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25 Mar 2012, 7:06 pm

I think it will probably hurt him, but I don't think he will try to leave you. I think that you should just ask him for time to think about it, but make sure you don't lead him on--tell him that you don't think you're attracted to anyone, but give him a chance. Tell him you were too surprised. You may want a tactile friendship. You seem to be really good friends, and I don't think you should mess that up.



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25 Mar 2012, 7:12 pm

InternationalFleet wrote:
This is just awful, then. I could have led him on. I think I know when. When he touched my hair it felt good so I asked him to continue. That was last week. Maybe that was the turning point. I'm so stupid.


Misunderstandings happen. Technically a friend can give a massage. But can see where this went. Don't need to be awful or feel stupid. Like my signature says.

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I even thought a few seconds ago that I WOULD be open to being his boyfriend, because I care about him so much, and don't want to lose him, but then got really grossed out when I thought about the implications.


Well what ever you decide, they is that email reply I put in the quotes.


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25 Mar 2012, 7:38 pm

Was he hot :lol: I don mind kissing guys :wink:[/quote]

I don' t really notice those things, but he's very symmetrical. Blonde, pale, blue eyes, skinny. Is this even relevant?:P



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25 Mar 2012, 7:56 pm

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I don' t really notice those things, but he's very symmetrical.


According to research, symmetricalness is one of the best predicters of how attractive a person is considered.



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25 Mar 2012, 9:02 pm

Just let him know that you were surprised, and that you're not attracted to anyone, including him. He sounds like an understanding and caring person, so I would guess that he'll probably be supportive and understanding in this situation, even if he's disappointed or self-conscious about it. It'll be OK, just talk to him!



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26 Mar 2012, 4:11 pm

InternationalFleet wrote:
I'm not gay. I don't think so. I don't think I like girls or boys. Besides Princess Leia in the third grade, I've not had crushes. Too busy. I don't know. It's bothering me a lot.


Tell him you are flattered but you're not gay.