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13 Oct 2009, 9:22 am

I don't kiss anyone on the lips except my husband. Everyone else, children, relatives and friends, I kiss on the cheek or forehead. Firstly because kissing to me is a physically intimate thing and I am only physically intimate with my husband. Secondly, I am a germaphobe. Why spread germs?

Our family are huge huggers and kissers - Italian's are like that. We also pinch the cheeks and kiss each cheek in a greeting that's called - I have no clue how to spell this so I'll do it phonetically - "pittsa gill". This may be from Abruzzo dialect. I don't know. Any Italiani out there, help with spelling, please.

If anyone other than my husband attempts to kiss me on the lips, and I see them heading for my lips, I turn my head quickly so their lips land on my cheek instead. Sometimes, people who know my aversion to being kissed on the lips, try to do it just to tease me, or to be funny.

Anybody else not like being kissed on the lips except by your spouse or significant other?



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13 Oct 2009, 9:28 am

Blurt alert :!:

This is a blurt :!:


I prefer to kiss anywhere BUT the mouth :!:

Sorry but................



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13 Oct 2009, 9:32 am

Lip drip topic

I got turned off kissing on the lips as a young child when my father's false teeth loosened during this sort of thing years ago and felt the teeth touch my lips. 8O

Then I was engaging in something intimate with a former boyfriend more than thirty years ago and I felt the saliva drip into my mouth. I just about puked. :eew:

My daughters I will dry kiss on the mouth quickly, and my son only on the cheek. Hugs are quick release. I have never been in a huggy family, so it was never an issue there.


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13 Oct 2009, 9:36 am

Me... I don't even like kissing my boyfriend on the lips a lot of the time. It's just all unpleasant to me... Mostly what bothers me though is when someone goes for the mouth, I can smell what they had to eat and things like that, or the taste is left lingering, and most people are not nearly as picky as I am, so I try to avoid it.


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13 Oct 2009, 9:44 am

Ewww. No one else besides my husband ever even tries. I didn't know this was a common thing. I don't like anyone else besides my husband, and kids to touch me at all, so if someone tried to kiss me on the lips I'd probably cause a bit of a scene. I barely tolerate handshakes, and sometimes hugs from other people.



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13 Oct 2009, 10:19 am

@ Blindspot149

Blurting is permitted here. :lol: Where you making a reference to "but kissing"? :lol:

@ Sartesue

Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww. False teeth and Lip drip. Shudder Shudder. One of the scariest things for me as a kid is when my uncle used to pop his false teeth out. He did it on purpose and thought it was funny. :roll:


@ Anxiety

Yuck. Smelling what they had to eat. What could be worse? Being kissed by someone who just puked. Or having to kiss an aunt who was sweaty and smelled like strong perfume mixed with whiskey. Can't get the salt taste off my mouth and the stink out of my nostrils.

@Serenity

I guess it's common in some ethnic groups more than others. From my observation. Also, when you're raised that way, with all the hugging and kissing and pinching, it's a little easier to tolerate. It's like to some women, don't ask me who, if they go to Italy and don't get their rear pinched, the trip was a failure. :lol:



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13 Oct 2009, 10:23 am

cosmiccat wrote:
One of the scariest things for me as a kid is when my uncle used to pop his false teeth out. He did it on purpose and thought it was funny. :roll:


haha, my uncle used to take his out too, but I had a different response. He'd tell us to go and try to take our own teeth out-I didn't know his were fake. So my cousins would give up after a few minutes, but I would be trying all day long, getting mad that my teeth wouldn't come out like his did.


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13 Oct 2009, 10:28 am

I have only ever kissed people with whom I was partnered (however briefly). I have always refused to allow family members and others to kiss me on the cheeks or anywhere else, and I never kiss them (not even my brother when he was an infant). Occasionally, someone will try and I will push them away; as a child I would hit them.



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13 Oct 2009, 10:29 am

I've been forced to kiss some friends while they've been drunk. It sucks, but if I refuse to start arguing with them. But that doesn't happen anymore, because I always confront them and ask about the meaning of their intrusion - which I should've done from the start.

In 2003 a guy, an old friend of mine, caught me off-guard and gave me a french kiss. I felt kind of vulnerable and I was upset, not in a bad way though. It was just a very strange experience. I just did not see it coming, to say the least.

I would like to only kiss my future girl. I'm still very reluctant when people try to hug me, I take a step back. I have a hug problem with people touching me when I don't expect it. Also if people keep touching me if I say no, usually they stop, but there are some that has a need to touch other people. I mean, What the f**k?



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13 Oct 2009, 10:30 am

I'm not good with any physical contact at all. I am OK with my 2 young boys and husband, but I rarely get any pleasure out of it myself at all, it's strictly for them.

I have honestly never experienced kissing on the lips by anyone, not intimate. By this I mean anyone but my husband. I never considered it something most people would do unless they are intimate, ie sexual partners. I also think of the bacteria but if you are sleeping with someone anyway, well .............what the heck.

I do have a few relatives that I rarely see that tend to kiss on the cheeks, but never on the lips. Do most people think like this, or is it my bag?

To be honest kissing my husband it's not something I enjoy at all, so don't do it all that often, unless............ I am distracted by.............well you get the picture.



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13 Oct 2009, 10:35 am

I've never had a problem over that with steady girlfriends and wives, but that's all. And yes it probably does spread germs. I'm more into cuddling really.



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13 Oct 2009, 10:39 am

cosmiccat wrote:
@Serenity

I guess it's common in some ethnic groups more than others. From my observation. Also, when you're raised that way, with all the hugging and kissing and pinching, it's a little easier to tolerate. It's like to some women, don't ask me who, if they go to Italy and don't get their rear pinched, the trip was a failure. :lol:


I'd probably tolerate being pinched on the butt way better than a kiss on the lips. Slobbers really creep me out.



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13 Oct 2009, 10:58 am

Quoting Anxiety

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but I would be trying all day long, getting mad that my teeth wouldn't come out like his did.


:lol:

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I have only ever kissed people with whom I was partnered (however briefly). I have always refused to allow family members and others to kiss me on the cheeks or anywhere else, and I never kiss them (not even my brother when he was an infant). Occasionally, someone will try and I will push them away; as a child I would hit them.

Good for you Outlier. A person should be able to set their own standards of what they will tolerate and what they will not. Stick to your guns. (An odd phrase. just popped into my head. I know it means sticking to your principles, but don't know the origin of that phrase.) Once, a certain family member (adult sibling) who was sitting next to me on the couch, lunged at me and licked my entire face. It was so shocking and disgusting. There was saliva all over my face, even on my glasses. I think he had had too much to drink, but still, what would ever possess someone to do such a thing. He thought it was hilarious. I was speechless and felt defiled.

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I've been forced to kiss some friends while they've been drunk. It sucks, but if I refuse to start arguing with them. But that doesn't happen anymore, because I always confront them and ask about the meaning of their intrusion - which I should've done from the start.

What is it with people? Forcing themselves on others. That's outrageous. I'm glad to hear it doesn't happen to you anymore.

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In 2003 a guy, an old friend of mine, caught me off-guard and gave me a french kiss. I felt kind of vulnerable and I was upset, not in a bad way though. It was just a very strange experience. I just did not see it coming, to say the least.

I had a similar strange experience which I related in my response to Outlier. I know that "didn't see it coming" feeling. But my experience was not pleasant AT ALL.

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I would like to only kiss my future girl. I'm still very reluctant when people try to hug me, I take a step back. I have a hug problem with people touching me when I don't expect it. Also if people keep touching me if I say no, usually they stop, but there are some that has a need to touch other people. I mean, What the f**k?


I sometimes touch people on the shoulder, to emphasize something I'm saying, or to show affection or solidarity. I do it impulsively, and sometimes afterward think, oops, shouldn't have done that, especially if I don't know the person that well, as in the work place or something. But it wouldn't bother me if someone touched me in that way, briefly.



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13 Oct 2009, 11:08 am

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I would like to only kiss my future girl. I'm still very reluctant when people try to hug me, I take a step back. I have a hug problem with people touching me when I don't expect it. Also if people keep touching me if I say no, usually they stop, but there are some that has a need to touch other people. I mean, What the f**k?


I sometimes touch people on the shoulder, to emphasize something I'm saying, or to show affection or solidarity. I do it impulsively, and sometimes afterward think, oops, shouldn't have done that, especially if I don't know the person that well, as in the work place or something. But it wouldn't bother me if someone touched me in that way, briefly.


I'm not much of a toucher, but have met a lot of them. For instance, the little girl I've written about a few times that is bugging my son. She has always been very touchy/feely, but in 2 different ways.

Most of the time it's just to be obnoxious... she thinks it is hilarious when my son asks her to stop and gets all mad. But then she also has this thing where she has very coarse hair-she is mixed, so when she is around my kiddos, she wants to pet their hair all of the time because she says it's just so soft and she likes it.

I've met a lot of people who grab others when they are excited about what they are talking about and things like that too, but as you said, usually people will stop and watch themselves closer if you let them know that it is bothering you. It seems to make people feel more included in the conversation, or they grab/touch when it looks like the other person is losing interest-things like that. But it does the opposite for me, lol... makes me want to run away.


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13 Oct 2009, 11:11 am

I like lip-kissing. Tongue-kissing is much better.


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