Anxiety is stopping me from moving on with my life.

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Hey everyone, i'm extremely introverted, have aspergers and have been struggling with anxiety for most of my life.

I've been postponing a visite to an investor i gotta make but i've stood in front of his house for several time and my anxiety just creates a wall between me and the house, i just start crying and i get sick, it's so frustrating to the point that i paid my mom to make an appointment for me with the investor but she doesn't dare it either cause she postpones it herself. No one really understands my anxiety so i feel weak quite often.

I just need the courage to ring his bell(tho the bell is at a gate and the guy is rich and famous so it's a really defensive situation.

Any advice? i probably didn't explain myself fully so please ask any questions, i'm too frustrated to write a full and beautiful post.

I have lots of dreams and i really have to do this in order to get on with my life, i know that i'm just 17 but please don't make any comments regarding my age, this is what i wanna do and nothing can change my mind.

Thanks alot, Chris.

PM's are allowed, i'm lonely..

That's so familiar to me! I would always walk around the block a few times before plucking up the courage. Not sure how but I think I managed to convince myself that it was do or die, that if I chickened out I would never get anywhere in life because that one decision WAS every future decision. Superrationality with my future self as the 'opponent'. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Superrationality

I sent you a PM. Like a little helium balloon with a basket and a note inside.

Sometimes my therapist says that i need to tell myself "I can do this, even though I don't want to". I find it to be helpful sometimes, but less helpful other times.

Xanax really helps me to get over those moments when something must be done but I Just would rather eat my own fingernails off than face the amount of anxiety I have about it. Just my experience, I dont know if this is an option that is possible for you. But sometimes you need a little help to get unstuck, or
least I do. Or I need a lot of help.

I hope you feel better and can move forward.

I've made good experiences with chamomile tea (very calmative) and valerian and hops pills. Valerian is a herbal over-the-counter drug that might make you a bit sleepy (it's usually used as a sleeping aid), but it also relaxes a lot and greatly helps with anxiety. Hops also has a calmative effect.

Certain foods can help too. Cheese, bananas and chocolate increase your serotonin level, which improves your mood and lowers anxiety. If I were you, I'd have a cheese sandwich, a banana, some dark chocolate and a valerian + hops pill an hour before you leave the house, and drink two cups of chamomile tea right before you leave.

Edited to add: Alcohol is a very bad idea btw, since it tends to make anxiety problems worse over time (and sometimes causes them in the first place).