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Graelwyn
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16 Nov 2009, 5:12 pm

I am trying to find out how many of us can live totally without human contact.
I myself, used to consider myself pretty reliant on having some sort of human contact but actually, in my reallife, I am mostly content and happiest totally alone, with no interraction. In fact, I will try and establish a friendship occasionally, by advertising locally on friendship sections of local ad sites, then simply lose interest and lose contact. I don't know if it is depression or just a general AS thing.

But, I have panicked in the past if my internet has been lost, because that is my only connection with others.
Does that mean I am reliant on having human contact?

Mind you, lately, I have been needing less and less social contact even on the net.

Can you survive without any human contact at all?
Or are you, like me, usually dependent on the internet?

Do you panic if you feel 100% cut off with no source of human contact?



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16 Nov 2009, 5:15 pm

im more or less like you, i dont realy like socialise ofline apart with close friends and family... which is basicaly the same but i do online and when my conection goes i freak... i could live in isloation as long that i have internet


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16 Nov 2009, 5:16 pm

No panic. Which is good as I was snowed in last year for 16 days and without power for 5 of those, phone was out for 7 days. The only problem was my greyhounds refused to accept being walkless. So twice a day, I got suited up, clipped on the leads and we walked to the end of the house under the eaves. Then went back inside.



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16 Nov 2009, 5:28 pm

I find that I do need human contact. I enjoy being with my friends every second night and having fun.


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16 Nov 2009, 5:35 pm

I do need human contact. I need to feel accepted by humans and I need sex. The getting acceptance is actually much harder to do than the sex. I would panic if I did lose all contact with humans, unless I knew for exactly how long it was going to last. Although I do like being alone, enjoying my special interests, I also look forward to talking to other humans about my interests. I enjoy seeing their reactions and hearing their opinions on certain things. If we're not talking about a special interest or having sex, I'll tend to be counting down the minutes until I can be alone again.



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16 Nov 2009, 5:50 pm

no


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16 Nov 2009, 5:58 pm

I do just fine with long stretches without human contact, but enough of it and my social skills start to atrophy and I get a bit weird when I'm around people again.



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16 Nov 2009, 9:01 pm

Yes. I need it. And I want very much to be with others. I am just...bad at it. *shrugs*


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17 Nov 2009, 1:33 am

I have no social contact at all other than the people I talk to online. I do have a vocational specialist that I can talk to & she's the closest thing to an actual friend I have, but it's a professional relationship & I only see her a couple times a month for about an hour. So, other than my mom, who I live with, I'm utterly alone. My mom has a lot of health problems & I find that, when she's in the hospital & I'm here alone, it can be free-ing, but I also get incredibly lonely & I always wish she were here. So, even though I'm alone 95% of the time, having someone there occasionally is something that I guess I do need. But I always worry about what will happen to me if something happens to her. Because of all her health problems, I'm always worried about that. I'll be utterly alone without her & have absolutely no one. It's not possible for me to develop relationships with others, so if anything happens to her, that will be it for me.



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17 Nov 2009, 2:35 am

blackcat wrote:
Yes. I need it. And I want very much to be with others. I am just...bad at it. *shrugs*


That's about how it is for me too. I need people it just doesnt always work out and being with people doesnt necessarily denote being able to actually connect and communicate with them.

I could probably pass as a professional wall flower... -MaS


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17 Nov 2009, 3:01 pm

Human contact is a need for me, but I don't have any contact with people in real life, just online. Right now I'm kind of avoiding social situations and trying not to build relationships so I can focus on other things in my life, namely school, work, computer programming, and getting my driver's license. I would like to have more friends eventually. Someday, when all of this is over...



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17 Nov 2009, 8:40 pm

I can't even go a day without saying something.



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18 Nov 2009, 3:15 am

I need human contact, even though I can stay quite a long time without seeing anybody; then I start to get depressed.



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18 Nov 2009, 4:30 am

No human contact would drive me insane.

I've been on my own since out of a job and it's depressing and lonely



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18 Nov 2009, 9:34 am

The longest I've managed going without conversation is twenty days. After about tens days an additional level of tension is added and then things just get really bad about fifteen days in. It becomes nightmarish, everything becoming distant and vague, meanwhile this oppression settles in your mind, like you are being continually persecuted.

Twice after that episode I've gone two weeks, both times travelling on my own. In many ways it was enough to really reduce the overall enjoyment of the trip.

However, I can easily and often do go up to ten days without conversation and it does not affect me at all.


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18 Nov 2009, 2:58 pm

I need human contact on a frequent basis or I become very depressed. This must explain why I always look forward to human contact (esp church).

I can go for a day or two without it, but after that I need contact with someone else.