Small Talk

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At the moment I am getting all my qualifications at an Adult Education Centre. In English, Maths and ICT as I didn't get any qualifications at school. In this centre you can take breaks in your own time and one thing I have noticed with people and that is I can be in the Kitchen area in the centre making myself a coffee. Then someone else will walk in and they would make a comment and engaging with me in Small Talk it can get on my nerves a bit I thinking about saying 'What's Your Point sir/ma'am. I don't mind have a conversation but small talk I just don't like. Is this an AS trait.

I guess it can be related to AS. I certainly dislike small talk because it's usually not about anything important or worthwhile. I don't engage usually

When a friend of my parents comes over and starts to engage in small talk, they'll ask how I am and I'll simply state, "Good." and walk away... It might be impolite but it's just that I know I wouldn't be getting anywhere, yaknow?

I believe dislike of small talk is a common AS trait, I gain no pleasure from it myself though I do partake in it with friends and family to make socialising easier.

I have read that it is hard for people on the spectrum to engage in small talk, but I don't have this trait. I feel I can only engage in small talk, but find it hard to make other types of conversation like talking about one another's personal lives and contributing in the conversation by asking them questions.

I like talking about things in general, like the weather, and with other work colleagues I like to talk about how we feel about the work and the other people there.

Yes, it's a spectrum thing.
Asking people what their point is would be very rude, though.

Smalltalk is not something we are good at. People coming into the kitchen area and engaging in smalltalk are just being polite. The exchange in smalltalk tends to be quite short, and while it generally has no point, it does give you the opportunity to meet new people.

It is also considered quite rude not to respond. I think it is worth the effort, you might make new friends.

It's definitely a spectrum thing...the good news is that it can usually be learned with practice.

I really like this resource (for both men and women!) if you'd like to learn the basics of small talk:

http://www.artofmanliness.com/2012/08/2 ... mall-talk/

I've learned and I'm still learning small talk over time. It's a critical part of social interaction.
Another thing is smiling for no particular reason which it even harder but I'm learning that, too.

There was one occasion when I was having lunch in the Kitchen Area and someone walked in with 2 Burger King meals and bragged on about eating both of them.

I dislike small talk too.It drains me emotionally at work when others try to engage me in small talk.