musicboxforever wrote:
In my experience trying something ends the pointless nonsense because the answer is always no.
But I do think that it is better to find out than to always wonder what might have happened. If you find out she feels the same way, that's great. If you find out she doesn't, well that lets you move on.
I do that whole skirting round someone for a year thing as well. One of my friends told me that I wait too long and the guy loses interest. But I don't know how to do it any other way.
That's good advice because you get a conclusion, instead of being suspended in doubt. Unless you really enjoy doubt. I say, feel the fear and do it regardless.
Since you are young, you need to experiment in order to work out what's what. If you don't try and fail, you won't learn as much. Pain is only pain, and it goes away, and if it doesn't, see a therapist. A healthy person is supposed to experience some pain; there's always some pain involved in growth. This applies to all spheres of life.
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