FandomConnection wrote:
EzraS wrote:
Yeah I think it's okay if they're openly autistic and you're looking for insights or whatever.
I am essentially looking for insights. My parents have actively prevented me from learning about what it means to live with ASD (because they are sort of in denial). This forum is really the only place I can talk about it.
Hmmm ... I've met other aspies and personally I found them quite annoying. One older guy I met told me that he didn't think being friends with me would be worth the cost/benefit involved. (Eye roll). One woman I met insisted that borrow a book about living with Asperger's. I didn't want to borrow the book but she insisted.
I really don't like pushy people.With this being said, I am a reclusive introvert. Outside of work, I keep to myself. I don't feel any need for human companionship and prefer spending my time when I'm not at work by myself with just cats for companions ... but that's just me and the autistic spectrum is called the spectrum for a reason. The spectrum covers a wide variety of abilities and some people are clearly more capable of being social while others are not.
I don't think that reaching out is a bad thing to do. You could strike up a friendship that will last throughout your lifetime. You could also roll snake eyes and find that you really don't care for this person. Unless you reach out to this person, you'll never know.
If you're comfortable with making an introduction, then go for it. The absolute worst thing that will happen is your effort will be rebuffed. If that happens, don't feel bad. Remember that the spectrum is the spectrum and some people may not be as socially inclined as you are.
If you do decide to reach out to this other person, I'd really appreciate hearing about how things went.
Best wishes!
David