I like penises but not men what does that mean?

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25 Apr 2015, 12:53 am

When I watch videos of males masturbating I get horny but I feel no romantic attraction towards men nor do I want to have sex with them. I'm attracted sexually and romantically to females and all the rest, I'm a guy btw, but I also like penises. Is that what people call bicurious or something? I feel weird...



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26 Apr 2015, 3:06 am

Probably it's not anything unusual. As many people say, no one's really 100% straight or gay. And I think other men's penises are not something that you see that often. So it's quite natural to be curious about them. Also, maybe you are aroused by the sight of other men masturbating because it makes you imagine doing the same with your own penis. And seeing penises makes you think of sex because a penis is a sex organ after all.

Well, that's just my opinion. I might be totally wrong.



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27 Apr 2015, 5:44 pm

You're probably straight. You're probably attracted to the "sex" of it all.

My definition of "gay": If you want to kiss and be intimate with someone of the same sex, you're gay. If you don't you're not.



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27 Apr 2015, 6:11 pm

Maybe this is just me being an ass, but I keep reading you as a woman because of your avatar.

Either way, its OK to like looking at the occasional penis in porn. You aren't gay until you fall in love with, have sex with, or otherwise become romantically attached to other dudes. Porn is stimulating. You're just being normal when you react to that.



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29 Apr 2015, 6:27 pm

It's ok, it's not that uncommon. Lots of people like lots of different things, and most of it is all ok. I know a few straight men who are not attracted to other men but who very much enjoy penises and everything a penis can do for/with/to them.
This might be too personal to answer, but have you ever used a toy on yourself (the penis-shaped rubber or silicone kinds of toys)? Does that seem attractive to you, or if you've tried it, did it feel good? (It's ok to enjoy it.) Lots of women are willing, and very much enjoy, to play like that with their male partners by using a strapon. Is that close enough to a penis to satisfy you? It might be worth a try.
A lot of men feel a sexual attraction to MTF transgendered people who haven't had the bottom surgery so they still have a penis but are otherwise entirely female. If a silicone penis isn't appealing, maybe that is the type of person for you.


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30 Apr 2015, 11:15 pm

jimmyboy76453 wrote:
have you ever used a toy on yourself (the penis-shaped rubber or silicone kinds of toys)? Does that seem attractive to you, or if you've tried it, did it feel good?
No thats sick :shameonyou:



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30 Apr 2015, 11:23 pm

All it means is that watching people masturbating arouses you. It doesn't mean anything about whom you are attracted to.



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02 May 2015, 4:55 pm

DailyPoutine1 wrote:
When I watch videos of males masturbating I get horny but I feel no romantic attraction towards men nor do I want to have sex with them. I'm attracted sexually and romantically to females and all the rest, I'm a guy btw, but I also like penises. Is that what people call bicurious or something? I feel weird...


You're a phallosexual!! !!

Okay, I'm joking!

You don't have to be romantically attracted to people to be sexually attracted to them. I have only had a romantic interest in about two people in my lifetime and they just so happened to be male. I just consider myself a bisexual regardless. But I suppose it's up to you what you call yourself.



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02 May 2015, 4:57 pm

tagnacious wrote:
Maybe this is just me being an ass, but I keep reading you as a woman because of your avatar.

Either way, its OK to like looking at the occasional penis in porn. You aren't gay until you fall in love with, have sex with, or otherwise become romantically attached to other dudes. Porn is stimulating. You're just being normal when you react to that.


That's....incorrect.

You're gay if you are exclusively attracted to people of the same gender. It has nothing to do with love or whether you have had sex with somebody of the same gender.

Besides, this person isn't gay. They just said that they think they're bicurious.



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02 May 2015, 5:02 pm

MindBlind wrote:
They just said that they think they're bicurious.

That's incorrect.



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02 May 2015, 5:04 pm

There is a difference between becoming aroused while watching certain people and being sexually attracted to those people. Sexual attraction implies wanting to be sexually involved with them, rather than just watching.



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03 May 2015, 9:07 pm

starkid wrote:
There is a difference between becoming aroused while watching certain people and being sexually attracted to those people. Sexual attraction implies wanting to be sexually involved with them, rather than just watching.


I personally see no distinction. Sexual arousal doesn't have to mean that you personally want to engage sexually with anyone. I personally have no interest in relationships, but that doesn't mean that I don't find people's bodies attractive.

But I do appreciate that sexuality is very multi faceted and everyone is different.



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03 May 2015, 9:15 pm

MindBlind wrote:
starkid wrote:
There is a difference between becoming aroused while watching certain people and being sexually attracted to those people. Sexual attraction implies wanting to be sexually involved with them, rather than just watching.


Sexual arousal doesn't have to mean that you personally want to engage sexually with anyone.

I didn't say that sexual arousal meant that.



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03 May 2015, 9:21 pm

So you might either be bi or pansexual, which is cool, I think I'm pansexual myself



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05 May 2015, 6:35 am

DailyPoutine1 wrote:
jimmyboy76453 wrote:
have you ever used a toy on yourself (the penis-shaped rubber or silicone kinds of toys)? Does that seem attractive to you, or if you've tried it, did it feel good?
No thats sick :shameonyou:


So, you're attracted to penises, but not what they can do for you? Let me ask you, what would you do with a penis if you had one near you? Would you want to touch it? Just look at it? Watch someone else touch it? I'm not trying to sound judgmental, just trying to understand.
Is it possible you just conditioned yourself to enjoy looking at penises by watching porn? If you stopped, would you still find penises attractive?

And, to tell you the truth, it's ok to just like looking at them. Nothing is that isn't harmful is wrong or weird. Just let yourself be ok with it.


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04 Jun 2017, 6:46 am

after years end years of watching porn i became atracted to shemales,i f****d shemales but after i finish i run away end feel very bad...when i get extremly horny one time i talked to a very feminine guy looks like a girl he told nobody knows you are gay?end after that i am very obsessed i am beeing gay,i fear he will see me in town,i repeat a im atracted to women not to men i have relation wih women