Women, what did it feel like to lose your virginity?

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Well, for the first time ever...

A few nights ago, I was able to take penetration without very much pain at all! In fact, it was even ever-so-slightly pleasureable.

Indeed, it was when I truely wanted it, not just because I was "relaxed". I was prepared not only physically, but psychologically as well. I couldn't force myself to be aroused or relaxed, though. The feeling just came naturally after lots and lots of tender attention.


My fiance was very relieved.
But he still feels very remorseful after causing me such pain when the accident occurred, as well as with all other purposeful attempts at penetration. Oh well, what's done is done.


Thank you, everyone, for your tips and advice.

I think you'd have to be engaging in some pretty strange and ridiculous foreplay for this to be considered anything resembling an accident

my experience with my first time...
... was a bad one.

First of all, neither I, nor my boyfriend had any experience. Both of us were virgins, and that's okay, but it still hurt like a b****. Two. I think foreplay would've helped a lot, because I wasn't all that aroused and I just told him okay, and aside from being not all that aroused, I think we should've at least used some lube. Three. Huge size difference. He's kinda, um... *whispers* really big. And of course, I was um, really not. I remember the first time I tried to insert a super tampon when I was in high school, I cried something ridiculous. It was horrible. Obviously this size difference did not enhance our experience. Four. Choice of positions. Naturally, my boyfriend favors grabbing the hips/butt and getting all animalistic, so you could imagine which one he wanted to do (big mistake because my poor vagina wasn't ready for that craziness). Until you heal up and your body gets used to it, I suggest sticking to the positions where you and him are facing each other-- it helps because those positions are ones where he'll "fit" better.

In the end, it burned like a sharp nail dragging down the back of my arm, I bled for several days (then got it back to back with my period ), and I was sore for weeks. But I recovered.

I was a newlywed and nervous, so it didnt help any and i was tense. It did hurt a little, but kind of like if you ever racked yourself on a bike.. kind of that feeling that makes you suck in a little. Its tolerable for some. I didnt react so well, but had i known how much less it hurt than i expected, I wouldnt have been so scared. After that, well.... much better as you go. After the initial break, its not too bad. Kinda nice. Especially when you are reallly in the mood and clothes and awkwardness seem to fly by the wayside.

It was no big deal for me. No pain. In fact, it wasn't even terribly enjoyable (thanks, Paxil ). I'm one of those women who didn't have a hymen. Not to mention previous years of "self gratification".

If it's stress rather than anatomy, thrusting from behind puts pressure on the pelvis (bone) rather than on possibly tight muscles, so it can be less painful/stressful for him to enter from behind.