Why do people ignore me when other NTs are around?
Always hated that many ppl do not listen to my suggestion on things. My word has no value on the outcome of things in life ussually. I hate having groups any bigger than three because then i go to the sidelines on the conversation, i think it is because it take me to long to make a good reply.
This pretty much. I'm quiet because I'm well too aware of how I have appeared rude in the past for butting in or saying something inappropriate. If you go back years and years ago I would not have not only not talked to people I wouldn't even hang around them.
I find that people don't always listen to me and talk amongst each other. Actually since hearing damage in the left eardrum I've not cared as much. It takes me even longer to understand what someone has said.
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Are you one of those quiet types?
Yes, I'm quiet and find verbal conversation difficult unless it's family or a really close friend I'm talking to. Others probably interpret this as me being weird. Or worse, when I decide to join in the conversation, I mess up, and they think I must not the "sharpest knife in the drawer".
One of my professors told me he thought I had schizophrenia before I told him I had AS. He used to be a psychiatric social worker and many of his patients were schizophrenics.
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like attracts like?
I don't know but it's that way with me too I think. It depends, though, I have experienced people out there that like me. And when I am around cynical people like me I have a good time. But around NT, like my family, they tolerate me, they humor me, they throw each other the side-eye, but I never feel I fit in. And they don't 'get' my humor at all. My sister actually 'got' a joke of mine the other day for the first time in our lives I think. Her ex- husband is civilian labor in Afghanistan and he's home & taking her to the beach w/ their daughter...she said, it is going to be so weird going to the beach and I don't know if he will want me there and I said, just wait, if he thinks dealing with the Taliban is hard wait til he has to take care of a two-year old. I wish I had a camera to capture the look of shock on her face when it hit her that what I said actually made sense in a funny way. It was so funny watching her process that. Because most of the time they treat me like I have two heads.
I have this friend at work that I'm around quite often and I'd say 90% of the time its like I might as be a wall. They don't look at me, speak to me, nothing. But they give my friend their undivided attention. In a way I like to just kind of be a fly on the wall and not be noticed, but in another I find it insulting. This happens almost every time when a female is present. And its not like he's a great looking guy. To be quite honest I look much better then him.....but still. I'm ignored and thats that. Maybe its cause I look like a bald hitman or something........
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