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19 Sep 2010, 3:39 pm

Like when other aspies talk about how they have made new friends or that they get invited to parties, do you feel jealous?

I don't feel jealous since I have already self-admitted that I lack conversational skills.



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19 Sep 2010, 3:43 pm

I was jealous of NTs when they made friends, but now I am not.



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19 Sep 2010, 3:45 pm

I admit I feel tinges of jealousy when I hear about people's accomplishments, but I don't feel jealous when they talk about parties and friends.



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19 Sep 2010, 3:47 pm

Yeah, the ones who seem to be able to have proper relationships.


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19 Sep 2010, 4:03 pm

yeah, i get jealous if they are successful at careers, or if they have a bestie/BFF. my series of job failures and lack of real friends gets to me a bit. i have a string of acquaintanceships that last a maximum of 2 years only. i can't imagine having real friendships that endure.


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19 Sep 2010, 4:08 pm

Friendships often don't last forever. Even for us NTs. Sometimes you move in different directions and grow apart. It's hard. Being jealous sometimes is human. We all feel it sometimes.



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19 Sep 2010, 4:20 pm

If they got invited to parties and I didn't, my likely response would be, "You sure you want to do that? I'd get totally frazzled..."


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19 Sep 2010, 4:21 pm

I feel jealousy sometimes. But I have no idea if such a person I feel jealous over has other problems, so it's not a good thing to feel jealousy over such things.



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19 Sep 2010, 4:47 pm

I'm somewhat jealous of these Aspies who have friends and bf/gf. I wonder how they do it.


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19 Sep 2010, 4:49 pm

i sometimes feel jealous of the ones who have gotten services when they were younger



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19 Sep 2010, 4:53 pm

Pamo, thanks for that nugget! i forget that NTs don't have ideal and/or perfect lives either.

okay, so i have something else really really shallow to share. i am kind of jealous of really stereotypically 'good-looking' aspies. i know that they would still have the same social difficulties as everyone else on the spectrum, but i still get a little envious because i think that they may have a certain advantage.

it's totally an unfair assumption on my part to think that they would have anything easier, but i still feel a little pang of jealousy. i am totally ashamed of that feeling!


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19 Sep 2010, 4:57 pm

Get jealous of the other aspies that figured out how they were different at a younger age and were still in school. or those that have understanding family that can recognize. even though I'm old by no means. I would consider it envy since in jealousy you have the possibility of attaining that what you are jealous for.


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19 Sep 2010, 5:13 pm

There are some aspies, who don't have special interests. I have a hard time, keeping mine to myself on WP, due to my strict upbringning, getting scolded and sent to my room, every time I talked about them, to the point that I've stopped talking to my parents so much, at the age of 12. Do I feel jealous of WP members who have no special interests?


No, I don't. :cool:


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19 Sep 2010, 5:15 pm

I felt jealous when my SO, who is an Aspie, took me with him to a reunion with old schoolmates. Even though on the spectrum, he had about 8 friends there who were overjoyed to see him, and they all sat around reminiscing. I have never experienced anything like it. If I heard that my high school was having a reunion, I would run one thousand miles. But it must be nice to have people that really like you and are glad to see you, many years later!


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19 Sep 2010, 5:18 pm

I have never been able to understand jealousy. Don't know why but I just don't get it.



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19 Sep 2010, 5:32 pm

Sometimes. The reasons are different though. I get jealous of people who I feel have had it easy in various ways regardless of nurological condition.