Does she like me?The usual question of an aspie male

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There is this girl that studies in the same university as me.Once I was walking and could sort of see her like staring to me in a deeply matter(actually being an aspie I don't really know how to interpret it),I look back a little surprised.Anyway days after this event I go to the studying room and I make her a favour by freeing a place and she is smiling and being very social and initiates a little conversation.But outside the study room she stares a little but doesn't say hello first so i decided to salute her and she salutes back.During these days i see her sometimes kind of staring at me when I am not looking(Actually when i looked back she looked kind of anxious like moving her legs,and like being uncomfortable).Once,she kicks at me chair accidentally because our studying tables were close,and says to me how sorry she was,and tells me how sorry she was for doing what she did and touches my shoulder.Then she gets out of the studying room and then tries to kinda of initiate a conversation (or maybe just being nice because she kicked the chair i was on) again by telling how sorry she was,but i gotta admit i wasn't in the mood.But now when she sees me in the study room she turns her head very quickly.And recently she has started using a perfume(which is nice).I would like just to know her even as a friend because she seems like a really nice girl.What do you think is the best way to approach her?

1. Making regular eye contact - good sign she is flirting with you
2. Initiating conversation with you - good sign she is flirting with you (women more often wait for men to initiate this way)
3. Finding reasons to touch you - good sign she is flirting with you

From what you have written I would say she is most likely flirting with you, and trying to encourage you to 'make a move'.
If you want to read more about how to tell when a girl is flirting with you, here's a article to have a look at (I wrote it) -http://succeedingsociallyaspie.com/?p=303


Because (by the sound of it) she seems like she is trying pretty hard to catch your attention, a good way to 'make a move' would be to ask her to do something fun with you in a one-on-one social setting (so something like grabbing a coffee, a walk through a park, going to an arcade etc.).

This will give you a great opportunity to not only get to know each other better and enjoy each others company, but also allow you to make some small moves (maybe grab her hand when you are walking) to see how she reacts. If she responds well then this is a pretty clear indication she is into you!

I hope that helps, any other questions feel free to ask me

Thank you for taking your time to respond.Actually I would like to invite her some times but now
the things seems to have kinda of cooled off although she sometimes glances at me especially I am
not watching.I hope this is not because any of my actions have made her think I am not interested.
Maybe I should send her a friend request on facebook,and see how things go from there.

just talk to her

Talk to her via internet/texting if you can't talk to her face to face then you will naturally start getting comfortable talking to her in face to face talks because you will know her more and all

It's rare to see a thread type like this have a good outcome here, I'd say you're lucky (and probably quite good looking).

Guys thank you for your advice.I really appreciate them.A female friend of mine told to me like the way she is behaving signals she likes you.

dont read into it too much. Like notice the minor things but read them as more in the moment. Find a time she's not occupied to be friendly and say hi and talk about something simple and relevant and go from there!

She is being friendly, but it's way too early to know if she has romantic interest, so I wouldn't read into it. As a woman myself, many of us tend to not develop strong feelings for men right away but it tends to gradually grow as we get to know the person, like they are acquiring our respect and trust over time. It's also common for girls to give light touches in the situation you've described.

I say talk to her or message her on social media (if you have her) and see where it goes from there.

Hey man, it's your call. Sometimes you can't be too over logical and just use your gut feeling. I do highly recommend that you talk to her and be friendly. Stand up straight, smile, and have fun. That's the most important thing.

Don't be afraid to approach women. I mean if you can't talk to women at all, then it's going to be hard to get a girlfriend.

I talked her on social media but she is not responding anymore now!After we talked the first time on social media she was nice and she even gave me a smile the next day.But somehow these days she has changed her behaviour abruptly,although when I go to talk to her while she is studying she smiles and responds and even asks me how are the things going for me ,but i cant still understand why she is responding on facebook??! !!I am pretty sure she has seen my message.Once I saw both of her friends smiling at me,like in a way they had heard something about me!

Say hi, introduce yourself and chat with her for a bit -- get to KNOW her a little instead of trying to interpret non-verbal signals out of context and read accidentally kicking a chair/aftermath as if it was a tea leaf!

Maybe she was staring at you -- maybe she was staring aimlessly into space (that you wandered into). You don't knoe, can't know and will accomplish nothing buy driving yourself batty by trying!!