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I worked up the courage to ask out the guy I've been crushing on for the last few months. Horror.

The guy: Aspie.
Me: Notsomuch.


He agreed. Relief.

We met at a place down the street from where he works, and started out the same as usual: he rattled on about his special interest until I had an oppurtunity to break in and remind him (I think gently) that I already know pretty much everything he's telling me, and that this is in fact a date, and I'd like to talk a little more about him. Panic.

He didn't seem to know the difference between talking about himself, and talking about herpatology, which was kind of adorable. I ended up asking him a few questions, which he answered like a man being interrogated for homicide. He didn't ask any questions in return. Awkward, awkward silence.

So I changed the subject back to snakes. Relief.

...and he started talking about his life. And mine. And hinting around about getting together to do something the following weekend, which I picked up and totally ran with. Hallelujah!

I had kind of an awesome time, which I wasn't expecting. Really, I thought it would take a while for him to warm up and relax (a while as in weeks, maybe months). I also didn't really expect myself to be able to be blunt enough to express my intentions. I wasn't even sure I had it in me to ask him out- but I did, and yayz! Yayz!

Ran into him the following day. This was such a random thing. In all the time I've known him I've never once run into him, I've only ever caught him at his work. So there I am, and here is he, walking towards me, and... nothing. He doesn't see me, so as we're about to pass each other I reach out and touch his shoulder and say his name and he looks TERRIFIED. Confusion.

He pulls away (I realize I probably shouldn't have touched him. I've touched him before, but in a gentler setting, when we were already in close proximity). He looks away. He slows down to a rolling stop, mumbles hello and goodbye, and goes along his way, leaving me Mystified.

This is really wonderful!! ! I wouldn't read too much into the interaction of the last two paragraphs, it's just how some of us are when we encounter unplanned-for, on-the-spot socialization. As he gets to know you, you'll enter his "pattern buffer", most likely. {he'll feel more comfortable around you, as you infiltrate his senses/routine}

My god, I suck at the written word.

Cheers.

Before it was wine time.

Now it's champagne time.

See, my immediate reaction is: he has a girlfriend.
I know I shouldn't judge him by the standards I'd apply to other guys, but alarm bells go off when a man is one person in private, and another in public.

It's extremely unlikely he already has a gf, if you think about it.

Frankly, I never know when it's time to begin doing things around someone like greeting them cheerfully every time I see them: I don't naturally know if it's too much or too little, and hearing your subsequent confusion from this guy's perhaps similar blind spot illuminates some of my own mistakes. (Thanks)

Keep it up, he sounds awkward and unsure of how to proceed if he's anything like me, but it sounds like he likes spending time with you.

He had the courtesy to say Hello and Goodbye, I think you can relax.

I would not see anyone either unless they were right in my face because I have such tunnel vision. I would have probably jumped if someone laid a hand on me. Maybe wave first in his line of sight and then say his name.

Good job! I think he likes you, although don't be so sure if he's hinting at something because he might just seem like it. Don't worry about your random running into him; just don't touch him again without him knowing. Be patient.

Also, if it's a date, please tell him it's a date so he knows. If it's not a date, tell him it's not a date. Unless he's a lot higher functioning than I am, which doesn't seem to be the case from your descriptioin, this will relieve him of a lot fo anxiety.

It seems your the one pursuing so don't be afraid to take the reins. Like the others mentioned, contact for meeting up info seems logical and not pushy. I think it would be wise to mention that your intention is a date if you want the relationship to progress to that level.

Glad to see that you finally gathered the courage to ask him out and things went quite well.

Hope you have fun at your next day and he starts feeling more comfortable around you/asking you questions about yourself and not focusing so much on herpetology.