I am afraid of using Facebook! (Few friends)

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Don't use Facebook. Problem solved.

I agree, I've never seen the phenomenon of adding thousand of people you haven't met or don't know personally in real life. I just don't see the point in publishing every detail, maybe it helps people to feel more self absorbed or important, most of the information I have read on Facebook is pointless.

just today i noticed students from the school i had studied had recently gone on a reunion
and now they went on a picnic...everybody laughing, enjoying having a good time
well when i wrote a good cheerful comment on their photo they deleted it...........facebook is not for children of lesser god.

Previously had a FB account and closed it, has it was difficult to keep up with other people, or i would find my comment deleted or being laughed at. Since then, I have rejoined and I have hide the amount of friends i have, and put different people into different lists (so that you can post to a list and the others will not see it). I still find the social aspect difficult and in truth i have very few friends, but it has been a great way to add people who I share views with. For example I have one list that is for MP's, another for news and another called 'disabilities'. If i want the latest news i go to my news list, or if i want to find out what my local MP's are up to i go to that list and so forth.

I have approximately 100 friends added on FB, but only around 20 of these people i have met personally. Out of these 20 very few keep in contact, but the occasional like or comment on a post, does feel good and does not feel like hard work. Its when they want to go into a long conversation i find it difficult and taxing of my energy.

I have 9 Facebook friends and use it for updates from bands primarily. I don't see why you'd be having social pressure.

My dad always said "quality over quantity." Very true of friendships.

If you click on the little gear thing (settings) that comes up when you hover around the heading of your post on facebook ~ just now I saw it next to where it said "Thursday" under my name at the heading of a post on my page ~ you will see a drop down menu to "control" who sees that individual post of yours.

Also there is a place in the security settings to make one of those settings your default. Mine is set to "custom" by default, and my "custom" setting is "friends only, except [list of people not allowed to see it]".


If you need "friends" to look respectable in your country, I'll be your friend if you want. I have friends on facebook (mostly family members in my case) who are excluded from reading pretty much everything I post. It wouldn't bother me if you blocked me from everything and I might do the same; I tend to go through times of wanting extreme privacy. But anyway, if what you need is numbers . . .

When I first started looking around facebook, I was a little shocked (maybe a lot shocked) to discover that all through my life, I had evidently been just skimming along the surface of this huge, constant web of social interaction among all the other people I knew. I didn't even feel excluded about it while it was happening, because I was just about completely unaware of the fact that everyone was getting together to hang out with each other, all the time, except me. Luckily I wasn't upset by it ~ just bemused ~

It's OK. Just don't take facebook too seriously. People are weird. All people. Even if they're weird in the same way as the "typical" majority, they are still very, very weird.

Ok Ive decided to open up my wall after 2 years of being closed. Just for family members and people I can trust. I'm putting everyone else who insist on using facebook for communicating and work on lists. (yes I hate people who insist on facebook walls and not emailing me personally). I dont really have many real friends just mostly family and people who absolutely insist that university work has to be on Facebook. Just so that people would stop asking why I keep my privacy settings tighter than North Korea.

Just a question: If someone writes on my wall I know it appears on theirs and their friends can see what they wrote. (So much for privacy...) Even with max privacy settings can I control that? Or is that off limits to me?

Just noticed facebook has made Timeline compulsory and by 12th march my profile will get converted into Timeline.
Timeline is giving out lot more information like when i got married, when i joined facebook........its even more threatening to me
who cares i dont have anybody i know personally on facebook anyways

I mostly try to use facebook to contact my friends to get together with them. Sometimes facebook causes misunderstandings and makes things worse than they actually are. I have lost two or three friends that way.

It's been interesting to read people's thoughts on this. Me, I've always been just way to introverted to have a Facebook account. I cherish my relative internet anonymity, & I've always guarded my privacy carefully. In fact, I've revealed more personal information at WP than at any other forum, but here I at least feel like I'm among accepting & nonjudgmental people. Recently I've had to reconsider this aversion to Facebook, just because of the fact that it seems everyone else is on it, & I've learned firsthand how effective it is for purposes of organizing, promoting, advertising, networking, etc.

Guys need help!

Im trying to use the Facebook list thing. Its fine if I need to post (and I never/rarely do anyway) since I can filter out who can read and who shouldnt. But what if SOMEONE ELSE posts on my wall how do I make sure for instance that:

University listed people's posts can ONLY read university listed people's posts

or Family listed people's posts can only read family posts
etc?