caek wrote:
I'd disagree with the just being myself thing.
Sure I'm awesome 'n all, or at least adequate.
But the non-verbal stuff is a large part of the getting of the girl, I can be confident, I can make bad jokes, but the "off-ness" that I've heard a lot of people with aspergers also display is a large hurdle to allowing one's target of affection to feel comfortable.
That's what I'm looking to minimise, I'm not asking for pick up lines here =P.
Woman do seem to like confidence, not all confidence, but it can be really difficult being an aspie. Being yourself can be a part of the whole confidence thing. Not there isn't things we all need to improve on, but usually an aspies "off-ness" isn't really any weirder than some of the things normal people do like running on a tread mill. I think we can pick up on the whole non-verbal thing with a little research, it does help and is interesting but they always seem to smell us out eventually.