Online dating the biggest load of crock

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Is online dating the biggest load of crock?

I never have. My brother met his girlfriend online and she lives in a different town than he does, but they see each other quite a bit because they are only about 2 hours a way from each other and he's frequently where she lives on work related matters. If you mean a completely cyber relationship;it's hard for me to imagine knowing the person completely unless you met in person and knew whether the chemistry was there or not.

I've tried online dating, and I've had little success with it. I'm not sure why, but I think it's because a lot of the women I try to court on there live far away from me.

Yeah, that's common. Why do people go on online dating if they only want locals anyway?

It's worked for other people I know, including at least two of my cousins.

I think online is NO worse than offline dating. Lots of people dating offline have money problems(one person is demanding the other pay for everything they do) or their having issues about sexual stuff(like one person wants it when the other does not or one is getting jealous cuz the other is talking to a member of the opposite sex when their in a group or something) lots of guys dating offline seem to be looking for sex & lots of women dating offline seem to be looking for someone to pay their way or do stuff for em. I'm sticking to online dating cuz I live in an area where there is NO place to go except bars/clubs & casinos & I'm straight edge. I HATE living here so I'm totally willing to relocate as soon as something got serious so I think the odds are much better for me online. Plus a lot of the women I go for offline tend to be lesbians & for some rezone I do not realize it at 1st or the women assume I'm gay. Least on the internet I can let people know my sexual orientation & I can know there's before we even make contact.

BTW I am NOT voting in this poll because it needs a 4th choice Online dating is NO worse or better than offline dating

Mmmm, it's not without its flaws.

I always think its a bit of a double standard.

As a woman, I often find I will overlook men who I would not if I had met them and got to know them IRL.

IRL theres just the flow of things, things happen if they happen. Online dating sites try and force a connection instead of letting it naturally develop.

as for online dating NOT on a dating site, after I have had the real thing, that is never going to be good enough and i wouldn't like it. Seems more like a kid/teenage thing.

I was talking to an NT friend tonight that was successful on eharmony. He told me to try them. I have never been on their site because they routinely reject a lot of guys they think have no chance to get their numbers up. So after a lengthy questionnaire, it finally came back and said "No Matches Found".

The bottom line is that women can never be trusted. I have never met one that could. There are only guys that have been conned into thinking they can be trusted.

Yeah pretty much. Online dating works better for me than offline (as far as meeting goes).

Because they are to cheap to actually go out to a bar and look for someone. They dont want to date someone from another city, even if that person works in the same city as they live in. Lots of people are morons and want everything handed to them on a silver platter, i.e. the perfect man should come knocking on their door. I've dated people in different cities and its no biggie traveling for an hour, i mean going a cross Stockholm can take almost an hour so why not another town?

As for the topic: I've stated my opinion about the waste of time that is online dating before.

I've only done the postal/telephone dating thing, though I suppose there's not a lot of difference apart from the time it takes to send/receive messages.

I found it a double-edged sword. It was good to just get on with looking for a partner so directly, and much easier than throwing myself into crowds of people in realtime. It was fun (and useful) to look through the lists and think about what kind of partner I wanted, and what traits I needed to avoid. For example, I was able to ward off all the oversexualised types by just writing it in my profile that I wanted a demure but colourful dresser.

I got 3 girlfriends from it, and they weren't particularly worse than any of the women I met by more conventional means. I think that the awareness that we'd met via a dating thing was sometimes difficult for the women to cope with, at least in the early stages. I suspect that it's this "strength and commitment test" that so many ladies find they have to subject guys to......they don't get that from these situations because they have to pretty much admit that they're interested in a relationship with whoever, and the guys don't have to demonstrate much courage. So I used to hear a lot of "retractions" like "I don't want a relationship" or "I only joined for a dare, my sister sent it off before I could stop her." The latter wasn't a problem, but when you're wooing somebody who says they don't want a relationship, that can be spooky because you have to go along with it although you don't really believe it. I was really caught out once when I was getting wonderfully close to one such lady who then revealed that she'd had a sexual partner all along. There wasn't much I could say......I had to explain to her that whatever we had was probably not fair on her partner, and she just countered with "why? It's only a special friendship we've got." I bowed out as gracefully as I could but she was furious.

In some ways the realtime method helps because people seem able to sniff out the ones who aren't ready for a relationship, whereas anybody can join an arranged dating thing. So it's a natural haven for people with lousy interpersonal skills.

I benefitted as an Aspie from it because I was able to do a lot of my wooing via the written word, and the women concerned nearly always seemed to appreciate what I wrote for them. They were able to know a lot more about me than I could have told them by the spoken word.

So yes, I'd say it's worth a dabble. Just make sure you know the pros and cons of the method and you should be fine.

I tried various online dating sites for years without anything substantial coming out of it, but then I met my fiancee on one such site, and I couldn't be happier now. So, I would say they can be a load of crock, but occasionally you hit the jackpot, just like real life.

I've gotten lucky a couple times from dating sites, but it's really hit and miss. Don't ever pay for a subscription though, there's plenty of free sites. If your good looking, the best thing to do is keep your description down to a minimum, and opposite if your more plain. Then, message EVERYONE. Once you have caught someone's interest, hide your profile from public viewing so that you don't grab someone's interest while your already seeing someone.

The more people I have messaged, the worse the depression.

Pathetic