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[quote="Quarky"]People usually assume that I'm a lesbian. I know that "lesbian" isn't a certain look but it's a bit strange that people automatically label me. I don't know why. Women will flirt with me, and I guess I'm okay with that. I don't particularly like any gender. Men sort of avoid me. By my profile picture, do I look like a lesbian? Ideas?[/quote]
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<table border="0" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1" width="100%" class="forumline"> <tr> <th class="thCornerL" width="22%" height="26">Author</th> <th class="thCornerR">Message</th> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row1"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>ASDsmom</b></span></td> <td class="row1" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Tue Jan 29, 2013 7:20 pm<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: </span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody">People like to categorize because it makes life "easier" to understand. I suppose when I categorize my shelf unit, it makes life easier for me too. We're also very good at making assumptions - period. At the end of the day, it really doesn't matter. Whether you're a lesbian or not, that is something you may want to figure out for yourself.. and if you don't care, I wouldn't care about everyone else's opinion of you. Personally, I'm not a fan of labels. I only use one, (ASD), as a means to get the funding I need to help my son. Other than that, we are all colourful people and one orientation is never better than the other. <br /> <br />Are you worried?</span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row2"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>Deathsin</b></span></td> <td class="row2" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2013 8:52 pm<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: Re: Do I look like a lesbian?</span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody"></span><table width="90%" cellspacing="1" cellpadding="3" border="0" align="center"><tr> <td><span class="genmed"><b>Quarky wrote:</b></span></td> </tr> <tr> <td class="quote">People usually assume that I'm a lesbian. I know that "lesbian" isn't a certain look but it's a bit strange that people automatically label me. I don't know why. Women will flirt with me, and I guess I'm okay with that. I don't particularly like any gender. Men sort of avoid me. By my profile picture, do I look like a lesbian? Ideas?</td> </tr></table><span class="postbody"> <br /> <br />You don't look like anything you look like a person. <br />Why people do this is because there are people out there who are lesbian's who believe that lesbians will were tomboy clothing or lip perceing's maybe dog tags. <br />truth be known this is only for some lesbian's not all people. and people like to be dumb and label. so no you don't you look like you. to clear it up i am trying to say this: People/lesbians/gays will label people anything because they believe in label's and that it shows a person true colors when it don't. your you. just tell them you are how you are but no your not.</span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row1"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>Kiseki</b></span></td> <td class="row1" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2012 12:26 am<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: </span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody">You just look like a normal chick. But if your mannerisms were gayish, then I would easily be able to tell you were gay.</span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row2"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>Raziel</b></span></td> <td class="row2" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Thu Aug 23, 2012 5:28 am<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: </span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody">Fo me you don't look like one. <br /> <br />But it also depends how you behave and autistic people behave more often "boyish".</span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row1"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>Monday</b></span></td> <td class="row1" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Mon Aug 20, 2012 3:11 pm<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: </span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody">Nope. <br /> <br />When I imagine a lesbian, she isnt attractive for me. But you are.</span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row2"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>ooo</b></span></td> <td class="row2" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Sat Jun 30, 2012 3:28 am<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: </span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody"></span><table width="90%" cellspacing="1" cellpadding="3" border="0" align="center"><tr> <td><span class="genmed"><b>Pileo wrote:</b></span></td> </tr> <tr> <td class="quote">It's come to my attention while car shopping that the Subaru Outback is considered a sign of lesbianism due to the popularity among lesbians. If you drive a Subaru Outback, it probably doesn't help. <br /> <br />You don't really look like a lesbian from the picture. So it could probably be do something with how you dress and your makeup.</td> </tr></table><span class="postbody"> <br /> <br />Personality (are you flirty?) and clothes are probably it. <br /> <br />Hair aside, no one's face looks gay or straight or whatever. <br /> <br />Hair, makeup, clothes, accessories, personality, and so on are what assumptions are based off of.</span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row1"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>ooo</b></span></td> <td class="row1" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Sat Jun 30, 2012 3:27 am<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: Re: Do I look like a lesbian?</span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody"></span><table width="90%" cellspacing="1" cellpadding="3" border="0" align="center"><tr> <td><span class="genmed"><b>Chronos wrote:</b></span></td> </tr> <tr> <td class="quote">Perhaps you should change your hair style though.</td> </tr></table><span class="postbody"> <br /> <br />Yes. I think it's the hair too. Or, perhaps because you don't have a preference and give off a "either way goes" vibe?</span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row2"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>stillsearching</b></span></td> <td class="row2" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 11:02 pm<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: </span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody">I'll say this, you don't look like a "Stereotypical Lesbian". I'm a lesbian with fairly accurate gaydar and I would not have thought you were a lesbian. <br /> <br />People are weird with their assumptions though. People are always shocked and astounded when they find out that I'm a lesbian. But in general people of both genders seem not to notice or be attracted to me. I don't get asked out or hit on by either sex and haven't had a relationship in five years mostly because of that fact. I'm always told that I'm attractive but I'm never anyone's "type". <br /> <br />So all in all, screw what people assume about you, it's just part of humanity's need to fit everyone into a nice and neat little box.</span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row1"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>Pileo</b></span></td> <td class="row1" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2012 2:54 pm<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: </span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody">It's come to my attention while car shopping that the Subaru Outback is considered a sign of lesbianism due to the popularity among lesbians. If you drive a Subaru Outback, it probably doesn't help. <br /> <br />You don't really look like a lesbian from the picture. So it could probably be do something with how you dress and your makeup. The advice I always get is check out Goodwill or other such places for cheap finds and then tailor them. It's cheaper than buying new.</span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row2"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>Joker</b></span></td> <td class="row2" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2012 10:28 pm<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: </span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody"></span><table width="90%" cellspacing="1" cellpadding="3" border="0" align="center"><tr> <td><span class="genmed"><b>puddingmouse wrote:</b></span></td> </tr> <tr> <td class="quote"></span><table width="90%" cellspacing="1" cellpadding="3" border="0" align="center"><tr> <td><span class="genmed"><b>IdahoRose wrote:</b></span></td> </tr> <tr> <td class="quote">You don't look like a lesbian to me. I'm envious of you - I wish other women would flirt with me, but they either avoid me or treat me like a child. <img src="modules/Forums/images/smiles/icon_neutral.gif" alt="Neutral" border="0" /></td> </tr></table><span class="postbody"> <br /> <br />Same here.</td> </tr></table><span class="postbody"> <br /> <br />I have this problem when it comes to men they see me as some one that would bash them instead of dating them.</span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row1"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>puddingmouse</b></span></td> <td class="row1" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2012 10:15 pm<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: </span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody"></span><table width="90%" cellspacing="1" cellpadding="3" border="0" align="center"><tr> <td><span class="genmed"><b>IdahoRose wrote:</b></span></td> </tr> <tr> <td class="quote">You don't look like a lesbian to me. I'm envious of you - I wish other women would flirt with me, but they either avoid me or treat me like a child. <img src="modules/Forums/images/smiles/icon_neutral.gif" alt="Neutral" border="0" /></td> </tr></table><span class="postbody"> <br /> <br />Same here.</span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row2"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>Joker</b></span></td> <td class="row2" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2012 8:43 pm<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: </span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody"></span><table width="90%" cellspacing="1" cellpadding="3" border="0" align="center"><tr> <td><span class="genmed"><b>Bun wrote:</b></span></td> </tr> <tr> <td class="quote">Put a pic of yourself with another women, and then we'll talk. <img src="modules/Forums/images/smiles/icon_razz.gif" alt="Razz" border="0" /></td> </tr></table><span class="postbody"> <br /> <br /> <img src="modules/Forums/images/smiles/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" border="0" /></span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row1"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>Bun</b></span></td> <td class="row1" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2012 5:46 pm<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: </span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody">Put a pic of yourself with another women, and then we'll talk. <img src="modules/Forums/images/smiles/icon_razz.gif" alt="Razz" border="0" /></span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row2"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>OliveOilMom</b></span></td> <td class="row2" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2012 5:37 pm<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: </span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody">I can't pick up on a lesbian look. I have no gay-dar for lesbians, although I pick it up from guys a lot, whether they show any stereotypical "traits" or not. I'm actually pretty good at telling if an effeminate guy is straight or gay, or if a butch guy is straight or gay. Then again, I was a fag hag back in the day. <br /> <br />As for women, I can't pick up on it at all. There are some "stereotypical traits" but as with any stereotype they don't always show up on those they are about and they show up on some that they aren't about. I have straight friends who have that really short buzz haircut, dress in jeans and flannel shirts and don't wear makeup and have male oriented jobs, but are married with kids and straight as the day is long. (I had one gay friend who was married with kids before she finally came out when her son moved out of the house, so I threw that in that she's straight because some people are either in the closet or don't realize it until later in life) <br /> <br />As for the OP, your hairstyle and coloring reminds me a bit of Joan Jett, and people always said she was gay. However, I think Joan Jett is da bomb and gorgeous and I've always wanted to look like her. She's hot no matter what your orientation is, and I'd give my right arm to look like her! SHe really looked bad once that I've seen her, in that one episode of Highlander she was in. Her skin looked bad, and I think that might have been something that the makeup artists did for the character, because in the final scene when she showed up looking like the real Joan Jett, she looked great again. She aged well too. <br /> <br />So, I don't know why. Maybe you have characteristics that the stereotypical lesbian has and the people who say that to you are going on stereotypes. We all know those aren't true, but lots of people want to believe them. I don't want to offend, and don't mean this offensive at all, but I'll try and think of what some stereotypical traits are of lesbians that people may think you have. <br /> <br />Non feminine mannerisms. Walking or sitting like a guy or carrying yourself like a guy. <br />A certain way of speaking that I can't really describe. It's not "sounding like a guy" it's a type of enunciation of the words that's almost academic that you see a lot of lesbians in tv shows and stuff do. <br />Dressing casually in situations where other women dress less casually, or wearing man tailored clothing exclusively. <br />Having a traditionally male oriented job - construction, mechanic, fireman, police, etc <br /> <br />Those are the ones I can think of right now that some people tend to associate with being a lesbian. Of course, I think that if people have any question about what someone's sexuality is, and they are close friends enough with the person for it to be any of their business, they should just ask right out. It wouldn't offend me if someone were to ask me, and I've been asked out by lesbians before and I didn't get offended at all, I was flattered. I don't care if it's the same sex or not, I'm just happy that somebody somewhere thinks I'm attractive. I get no more offended by being asked out by women than I would by being asked out with a man that I'm not attracted to. <br /> <br />I think the next time someone asks if you are a lesbian, or assumes that you are, you should just say "No, why do you ask?" Tell them you won't get offended if they tell you, because some people think they are "dissing you" by pointing out something like that, when it's not dissing at all. <br /> <br />I've known lesbians who were in the process of an operation and who read as men, lesbians who aren't getting the surgery and still read as men, lesbians who fit the stereotypical butch, lesbians who fit the soccar mom, lesbians who fit the cheerleader, debutante, supermodel, and lesbians who fit all sorts of "types" of women. I've known straight women who fit all those types too, so it's not something that you can actually tell, unless you ask or they volunteer to tell you.</span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="22%" align="left" valign="top" class="row1"><span class="name"><a name=""></a><b>Joker</b></span></td> <td class="row1" height="28" valign="top"><table width="100%" border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0"> <tr> <td width="100%"><img src="http://cdn.wrongplanet.net/modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/icon_minipost.gif" width="12" height="9" alt="Post" title="Post" border="0" /><span class="postdetails">Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2012 12:01 am<span class="gen"> </span> Post subject: </span></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><hr /></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2"><span class="postbody">No but then again I no lesbiens that dress like striat girls.</span></td> </tr> </table></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="2" height="1" class="spaceRow"><img src="modules/Forums/templates/subSilver/images/spacer.gif" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></td> </tr> </table>
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