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[quote="iheartmegahitt"][quote]WHY THE R-WORD HURTS Advocates explain why the R-word is so hurtful when used in jokes or as part of everyday speech. The R-word is EXCLUSIVE “What’s wrong with "retard"? I can only tell you what it means to me and people like me when we hear it. It means that the rest of you are excluding us from your group. We are something that is not like you and something that none of you would ever want to be. We are something outside the "in" group. We are someone that is not your kind. I want you to know that it hurts to be left out here, alone.” – Joseph Franklin Stephens, Special Olympics Virginia athlete and Global Messenger The R-word IGNORES INDIVIDUALITY “Words matter. People don't need to scoff at others to make a point. Everyone has a gift and the world would be better off if we recognized it.” – Tim Shriver, CEO of Special Olympics The R-word equates intellectual disability with being DUMB OR STUPID When saying the R-word, “What we mean is that he is as stupid as someone who is mentally handicapped, and we mean that in the most derogatory sense. The implication is that the only characteristic of mentally handicapped individuals is their stupidity.” – Crystal, Stanford, CA The R-word spreads HURT “It is wrong to pain people with your language. Especially, when you have already been made aware of your oral transgression's impact. Make no mistake about it: WORDS DO HURT! And when you pepper your speak with "retard" and "retarded," you are spreading hurt.” – John C. McGinley, actor and star of the hit TV show “Scrubs” The R-word is OFFENSIVE “The word retard is considered hate speech because it offends people with intellectual and developmental disabilities as well as the people that care for and support them. It alienates and excludes them. It also emphasizes the negative stereotypes surrounding people with intellectual and developmental disabilities; the common belief that people with intellectual and developmental disabilities should be segregated, hidden away from society, which, in my opinion, is really old fashioned.” – Karleigh Jones, Special Olympics New Zealand athlete The R-word is INCORRECT “When you say the "R" word it makes people feel bad and it hurts my feelings and I don't want to hear you guys say it. Instead, you can call me a leader, a hero, or a human being, but please don't call me the "R" word.” – Dony Knight, Special Olympics Oregon athlete The R-word is DEROGATORY “Because the word has become a casual description of anything negative or flawed, ‘retarded’ is no longer considered an appropriate way to describe people with intellectual disabilities. And any use of the word, even when used as slang and not intended to be offensive, is hurtful - because it will always be associated with people who have disabilities.” – Sara Mitton, Board Member, Treasure Valley Down Syndrome Association The R-word fosters LONELINESS “It hurts and scares me when I am the only person with intellectual disabilities on the bus and young people start making “retard” jokes or references. Please put yourself on that bus and fill the bus with people who are different from you. Imagine that they start making jokes using a term that describes you. It hurts and it is scary.” – Joseph Franklin Stephens, Special Olympics Virginia athlete and Global Messenger The R-word is HATE SPEECH “I don’t think you understand how much you hurt others when you hate. And maybe you don’t realize that you hate. But that’s what it is; your pre-emptive dismissal of them [people with intellectual disabilities], your dehumanization of them, your mockery of them, it’s nothing but another form of hate. It’s more hateful than racism, more hateful than sexism, more hateful than anything.” – Soeren Palumbo, student, advocate, brother to a sister with an intellectual disability. [/quote] I wanted to share this because I notice a lot of people who don't really understand it. I also have a borderline intellectual disability along with Autism and ADHD. I also have a best friend, who is like a sister to me with a mild intellectual disability and this word really hurts her. She hates the R-word. It might not be a word that hurts you but it hurts others with disabilities. It hurts me because I've always hated the use of this word. And to those who life out of the country of the US, it's okay if you don't understand the word but at least understand the trouble it causes here in the US. It's really become a big problem here when people use it like this: [quote]The R-word, “retard,” is slang for the term mental retardation. Mental retardation was what doctors, psychologists, and other professionals used to describe people with significant intellectual impairment. Today the r-word has become a common word used by society as an insult for someone or something stupid. For example, you might hear someone say, “That is so retarded” or “Don’t be such a retard.” When used in this way, the r-word can apply to anyone or anything, and is not specific to someone with a disability. But, even when the r-word is not said to harm someone with a disability, it is hurtful.[/quote] So, I only hope this will help you understand it better.[/quote]
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Posted: Tue Jul 31, 2012 7:36 pm
But I like Retard Master.....
Posted: Tue Jul 31, 2012 3:27 pm
Let's call them mongoloids instead.
Posted: Sat Jun 23, 2012 3:11 pm
I think the word can be used in different ways, and it's meaning depends on the context.
Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2012 12:27 am
People tell me that it is okay that I am called a retard because it is true.
Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2012 12:05 am
As someone with a sister who has an intellectual disability, I am able to see first-hand the effects of the R-word. She has been called this by people who have bullied her all her life, and now can only see the word and the concept of her having this disability in a negative light.
People have told me that this is a clinical term, but they need to see the more common, derogatory, insulting usage of the term and the effects on the people themselves when they hear it. My sister will feel ashamed of herself at times when she's reminded of her limitations even in situations when people are trying to help her with things, and she'll say "I'm not a r---d!" These people are still human, and still have feelings. The R-word brings nothing but shame and mockery to people who can't help who they are, and are just trying to live their lives positively, just like everyone else.
I don't understand why people are so ignorant about this. There's autism awareness...but what about intellectual disability awareness!?
Posted: Wed Jun 20, 2012 4:52 am
Honestly I think anyone who is offended by the R word are hypocrites because they use words like stupid and idiot and moron or imbecile and they don't find them offensive either. But yet they all mean people who lack intelligence, low IQs. Also the fact dumb means unable to speak and they are also not offended by that word. Don't forget lame. Also insults to people who can't walk.
I find that word offensive. I don't call people stupid, idiot, moronic, imbecilic, etc. either. In fact, I generally don't insult people's intelligence at all. I also try to avoid crazy and insane.
If I am going to be offended by the R word, I will mind as well eliminate these words from my vocabulary but since that make it so hard for me because then I wouldn't know what word to use, I can't be offended with the R word.
Why would it be so hard for you? Is it required to be able to tell people they're unintelligent? How would you know what their intelligence is in the first place?
(I'm sorry if this comes off as chiding - I'm not trying to)
Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2012 3:45 pm
I don't call other people that. But I am starting to accept the term, as it applies to me. I don't have a low IQ, but because of my ASD my emotional intelligence is low - I have a developmental disability, it's just in a different area than the one IQ tests measure.
And maybe that's ok... know what I mean? Maybe it's not something to be terrified of, after all. IQ tests only measure one type of intelligence, and it can't be that important, considering how often it doesn't lead to success. People with a low IQ just don't match what that particular test measures.
Calling someone stupid means discounting all of the abilities and knowledge they may have, simply because you realize there are some they don't have. No one is good at everything.
Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2012 2:00 pm
I am sensitive to those whom are hurt by the "R" word. But in fact, this is EXACTLY how I categorized myself my entire life until recent diagnosis. I knew I wasn't retarded, but I had no other concrete explanation to explain so much inconsistency with my performance or abilities to learn and retain information. No one in my life was more frustrated with what seemed to be so much potential, yet such inconsistence or reliability. I have managed to have a good career, my efforts to learn and be a team player have overshadowed my weaknesses according to supervisors, directors and colleagues. Never made me feel any better about my stupidity.
Now that I'm diagnosed with inattentive ADD, I have refered to myself in the "R" word much less. But because employers are not always very sympathetic or accepting of ADD in relation to accomodations, I have yet to reveal this. I have been cautioned against it even by my diagnosing therapist and many in the internet ADHD community.
Posted: Mon Jun 11, 2012 3:23 am
i have learning disabilities. i herd that a lot. people cant seem to understand that you can be quite intelligent and have learning disabilities or any disability for that mater. what i don't understand is that anti "that's gay " campaign was happening when i was in high school and people stopped saying "that's gay" and started saying "that's LD" and no one seemed to care. teachers let it slide.
Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2012 1:32 pm
This hyperindividualist Ayn Rand type (I guess based on his reprehensible comments) called me a retard yesterday (he had just called a woman 'subhuman') so it's nice to see someone say that such a word ignores individuality.
Posted: Tue Jun 05, 2012 9:01 am
Post subject: No offence.
my brother calls me that every day
Your brother needs to be slapped...
Posted: Tue Jun 05, 2012 7:19 am
my brother calls me that every day
Posted: Mon Jun 04, 2012 1:40 pm
When neurotypicals say that autistics are slow and retarded I think it is because neurotypicals have only a superficial understanding. With such a superficial understanding a neurotypical can perform many tasks without even thinking about it.
Posted: Mon Jun 04, 2012 4:02 am
maybe the world isn't ready for the new definition of it. Give it another 20 more years and maybe everyone will stop taking it so literal and it will become just a regular word like the other words we use.
You'll need to wait at least long enough for the professionals to start using a different term.
Posted: Sun Jun 03, 2012 12:42 pm
Post subject: R-word
-_- Retard is a level of IQ back in the 80's when they used words to describe what category of IQ you fell into instead of just numbers., the numbers reflected the categorized group you fell into.
Like i had an IQ of over 150 when i was 7 and i was called Brilliant.
Stupid, Dumb, Brilliant, clever, bright are all words used on that scale of categorisation.
Its just that society has twisted the words to suit themselves and use them as insults..
like Gay used to mean happy and lesbian is a person who comes from the Greek Isl of Lesboss....
I am sure there are a lot of other words out there whose meanings have been changed to suit society...
Its like If i was to say "i have a wet p****" people would look at me n call me a sick bastard, but if i was to say "my cat is wet" they'd be cool with it n know my cat just got wet...
so yeah the meanness is in the word thanks to how society uses the words - unfortunately..
by the way even wrong planet wont let me type P U S S Y because apparently its a baad word... its a damn cute term for a cat and Puss is the female of the domestic cat while the male is the Tom.. also puss is the white/yellow stuff that builds up under the skin usually seen in pimples/zits and is made from dead skin cells and bacteria...
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