Are Autistic Men More Likely to be Misogynistic?

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This is the smartest thing I've ever heard anyone say about anything ever

I agree, like I have said repeatedly in this thread, it exists here as it does everywhere else, it's not specific to WP, nor is this website a cesspool of women hating, perhaps a while ago there were more of those posts, but I see a notable improvement and I think that progress should be recognised. I think it's unreasonable to hold anyone with social/communication difficulties to a higher standard than is representative of the realities of this world, but sweeping generalisations about the other sex are not appropriate/conducive to progress in a mixed forum; where both men and women experience the same challenges and each have an implicit understanding of inequality.

Last time I've seen sly's pic, he was obviously overweight, not morbidly obese for certain, but he was overweight.
If this how he really is right now, then it's misleading to tell him he's not.

Not sure if this has changed, maybe it's just an old pic of him that sticking in my head.

He's probably in the 10-20 lbs (about 4-8 kg) overweight category--like most men.

I could stand to lose about 30 lbs (about 12kg).

I really think it's the attitude/posture which is a prime determinant of success, not the weight itself, most of the time.

They won't see much of his attitude/posture in a photo.

sly, what's your BMI?

My BMI is about 30 or so.

I'm 5 foot 4.75 inches (165 cm), and I weigh about 190 lbs (about 85 kg).

If I wear the right clothes, though, I don't appear fat--I appear "husky."

If I wink at a woman, I don't usually get an "ewwwww" response--like "How could you deign to wink at me, you fatso?"

One could easily seem "schumpy" in a photo. A whole body shot, with good straight posture, would be useful--though, obviously, it doesn't match meeting the somebody in person.

This is the kind of faulty thinking that leads to misogyny. There are no standards that if met will result in a girlfriend. Relationships form organically out of life.

Not going to happen. It would be poor form and somewhat mean to start pointing at specific people. Also, I don't think it's a cesspool.

Sly, stay off internet dating sites. Spend some time out in the real world. Personally, I think you're a sweetie, but the pot won't boil if you don't stop staring at it. Relationships are things that happen naturally as a result of living life.

Can you elaborate why genius?
What's so false in what I said?

There's nothing in I said indicate there's some magical formula that result in a gf or whatsoever.

You are basically saying the same as "or to rely less on online dating and try to build a bond with some girl he knows,"

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I agree with Ann and Boo......get out there in real life!

You're an okay guy. Don't talk about guns too much; it turns people off. And don't ever express anything which indicates you're feeling sorry for yourself. It doesn't go over well with people.

Otherwise...just be yourself.

I'm not going to call you a "sweetie," like Ann did--but you're okay!

...and to live life and to have a social life, he needs a job or some way to make money.

Sure, Beaker.

No magic, but definitely a formula. And it's not going to work. The falseness in your words is that they are not true. You are trying to control variables to create a result. Love doesn't work this way. It is beyond human control.

He has a part-time job. He's a cashier at a college bookstore, I believe.

I am trying to help him to tweak some variable, in order to increase chances for something to happen, there's nothing that guarantees a result. Know the difference.

Then he may try to start building a small social circle from there.


Alas, I did have an ok-social circle for like 3 years until they fought among each other lol. I am building friendships lately with cool people within the the Wing Tsun class I am attending.
But it's going slowly.

I think this is mostly about Sly "cleaning his slate," so to speak--and starting from scratch.

Forget your "failures" in the past, Sly. They mean nothing within the context of the future.

You're still a young man. There's still time.

I didn't marry until age 34.

Argggg

Chances, guarantees...they come from the same thought process - finding a partner is not something that can be manipulated by modifying variables. It is just something that sometimes happens to people. It has been so drummed into our heads that love and marriage are a renumeration for societal participation that people take it for granted. But love doesn't work that way.