bee33 wrote:
What makes it difficult is that we expect fairness from others as well. When someone is manipulative or does something underhanded to gain some advantage, I am always shocked, even though I should expect it by now. I'm especially galled if I get accused of being unfair, or of having been manipulative myself, when I have bent over backwards to do what I think is the right thing.
A little OT, but I've wondered if this is part of what has driven my fascination with certain dark subjects, like police/authoritarian abuse, torture, etc. -- Trying to grasp what goes on in a person's mind when they're doing something horrendous to another person, and it's not an accident or a misunderstanding, but deliberate harm (without anger, since I can understand that) with no thought of fairness at all.
I've seen some ASC people having serial killers or sociopaths as a special interest; I've often wondered if it's the same motivation: "wow, how can they do that?"