I mean, touching in a pleasant way, beyond a handshake or hug. I don't give massages to people I'm not intimate with because I consider it so sexual. I give really good massage.
_________________ "The cordial quality of pear or plum
Rises as gladly in the single tree
As in the whole orchards resonant with bees."
- Emerson
Ask youself this: "If my significant other performed oral sex on another person, would I consider it sex then?"
Kissing isn't sex, but I'd consider that cheating too. I don't think of oral or manual sex as being sex, although of course it's an important and intimate thing...