Do you not like that we show emotion differently?
I think it's not so much that we display emotion differently (laughing at something funny), it's that our emotions don't seem to prioritize themselves like NTs do. So we have to suppress funny stray thoughts in inappropriate situations, whereas for them the appropriate
dominant emotion automatically blocks funny, stray thoughts.
Lots and lots of women cry when they're angry or frustrated, it's a common response. Irritating as hell, because one wants to be taken seriously and it just makes one more murderous to feel undermined by our own body. But every woman I know does this, NT and AS alike. Except when we move into 'cold blooded killer' mode... the ice in the voice, the low even tone, the still rigid body.
Lots and lots of women cry when they're angry or frustrated, it's a common response. Irritating as hell, because one wants to be taken seriously and it just makes one more murderous to feel undermined by our own body. But every woman I know does this, NT and AS alike. Except when we move into 'cold blooded killer' mode... the ice in the voice, the low even tone, the still rigid body.
Haha, yeah, I have gotten into that mode sometimes. My mind seems to sharpen in then, so I can be very precise and sarcastic in my arguments. My husband once told me that when I argue I'm never irrational, but rather hyper-rational.
And it's common for men to accuse women of being manipulative when we start to cry because they can't handle it... it's not about us, it's about them.
Next time he pulls that stunt, tell him to learn to deal with it or go gay... this is how women are, we hate it, and if he keeps making baseless accusations, he's liable to wake up one morning with his penis superglued to his belly.
THAT oughta manipulate him, by golly!
Interesting topic...on more than one occasion when my husband and I have argued, I've laughed. One time I was trying to pull the car out of the driveway, misjudged and hit the house. The fender got ripped apart, and of course he wasn't happy. As he was yelling about the car, I had to keep looking down at the ground because I was smiling and laughing. This happened again recently. It doesn't matter what the fight's about - if someone's yelling at me, I'm gonna laugh. It's annoying, because I know it's not the appropriate response, but it happens anyway.
I wonder if this laughing reponse to other's anger is some sort of distorted "appeasement grimace", which in primates serves to show one is not a threat.
I, on the other hand, try to reason with angry people(it's only a fender, the airbags didn't deploy, it won't be that hard to fix, settle down, no need to yell so the whole neighborhood can hear you). Even though I KNOW that angry people don't want to be reasonable, they want to be angry and RIGHT. It's another good way to get yourself hated.
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I dislike that I show emotions differently because lots of people assume I'm mad, sad, upset, ect when I'm not & when something goes wrong for someone; they assume I'm psychotic because I apparently do not display the correct emotion. Some people are afraid of me & assume I'm dangerous
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facial expression but maybe I do not show grief either? As a kid I would
smile at inappriate times, I could not seem to help it, actually at times
as a kid could not control my laughter, think I use to really look touched.
I sure do not laugh much now, but might piss people off by not being able to
show the right expressions.
I think I have a bit to learn. Things are starting to come clear tho.
I can't show being happy because it rather tires me out. It hurts to smile. Weird, but it just does. Like my face gets tired.
I laugh at odd times, too. I've gotten better at controlling it, but many times I'm in danger of bursting out in laughter at the most innappropriate times and places.
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I, on the other hand, try to reason with angry people(it's only a fender, the airbags didn't deploy, it won't be that hard to fix, settle down, no need to yell so the whole neighborhood can hear you). Even though I KNOW that angry people don't want to be reasonable, they want to be angry and RIGHT. It's another good way to get yourself hated.
That's an interesting theory. Very interesting indeed.
Yeah....I've done that too....it actually didn't occur to me that I do that until I read this...I guess I kinda go into a fog when people are getting upset so I haven't noticed, lol.
I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who does this.
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