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AspicViper
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09 Jan 2007, 8:23 pm

Terrible. Probably because I do not care for people. I am also one of the most confrontational people you would ever meet. I do not need friends. I am my own friend. "Friends" just sort of get in the way for me and no one is ever intrested in the same things I am to the degre I am.



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09 Jan 2007, 9:23 pm

I lack eye contact. I almost fear looking into peoples eyes, especially where they are talking about me, or punishing me.
I can't carry on a conversation, or end one.
I am great at making presentations though.



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09 Jan 2007, 11:13 pm

They are ok sometimes, but most of the time they are pretty sh!tty. I usually just don't say anything or talk to anyone unless I feel that I know people well enough to have a conversation(which is tough because few people fit that description). I am getting better though, I think I say less distrubing/innapropriate things than I used to. :D



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10 Jan 2007, 3:00 pm

I think they're ok, but definitely not perfect or even average. Let's just say I don't use social skills much.


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13 Jan 2007, 4:58 am

I am very quiet when i am around people I am not comfortable with. and with the ones I am comfortable with. I say dumb stuff all the time.

Email and IM have become my favorite way of talking to friends. but it doesnt help me develop proper skills for real life. Typing skills maybe, communication and behavior skills..no.

my social skills are not good. which is why i avoid being social as much as i can. including family stuff. i just go to my room when people are over. when i am at a friends i just ask to go home when i feel uncomfortable around them or there's too much stimilation.
I dont want to be rude and say, I dont want to be here, but sometimes there's too much going on that it becomes confusing. and overwhelming. so then I just nicely say. I think it's time for me to go or can you give me a ride home.



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24 Jan 2007, 11:51 pm

my short-term social skills are okay... i watch enough tv shows and stuff to have a basic idea of how i'm "supposed" to act..but in the long term, i can never keep any friends.



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25 Jan 2007, 5:23 pm

My social skills have improved somewhat since middle school (when I first learned I had AS). It used to be that I could not make eye contact with anyone I did not know, but that is not the case anymore. When I was in elementary and middle school, I had a lot of trouble maintaining eye contact. It made me feel very uncomfortable. However, now I have no problem with it; I can tolerate it with most people.



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26 Jan 2007, 12:40 pm

Depends.

With people i have known for a long time, it is how an NT would socialise.

With people i am friends with, but have not known for a while, not perfect, but nothing too bad.

With people i hadly speak to, don't know at all, or am intimidated by. Pretty much terrible. Sometimes, i am just silent unless one of them speaks directly to me.



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26 Jan 2007, 4:41 pm

When I was younger, I didn't have many social skills... but that's different now.

I noticed that I can make friends more easily now, while when I was younger, it was a hard thing to do.

I also noticed that I'm more 'courageous' now. When a teacher wants to say something because I did something wrong, I can look him straight in the eyes. Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey! :)


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28 Jan 2007, 1:14 am

Mine are good.

I'm a very social person, so it helps.


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28 Jan 2007, 8:12 pm

Depends on the situation.
At work I know what to do but in social situations i don't know what to say.Or i talk too fast and trip over my words.



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06 Feb 2007, 10:30 am

I screw up friendships. When I don't talk, people think that either I'm stuck up or I just don't like them. I can't think of the right things to say, my mind goes blank and the few that know me say that I'm just "bashful".



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07 Feb 2007, 6:57 pm

When it comes to one on one conversations I can handle it. When it becomes lot more than one on one I will try my hardest to keep eye contact on who ever is talking but when two talk at once to me dang its hard.


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07 Feb 2007, 8:41 pm

I never understood what I was doing wrong. I always seemed to make people feel uncomfortable. What I've learned is skills to make it easier. I just say what I want; sometimes it's screwed up...but I just call myself a goof and change the subject.

I think people can sense when someone is messed up inside; it makes them feel uncomfortable and so they pick on aspies. I was always picked on in school and always felt like an outsider. Although, I never felt like I was messed up....just that I couldn't understand whey people were so mean. I never hurt anyone intentionally. I always was just waiting for something to happen, or something to say. Like I should be doing something.

It get's easier as time goes by. Maybe it's because people learn to accept others as they get older. Everyone goofs up somehow. They just don't like to think it's possible. Don't get me wrong; I still have the same feelings sometimes. Uncomfortable in groups, suspicuos, non-trusting, etc.

When I read through all the other posts; I feel better. Like, I"m not so strange or alone. Thank you.

What a good place.



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18 Feb 2007, 8:15 pm

I can't say zero because I speak English fluently. Nevertheless, on a scale of 0-100, my social skills are probably a 5. No friends for almost 2 decades. I can't even connect with people online. None of my therapists can tolerate me. They've told me pretty much to f**k off. My first instinct was to give myself a 1, but I gave myself 4 extra points just to be generous to myself. Really, my social skills are at almost absolute zero. I can't get anyone to f*****g like me. No one no one no one no one!! !!



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18 Feb 2007, 9:48 pm

I have the social skills of an empty bottle.