Are you acting all the time?

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I told a friend today that I have Asperger's. His first response was "No you don't," which he repeated several times. This was annoying, but I assured him that I did. But then he said "Unless you're acting all the time?" I was a little offended by this. I thought about it and said that I wasn't. I have to think about the appropriate response to social ques, but I don't think this is acting. I don't naturally know how to respond, but when I do, it's still me. I think ... or is it? Now he's got me questioning myself. Am I genuine or am I like a robot calculating the possible responses and the consequences of my responses.
Has anyone had a similar experience? I'm not sure what to make of his comment.

I think you let people in when you're close to them, and they can see through this "mask." I also think that it takes some time before a lot of us are confident enough to show a lot of our true self to the outside world. Maybe some people are completely fake sometimes and aren't at others. Don't feel like you're lying about who you are. If you're comfortable enough to TELL this person, then I'm pretty sure that you haven't been "fake" toward him.

I know someone like this. They were a completely different person in public (he is an Aspie and didn't feel comfortable being himself in public enough to talk to me), and barely spoke to me when we were. When we were only around each other, he was completely himself and I felt very close to him. I have since then realized I'm very similar to him in this way. It isn't all the time, but I sometimes am unintentionally this way.

Whether it's acting or not, I have acted out of my way in order to try and fit in. It doesn't work for me very much. I am tired of doing this. I want to be myself.

The tone of my voice sounds ever so slightly different to me when I'm in social situations than it does if I'm by myself or with close family. This is not a conscious thing; it just kind of comes out that way. Always has.

Since my junior year of high school, when I really started feeling like I had to fit in, I kind of get into this character in public.. I've done it for so long that I don't really think much about it.. It's just something I do. I wore makeup for a while to try to fit in more, but that was tiring and it bugs me too much so I stopped. My friends that have seen me both in school and outside of school say I'm totally different.

Thanks Kinme ... I guess I should keep trudging through in my own way. Either others understand or they don't, but I don't want to lose myself.

I've stopped acting a long time ago. I just let my true colours show and be myself. I can be quite pleasant to be with, as well.

Why are so many people so averted to the artificial? Embrace the synthetic: you can be you while showing everyone someone else, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

The NT's act and wear masks as well it's just that their true self is NT and their masks are NT.

Our true self is ASD and some of us can act like an NT. Some of us cannot.

i can't act to save my own life. i wear who i am on my sleeves.

I have yet to be diagnosed with AS so I have to hide my true self all the time. People say it's okay to be yourself but they're lying. The moment I start being myself, people start to hate me for it or get annoyed with me, so I've eventually learned to just hide that part of me. I'm still me though and I still tend to have my moments that they tend to catch, but I think I'm well-liked or at least believable for the most part. I just wish I could be more myself when I was around them. Oh well.