Cat-calling is harmless flattery...

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I've made the point before that responses to harassment are not always so simple to interpret- sometimes it is actually safer to not challenge it because it can be very dangerous to argue, challenge, disagree, or explicitly state that you want to be left alone. So the only other option is often demonstrating passive disinterest or at times "being polite" because EVEN passive disinterest is enough to elevate the situation. Then it becomes the victim's fault because they "didn't explicitly state" that they did not want to be endlessly hit on, talked about, approached, catcalled, looked over again and again, etc etc etc, though the alternative might have induced greater harm to them.
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This is what I get scared might happen, honestly, because there is no way to know it won't.

It takes quite an overinflated ego to catcall random girls on the street so it's no surprise that they also easily resort to violence, or in this case, murder attempts.

Where there's smoke, there's fire.

Cat-calling should be illegal.

If you make fun of a person's race, creed, etc in the street, you could be charged with harassment. If a group surrounds a person in the street, they could get arrested for menacing.

What part of NYC do you live, Jwfess?

I live in Queens Village.

They do it in places like New York.

Even people who look like me get catcalls walking through bad areas of New York. Or California. Or even my home state. (note: I'm a dude)

I'm saying plenty of men that don't drink at all catcall. This isn't a problem fueled by alcohol. This is a problem fueled by the societal view that women are public property.

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Yeah I'm sure some that do it every once in awhile don't drink. But if you think about it "cat-calling" sounds like stereotypical intoxicated behavior whether they actually are or not.

Fake people have a tendency to "say what they're really thinking" while drunk for one thing.

I don't actually believe that alcohol is a factor the majority of the time because alcohol reduces inhibitions- it does not create volition out of thin air.

...but let's say it is a driving force behind the vast majority of cat calling and escalated situations?
That doesn't really change the fact that it is a pervasive problem whether alcohol is a huge factor or not- it still happens frequently, it's still most often a form of intimidation, it can still often escalate into a dangerous situation. So the fact that alcohol may or may not be involved is pretty much as relevant as saying that like, people who wear the color green are more or less likely to instigate this kind of behavior. People are going to continue to wear the color green and as far as I know the color green will not be across the board outlawed everywhere.

I mean, ideally it would give some clue as to how to stop it, but alcohol is prevalent in various parts of the world and beyond that- intimidation of this nature [and worse] occurs in countries where alcohol is strictly forbidden, so I'm not sure the theory stands up.

Saying alcohol is to blame is a really simple way to look at the problem. The people who do it are to blame and the culture that perpetuates it is to blame- that includes anyone who looks the other way by saying the individuals instigating these acts are not actually responsible.