I'm reading fifty shades of grey and I don't like it

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Ladywoofwoof
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04 Jun 2014, 12:52 pm

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For those who have read it: is it indeed true that it propagates a seriously messed-up message and disturbed/abusive sexuality? Not in the sense of S&M, but in the sense of a seriously f***ed-up relationship full of the wrong kind of abuse.


I've heard that the main character basically gets raped a bunch of times by her "lover". I don't get how people find that hot.



:lol: It sounds terrible.
This description makes it sound a bit like "Helen and Desire" ; which I got from a charity shop when I was 13, and proceeded to read with fascination while reading bits out to my mum and laughing. I only got it because it had a woman's hand on a pert woman's stomach on the front and I hoped it would be a good romp about lesbians.
But yeah, Helen was a right slapper.... she shagged everybody from a spumey old ship's captain and his young cabin boy, to an old lady who employed her as a maid, and there was a "hot" actually not hot at all) scene where she gets banged by some rapist at a truck stop. There was a lot of "lingams exploring the very depths of her cave" and suchlike.... at many times it was a bit of an effort just to figure out what all of the body parts were doing.



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23 Feb 2015, 2:10 am

The writing standard is puerile: "my head was spinning like a world-class ballerina". Threw it into the trash unfinished. Life's too short to read horribly written books.



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27 Mar 2015, 5:13 am

Haven't read it but from what I know about it creeps me out and the guy sounds like a abusive control freak plus the s&m thing does not appeal to me at all,I like romance books but not when they go all weird like this, and I don't even class this as a romance at all.



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27 Mar 2015, 1:38 pm

I have never read it, can't say I've read a full book in a while anyways....but if I did pick up a book it sure as hell wouldn't be that one, that is before I read your description which only serves to convince me even further its not a book I'd be interested in.

And what is S&M...? I see that keeps coming up.


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27 Mar 2015, 4:00 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
I have never read it, can't say I've read a full book in a while anyways....but if I did pick up a book it sure as hell wouldn't be that one, that is before I read your description which only serves to convince me even further its not a book I'd be interested in.

And what is S&M...? I see that keeps coming up.


S&M?

"sadism, and masochism".

(joy in inflicting pain, and joy in receiving pain, respectively)



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27 Mar 2015, 4:36 pm

B19 wrote:
The writing standard is puerile: "my head was spinning like a world-class ballerina". Threw it into the trash unfinished. Life's too short to read horribly written books.


:lmao: That's what I kept hearing about it, that the writing is atrocious. I've seen a lot of women posting online about how much they hated it, or found it too boring to finish. Apparently one's literary standards and IQ have to be quite low in order to appreciate it.

I discovered a pornographic Science Fiction novel - Yolanda: The Girl from Erosphere - as a teenager and although the writing wasn't horrible, as erotic fiction it was dull as toast, I think I finally finished it, but it was an effort to stay awake. For years I couldn't recall the name of it to save my life, then I ran across it online and decided to buy another copy (its an out-of-print collectible now) to see if it was as bad as I remembered, or if perhaps I just wasn't sophisticated enough at 15 to appreciate it. Nope, it was just as awful as I remembered. Penthouse Forum was much more entertaining.

If people want to read BDSM fiction, they should look up The Story of O, by Pauline Réage from 1954. Its actually quite well written, but might make the pop culture lemmings a bit squeamish.


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06 Apr 2015, 1:36 pm

Anne Rice seems to be into S+M.

The only one of her books I ever cracked was a hardback (forget the title) in a bookstore years ago that started out with a S+M fantasy narrative. Neither attractive nor repellent. Just sorta inanely strange. Did not hook me as bookbuyer/reader.



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25 Apr 2015, 6:31 am

I enjoy kinky sex and among the things that irritate me about 50 shades is the horrible portrayal of the kink community and S&M practices. Christian Grey is essentially an example of everything a dominant should *not* be. Also, Ana doesn't really seem like a submissive to me. From my reading it seemed like she endured the sex because she was afraid of being alone, not because it was something she was actually into. S&M is supposed to be something that is mutually enjoyable to both parties, not something that one party manipulates the other into participating in. That's called rape. It's disturbing and depressing.

And that's only scratching the surface of what is messed up about these books. There's a lot of erotica out there that is much better.



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01 May 2015, 6:54 pm

The audio book was so completely annoying & predictable.



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01 May 2015, 8:11 pm

I highly disliked this book, almost to the point where I hated it, but "hate" is a strong word. I read it because I heard so much hype about it, not because I was interested in reading it, necessarily.
The writing was not too good at all, and it poorly showed the concept of female sexuality in a sort of "biased" sense.


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01 May 2015, 8:21 pm

i hope OP stopped reading it soon after she posted this.

she's clearly not the only western woman to dislike it. no need to put herself through that...


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06 May 2015, 10:29 am

Parody


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06 May 2015, 11:05 am

I haven't read it and have no intention of doing so; it doesn't interest me and I've heard it's just poorly written. I also have no interest in S&M.



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06 May 2015, 7:02 pm

What I don't get about FSOG is that people act like it invented S&M or something. S&M has been around for a long time, and from what I've heard, FSOG doesn't even do a good job of portraying it. Honestly, how did this book become a bestseller, especially with its origins as a cheesy Twilight fanfic?



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11 May 2015, 9:56 am

i read it only to find out what everyone was talking about. it is a bad representation of BDSM and i tell people to read it as fantasy not as any sort of fact. it is in fact a classical abusive relationship

http://www.newsweek.com/working-womens-fantasies-63915