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02 Jul 2011, 7:43 am

I am perfectly happy to be by myself alone, i have no desire to have freinds, or go out and be "social" i dont get lonley
yet everyone seems to think its a bad thing to not want friends, . for a long time i had 1 close friend and it was always stress hearing all there problems not knowing how to "chill out" eventually that friendship ended and i was alone and happy!
are anyone ele like this are you happier with no freinds?
do you even want friends at all? and do you get lonley without them?



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02 Jul 2011, 8:05 am

Yes yes a thousand times yes.
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02 Jul 2011, 8:23 am

I enjoy friends and family in small doses, but they have to be spaced apart pretty widely. I prefer alone-time generally. I rarely get lonely and almost never find myself missing a particular person.

Right now, I'm pretty stressed because I have family living with me and there's almost no way to get time to myself without the danger of someone else walking into the room.



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02 Jul 2011, 8:24 am

Quote:
do you even want friends at all? and do you get lonley without them?


I have a couple of friends and, no, I don't get lonely. I prefer being by myself.



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02 Jul 2011, 8:26 am

I'm a bit lonely at times :cry:



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02 Jul 2011, 8:29 am

I actually find that I feel more lonely when I am surrounded by people. I feel more like an outsider, or like I don't belong.

I am most content when I am alone. I prefer having as few friends as possible, I find that outside of my family unit I crave very little (if any) human contact.

I think the definition of "lonely" is different for me. I get lonely for being alone LOL.


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02 Jul 2011, 8:52 am

Yes. I'm quite content being alone. I have no friends and no plans to make any.



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02 Jul 2011, 9:25 am

I`m greatly happy alone. But I still need some socialization once in a while. I get lonely. D:



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02 Jul 2011, 10:19 am

At work I keep to myself as much as possible. Outside of work I have zero friends, and for the most part enjoy the solitude. My interests are all solitary activities anyway (reading, taking walks, totally immersing myself in music or a movie, etc.), so friends aren't something I feel a need for. Having anyone around would just be a distraction.

Sometimes I am a bit saddened at not having anyone to share experiences with. But noting how difficult and energy-draining it is for me to initiate and maintain any sort of relationship with others reminds me that I am more contented being alone.

At best, all I can say is that I wish I wanted friends more than I actually do. At least I'd feel more like a regular Earthling. That said, I'm not willing to betray my true nature, which is to be a loner at heart, in order to fit in. To do so would create inner conflicts I'd rather not deal with.



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02 Jul 2011, 11:19 am

I used to be so happy all by myself and had only limited desire to be with people. Then I met another Aspie who absolutely captivated my thoughts (and caused me to realize that I was an Aspie too). I was never able to get him to communicate with me though, although he seemed equally as captivted by me. Now all I can think of is being with people who might not shun me and this leaves me feeelng so lonely because as an Aspie I simply can't get there from here. I was better off the way I used to be.



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02 Jul 2011, 11:28 am

mb1984 wrote:
I actually find that I feel more lonely when I am surrounded by people. I feel more like an outsider, or like I don't belong.

I am most content when I am alone. I prefer having as few friends as possible, I find that outside of my family unit I crave very little (if any) human contact.

I think the definition of "lonely" is different for me. I get lonely for being alone LOL.


Same for me.



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02 Jul 2011, 11:32 am

The only time I am happy is when I am alone and lost into a video game.


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02 Jul 2011, 11:33 am

I was happiest alone & wanted to be alone for the 1st 20 years of my life but I met a girl who i really connected with & got close to & I've been unhappy alone ever sense but I'm unhappy round others as well because we cant relate, get along well ect


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02 Jul 2011, 12:24 pm

I am quite happy when I am alone. My parents always seem to think that being alone means I am unhappy, but really its almost the opposite. I do have the desire to have friends and communicate with people, though I think that desire is much lower than it is for most. In theory having more friends, socializing, etc seems like a good idea but in practice it is just stressful and exhausting. I guess the level of social interaction I have now is about the amount that I need... I always try to have a friend or two but I don't want a group of friends.


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02 Jul 2011, 1:00 pm

Most people make me want to strangle them when I'm forced to spend more than two minutes in their vicinity, so yes.



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02 Jul 2011, 3:01 pm

I have three "true" friends; two of them are gazillions of miles away (one, I've never even met, but she's my BFF and so NOT just an internet friend!). I have a handful of friends over the internet too. I don't want any more friends, no way, but I also do need people. I don't like to sit by myself in my apartment all the time. Just like I like to go out but struggle because of my panic attacks, I want to have friends but don't quite know how. Autism isn't equivalent to desiring social isolation, at least not for everyone.