Unwritten Social Rules -- Written
1. When someone says "how are you?" They don't really want to know. Just say "fine" or "I'm good". (I don't always do this, I usually answer honestly because I find it hilarious)
2. When someone is crying, they expect you to say "Are you okay?" - not nothing.
3. Using a higher pitched voice when explaining something makes you sound kinder. Low pitched voice makes you sound angry - even if you're not.
4. Smiling and nodding go a long, long way. Laughing very gently too (just a short heheh is enough). It makes you seem less threatening, and like you actually understand and care about what's going on.
5. Understand that NO ONE CARES ABOUT YOUR TOPICS OF INTEREST. Keep them to yourself at all costs, unless and only unless someone asks you directly about them. Then only give out a sentence or two because again, NO ONE CARES NEARLY AS MUCH AS YOU DO. This takes huge amounts of practice, but it's never too late to start. You'll alienate yourself so much less.
6. Don't tense your fingers for any reason. Continuously flexing and stretching your hands makes you seem threatening, even when you don't mean to be.
7. Turn your HIPS towards people who are talking to you. Likewise - if you don't like what someone is doing or saying, turn your hips away from them.
8. When someone says "You know?" or "You know what I mean?" just nod. Don't say anything.
If you don't ask more about something somebody tells you about themselves, you may be seen as uninterested and rude. If you do, you may be seen as pushy and rude! What works best is this.
Person-"I'm feeling _ / I will be going to_ / this person said_".
You- (casually with fleeting eye contact) "Yeah?"
The person talking to you may elaborate, in which case they're ok to talk more about it. Or they won't say anything, in which case you say "cool" "ok" or nothing further, and change the subject.
As for the emotional significance of what they may say, sorry you're on your own!
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