Omg I made such a mistake.
I wanted to hang out with someone during break at college so I decided to join them, but sometimes i feel nervous when I'm around people and then I get agitated and stuff and I ended up pushing the person and running off.... -_- there was no reason for me to do that but all the more reason I probably should just be by myself.
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The incident you describe reminds me of so many things I've done. I can't remember an incident where I pushed someone (although I probably have) but this is a typical sequence of events:
1. Do something stupid for no good reason
2. Upset/hurt someone
3. Realise what you've done and make a quick exit.
4. Worry about what you've done and how to fix the problem
5. Conclude that a good way to avoid reoccurance is to stay away from people.
As I've gotten older I'm getting better at apologizing as soon as possible at step 3 (ideally) or step 4.
If I don't apologize at this point I find it gets more difficult to apologize as time goes by.
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A few times, I've done something similar. Somehow feelings just got too intense. I don't mean romantic feelings, I just mean feelings in general.
One thing I remember that horrifies me to this day was when I had a male friend at work. We joked around all the time. Once the jokes just kept on coming and it was too intense for some reason, I couldn't handle continuing to laugh like that, and I kicked his car. It left a small scratch. He was able to fix it easily but he was horrified and so was I.
Another time my mother was one-upping me on some sort of banter or other...I don't really remember the exact circumstances. Anyway, I was laughing, but the next thing I knew, I half-slapped her face. IOW, it wasn't a hard slap, but more than a tap. She was furious and I was totally confused.
I think it's a "pushing away" of too-intense feelings of some kind, at least for me. It's like, "Make it stop...somehow!" And...that's how. Unfortunately.
I was sitting with my ex one day and he was being an idiot which was annoying and he started poking my leg in a way that hurt and i dont like people touching me anyway so i hit his hand away and he like totally freaked out at me later after he left texting me "you hit me" "you were poking me" "YOU f*****g HIT ME" (it was definitely not a real hit)
So like every other situation in my life it was 100% my fault for getting irritated and being unable to figure out how to get it to stop with words. We shoulda broke up a lot sooner but thats what finally did it
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1. Do something stupid for no good reason
2. Upset/hurt someone
3. Realise what you've done and make a quick exit.
4. Worry about what you've done and how to fix the problem
5. Conclude that a good way to avoid reoccurance is to stay away from people.
As I've gotten older I'm getting better at apologizing as soon as possible at step 3 (ideally) or step 4.
If I don't apologize at this point I find it gets more difficult to apologize as time goes by.
The same has been true for me, verbatim, and, like you, it has never manifested in a physical way. I react verbally, on impulse. I have made some strides, over the years, but, I have learned that I will, perhaps, never completely fix this particular trait I possess. Hi starfox, btw !
I´ve learned to use the short word, "Stop". Explanations can come later. It doesn´t sound very polite, but it does buy time to think out a more elaborate protest.
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1. Do something stupid for no good reason
2. Upset/hurt someone
3. Realise what you've done and make a quick exit.
4. Worry about what you've done and how to fix the problem
5. Conclude that a good way to avoid reoccurance is to stay away from people.
As I've gotten older I'm getting better at apologizing as soon as possible at step 3 (ideally) or step 4.
If I don't apologize at this point I find it gets more difficult to apologize as time goes by.
The same has been true for me, verbatim, and, like you, it has never manifested in a physical way. I react verbally, on impulse. I have made some strides, over the years, but, I have learned that I will, perhaps, never completely fix this particular trait I possess. Hi starfox, btw !
Same here. I have learned that there are times when I just shouldn't be around people.
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