Anyone literally never leave the house?

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22 May 2010, 6:11 am

I rarely stay in the house all day. I just dont wanna be staring at a laptop/TV all day.



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22 May 2010, 8:04 am

I go out for necessary things since I work and am self-sufficient. I will also go out on occasion for my own enjoyment, usually to a park at an early time to avoid being distracted by other people. My anxieties are greatly mitigated if I´m with another person I noticed. The level of anxiety is also something that tends to fluctuate on it´s own, I haven´t figured out why just yet.

If I ever met someone like-minded I would probably go out with that person a lot, that would probably do a lot to lift my depression. I can´t be with normal people though - there´s no resonance and can actually increase my depression.



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02 Jun 2010, 1:05 pm

Hello. Nice to meet you. My name is Kim.

I don't like to leave the house. If I didn't have to go get groceries twice a month, I would never leave. I wasn't always like this but I didn't like it when I had to be out in the workplace and around people. People drain me terribly and their energy exhausts me. I can't stand to go to Wal-Mart. I'd rather pay higher prices somewhere else than to go in there. The only way I can explain it is that it seems like Mexican jumping beans or corn being popped. It's just all over the place and it drives me insane.

I don't like bright lights, I like it darker. Not completely dark but I like overcast days much better. I don't like loud noises. Someone is mowing right now and I wish they would stop. It sounds like they are mowing right against my window even though it is at another house, not mine.

I'm very good at being a mimic. I can 'act' like I am normal and it was a lot easier when I was younger because my parents said I was the 'pretty' girl and they grew me up to be pretty. Pretty = dumb. That's easy to pretend. I was good in school because I could memorize things. I wasn't good at Algebra, though. I much preferred journalism or something like that. It's easier to get away with being different and hiding it when you're pretty because that's all people tend to notice during younger years. But the older I get, the less I want to continue to 'act' or 'mimic' so I stay home where I can be myself. I'm 44 now and if I never wear make-up again it won't be soon enough. I hate it. It's so stupid. I've stayed home, for the most part, for the past five years.

I don't know what is wrong with me or what is right with me. I have thought all of these years that I'm different. Weird. I can't fit in. I can pretend to fit in, depending on the circumstances but inside I don't feel like I do. I feel like everyone else around me is normal and I'm not.

The mowing stopped. Much better.

I like to have deep discussions about supernatural things and paranormal things. I like to have what I consider to be deep thoughts and discussions. Most people don't like to talk about those things. They like regular chatter and that bores me.

I signed on here because I noticed a lot of you stay home and I do, too. I wonder if there is ANYONE out there who understands me. If I knew there was something medically wrong with me or if I was off somehow, well, we could fix that or maybe not fix it but at least I might be able to understand it more.

Right now I'm still a fish out of water.

Thank you for letting me talk.



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02 Jun 2010, 1:07 pm

I was a hermit for several years. I had social anxiety, among other things. Now I get out a bit more, usually once a day, for at least a little while. May all you shut ins find happiness, either indoors or out.


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02 Jun 2010, 1:25 pm

therange wrote:
My NT extroverted friend says he doesn't understand how I don't need any company in my life .......

Anyone else a complete recluse and not mind it?


I don't understand why so many people DO need company... and so much of it too.

Good thread question.

Apart from work, vacations and eating out with my family, I'd be quite happy staying within the boundaries of my property.


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12 Jul 2010, 12:30 am

kramnrublaw wrote:
I am in the same boat. I am a 27 year old male. I live with my parents and I have only left the house a handful times in the last year. That was only to go to the liquor store. I avoid ANY human contact. I time my sleep schedule so I am awake when my parents are asleep and vice-versa. I have severe social anxiety and cannot be around others. I want to be suicidal, but have not reached that point, so I do other things to shorten my lifespan. I drink heavily, I barely move ( my feet are constantly cold and have no feeling in my feet) and I started eating unhealthy foods. Anything I can do to shorten my life. I was diagnosed with aspie as a child, but still believe that it was misdiagnosed. The doctor I saw over a year ago said I have severe social anxiety. I used to have a job that paid over 50k (US) a year. I had a girlfriend and friends. I had a 1650 square foot apartment in midtown Kansas City, MO. I had a decent life. I had to give all of that up because of social anxiety.

This seems very odd to me. As a sufferer of social anxiety disorder I would bet that keeping all those assets you said you had would be the easy part. Acquiring them is the difficult part. I see SAD as being mainly a problem of acquisition, but once passing that threshold, everything should be fine. So I assume that all of which you had was probably given to you. Perhaps even on a silver platter?
Not trying to be rude, just curious, due to what seems to me to be anomalous.



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12 Jul 2010, 11:11 am

I have to leave my house. I go for walks and I work.



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12 Jul 2010, 12:18 pm

I'm another recluse. If society didn't exist then I might go out and see the outdoors sometimes, but given the circumstances that would undoubtedly be extremely unpleasant.



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12 Jul 2010, 12:30 pm

I only go out to go to work.


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12 Jul 2010, 1:32 pm

While I used to go out by myself to places and occasionally with people, I seen to be becoming more recluse by the day. It wouldn't be so bad if I had more things to interest myself. I spend a lot of time thinking I should do so and so, which could be something like reading a book, but I'll talk myself out of it before I do, so I'm basically stuck on the fence. I think that I've just been depressed for so long that I have lost what it was that gave me pleasure.



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12 Jul 2010, 8:57 pm

Years ago I suddenly stopped hanging out with my friends because they got too into drugs. After that I was really depressed and didn't go out for a year. I never bothered making new friends and I go outside maybe once a month now. It's not so bad.



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13 Jul 2010, 3:33 am

I rarely leave my house for two reasons.. hardly no friends as i cant socialise easily and two.. my special interests and my need to do them overtakes my life..and they are things i do indoors.

Last time i left my house was over a week back and that was to go to a medical appointment. I can go weeks without leaving my house (if i dont have any appointments).

i dont fear people so its not social anxiety stopping me from leaving the house.. when a rare opportunity comes up in which i can get out with aquantences (my issue is i cant drive). i do get lonely at times (but find people very hard to be around!! and usualy dont stay in their presence for long on the rare occassions i leave the house).

Fortunately i currently have a boyfriend..who visits me once or twice a week... and he's my people contact to the rest of the world (other than me communicating by online forums).



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13 Jul 2010, 3:48 am

I go a little nutty if I don't leave the house. But not because I need to see people, I just need the fresh air to stay sane.


The weather doesn't matter, I'll go out if its hailing.



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13 Jul 2010, 3:35 pm

I rarely leave the house. I used to go outside almost everyday when I was a kid, but I just feel awkward now.

I still live with my parents. I don't really know how to go about getting a job because I only have an 8th grade education and I don't even know how to go anywhere by myself without getting lost.



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13 Jul 2010, 8:56 pm

I have to get out of the house or else I'll go crazy. :jester:


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13 Jul 2010, 11:22 pm

Nah, I HATE just staying in the house. I have a small apt. so it drives me nuts. I go to work and run errands but, on the weekends, I tend to stay in. After about a month of not going out on the weekends I'm done. I feel a need to socialize now more than when I was younger.