Anyone literally never leave the house?



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13 Dec 2009, 1:19 am

Any other reclusive Aspies? I live with my parents and if I sat and thought about it, could probably figure out how many hours total I've left the house in 2009, and a lot of those hours would be two one-week vacations or when I was going out/hanging out with this woman for a few months. Other than that, I leave the house for maybe 2-3 hours a week, to shop, get a haircut once a month. I basically live on my mom's cooking and this delivery place, so no need to go out to eat. And the funny thing is, if we were living in a bigger house, and I was living in one of those attachments with a compatible girlfriend, I wouldn't want anything else in my life.

My NT extroverted friend says he doesn't understand how I don't need any company in my life other than my parents and brother and how I don't need to leave the house, but the computer is my life, along with playing my guitar when I feel like it. On the computer, I can listen to music, go on this forum, look at pictures of beautiful women. There's nothing out there for me other than misunderstandings and ridicule.

Anyone else a complete recluse and not mind it?



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13 Dec 2009, 1:32 am

I am comparable to what you said except I workout at a gym that is close to my house and open 24-7, so I can go when there isn't many people 2-3 times a week. I also have several nice cars I can drive so staying at home isn't out of convenience.



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13 Dec 2009, 1:53 am

*raises hand*

I only go out when I have to go shopping or when I'm obligated to somewhere (ie: volunteer work that isn't really voluntary). My mom cuts my hair and cooks, so there's no reason for me to go anywhere.



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13 Dec 2009, 1:54 am

Well, how old are you? There was a period of time when I was 16 and 17 that I'd never want to leave the house. But as I grew older, I realized that I hated being sedate, and finally moved out when I was 19. Heck, even in my apartment, I go crazy if I stay in for too long. I have to and want to get out to work, go to class, work out, just walk, take a ride, have a beer, get a taco, whatever.

Even if I don't socialize much, my life is incomplete without breathing the outside air.



13 Dec 2009, 2:18 am

It's impossible to not leave my apartment. I have to leave to get food and things I need.



I am too lazy to go out and do things. I am always having to force myself to get things done. I still need to buy my husband socks for Christmas and get my friend a Blazers flag. Plus I am obsessed about money.



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13 Dec 2009, 2:43 am

I used to go out places, I used to have "confidence"
aka stupidity and trusted too much and ran tinto
bad strangers and bad people.

I now stay at home with my brother and
nly go out to get groceries or eat or
visit firends/gfamily that I can trust.

I never go anywhere without my brother.


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13 Dec 2009, 4:15 am

I wish I could...



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13 Dec 2009, 4:21 am

I'm wondering, for people that stay at home and don't work, how do you sustain yourself? I don't mean it in an offensive way at all, I'm just curious. Like, how do you get money to pay bills/rent/utilities/buy food?



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13 Dec 2009, 5:22 am

very reclusive.


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13 Dec 2009, 5:28 am

Re: I'm wondering, for people that stay at home and don't work, how do you sustain yourself? I don't mean it in an offensive way at all, I'm just curious. Like, how do you get money to pay bills/rent/utilities/buy food?

I live off of SSI disability from comorbid temporal lobe epilepsy. I tried to live seperate from my parents, and not on the streets, to try to learn NT social skills at the university dormitory, but my parents' income level disqualified me from the dormitory, and I commuted from my parents' home. All that I accomplished with street jobs and my magna cum laude degree was I voided my disability under my parents' Social Security, and Federal jobs under outstanding scholar programs were denied to me because of my lack of verbal social skills. When I filed suit under the American with Disabilities Act/Rehab (ADA), the Feds changed their excuse to a "lack of motivation." So I discovered the ADA was a joke, and I still live with my parents with separate rent and "household," and I only leave the house about once a week walking now. To top that off, my neurologist told me I should try for a more social and independent life, while my regular doctors have called the police on me twice because I was endangering my health by walking to their office about a mile distant in bad weather during the past 12 months. So leaving my house is dangerous and undesirable in all kind of ways.

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13 Dec 2009, 5:50 am

I prefer to hardly ever go out as well. I’ve always been like that. As a kid I’d only be out when my parents sent me out in my preschool days, and in my school days I only went out to attend school. In the weekends and vacations I very seldom left home.

I don’t have a job, so I don’t have to go out regularly, and I don’t. Sometimes shopping needs to be done, or I have to see my doctor/psychiatrist or maybe take a pet to the vet, but other than such things, I stay at home. Because that’s where I wanna be, that’s where I have all that I need, my interests. I can easily stay in for months at a time, and I never go out because I wish to, only because I have to.

I have an extremely reclusive, introvert and hypoactive personality.

If I could spend the rest of my life being at home with my interests and never think of money, I'd be a very happy camper.


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13 Dec 2009, 6:06 am

Skilpadde wrote:
If I could spend the rest of my life being at home with my interests and never think of money, I'd be a very happy camper.

Ah yes, that's the dream. If only there was a way to do that without being a leech to society, I'd jump at the opportunity. As would many, I imagine.



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13 Dec 2009, 6:25 am

I didn't step outside of the house for a few years several ago.... Culminated in a mental breakdown and hospital stay for some time.

I'm always outside now though; I like being outdoors.



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13 Dec 2009, 7:02 am

Yeah I love being outside... the four walls can close in a bit too much.

Sometimes I need to be alone for a few months, so I try and find a cheap place to live in rural Wales here in the UK, halfway up a mountain somewhere. Virtually no human contact. Then I just roam around until I'm done thinking....



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13 Dec 2009, 7:02 am

I leave home to do the things I need to do-work,shop,errands,appointments. That wipes me out. I don't socialize so I don't leave for that, unless it's a family gathering and then I'm only really comfortable if it's immediate family. Occasionally I'll go out for some solitary outdoor activity. It is good to be out in nature. It reorients me to what is really real.


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