Do crushes feel different than 'love'?

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02 Oct 2009, 4:44 pm

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I'm guessing that the OP is asking about the physical sensation of crushing/falling in love.

OP, I'm quite alexithymic myself and detached from my emotions so I don't really find the words for those, but I've learned to observe my physical reactions and tie them to specific "emotions" that I'm probably feeling at the time. and although I've never been in love I can tell you that whenever I'm around people I feel attracted to I feel kinda nauseous :p having a crush feels a bit like temporary insanity/obsession/cocaine high.

yeah, pretty much...



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02 Oct 2009, 5:54 pm

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Love is unconditional.

I'll have to disagree with that. Love can definately fade as a result of actions (or lack thereof) that your partner takes (aka conditions).


then it isnt love, IMO.

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Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

that's what i believe love is :D



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02 Oct 2009, 7:00 pm

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Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

that's what i believe love is :D


Mmmm. A bit like a fairytale, innit? Too much so, for me. :?


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03 Oct 2009, 12:36 am

I have crushes very often but I've only been in love once. The difference is pretty big love is intense in all aspects, the good bits are unbelievable and the bad bits are as bad as it gets.

I get the sinking tummy feeling when they walk into a room with a crush but there's a heavy dose of fear and hope involved with love that you don't get with crushes at all.


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03 Oct 2009, 12:44 am

Do crushes feel different than 'love'?

Yes, a Crush is someone you want to be with,

while Love is someone you don't want to be without.



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03 Oct 2009, 8:31 am

DaWalker wrote:
Do crushes feel different than 'love'?

Yes, a Crush is someone you want to be with,

while Love is someone you don't want to be without.


Isn't that just the distinction of whether you are with them or not?



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03 Oct 2009, 9:28 am

Crush is like watching a chocolate cake but can' t eat any of it.

Love is like watching the cake and eating it.

I think both have much more feelings/sensations in common than differences.



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03 Oct 2009, 9:44 am

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Crush is like watching a chocolate cake but can' t eat any of it.

Love is like watching the cake and eating it.



why cake? can't it be pizza?

:lol:


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03 Oct 2009, 10:11 am

my idea is this:

a "crush" is not able to be traded for "love" ever.

i had some "crushes" when i was a child and also into my teens.
with a "crush", i felt that the sight of my "crush object" was a very heady sensation. i wanted to act just right to impress that "utterly beautiful" person.
if she looked at me i would try to think my best thoughts and behave in a way that her gaze may rest upon me for a while.

the heart flutters and the idea of union with that person is mind blowingly euphoric.

but if some one like god said "if you trade the life of your pet cat, then you will achieve that union you dream of with her", then i would decide to keep my cat alive without hesitation.

it would be such a drag to have to choose between them, but i actually love my pets and it is a stronger force than infatuation with delightful girls.

a mother who has a child may meet some man who can satisfy her completely. if she was asked to decide between having a continued relationship with that man, or having her children well cared for and happy,, then she would certainly choose her children unless she has some psychopathic traits.


love is conviction, and crushes are titillations. that is my present view.



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03 Oct 2009, 11:44 am

anna-banana wrote:
LePetitPrince wrote:
Crush is like watching a chocolate cake but can' t eat any of it.

Love is like watching the cake and eating it.



why cake? can't it be pizza?

:lol:

A crush is like eating the whole pizza

Love is like licking the whole Box clean 8O



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03 Oct 2009, 11:46 am

anna-banana wrote:
LePetitPrince wrote:
Crush is like watching a chocolate cake but can' t eat any of it.

Love is like watching the cake and eating it.



why cake? can't it be pizza?

:lol:


:lol:



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03 Oct 2009, 1:02 pm

SINsister wrote:
Spazzergasm wrote:
Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

that's what i believe love is :D


Mmmm. A bit like a fairytale, innit? Too much so, for me. :?


well that's simply the pure love. not including anything else.



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03 Oct 2009, 5:54 pm

anna-banana wrote:
LePetitPrince wrote:
Crush is like watching a chocolate cake but can' t eat any of it.

Love is like watching the cake and eating it.



why cake? can't it be pizza?

:lol:


Well, the chocolate increases the production of Oxytocin , I am not sure if there is anything in the pizza that does.



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03 Oct 2009, 6:04 pm

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Love is unconditional


What an immature fairytale false thought.

Even the parents' love toward their children is not unconditional.



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03 Oct 2009, 6:57 pm

LePetitPrince wrote:
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Love is unconditional


What an immature fairytale false thought.

Even the parents' love toward their children is not unconditional.


you cant just write off an opinion like that.



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03 Oct 2009, 7:42 pm

A crush is just a strong attraction to someone, love is different than that.