at the San Franfrisco killed a man, it was later learned that the man was tourmenting the tiger. If it is an issue of two people fighting each other, I feel nothing. |
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ilivinamushroom
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No I dont usually show emotion after someone has passed animal or human unless the animals death could have been prevented by me then I feel responsible and obsess over it . It is upsetting when someone is dying because I cant fix it but when they go I just dont know how to feel so I dont, but if it is a person or animal I am close to ,later sometimes days later I will have a massive physical reaction out of the blue and later realize it was because of the death.
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FeralAspie
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I only get upset if it is a person extremely close to me. Otherwise I'm mystified as to why other people can't simply carry on as normal.
What annoys me is when people get upset over big 'tragedies' when they never knew anyone involved. I mean heaps of people in the world die every day, why get upset over some airplane crash or whatever and not be upset every day over the other deaths of people they don't know? I think the media has a lot to answer for in how they portray events.
What's even more baffling to me is when the people getting upset over people they don't know also hold the opinion that the world is over populated. I mean, wouldn't that make it a good thing? |
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