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23 Aug 2010, 6:45 pm

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if there's no will for a long life commitment like marriage or forming a family then there's no point of starting a serious relationship in the first place.

It's either black or white , that's what I think. Grays are stupid ....grays have no sense.


Either you live on one night stands and escorts (so just sex) or you either try to be with someone in a long long (with no time restriction, until further notice) commitment.

Casual relationships for weeks , months and even for few years are useless.


why? seems to me like

a friend + a sex partner = WIN


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24 Aug 2010, 3:55 pm

I hadn't read what hyperlexian has written before going to the place I found this but this very much backs it up. A casual relationship is defined elsewhere on the Internet as "friendships between people who enjoy each other's physical intimacy". So I maintain that casual relationships aren't useless but in fact could be useful to satisfy the desires/urges/drive of both people involved without there being any complications or stress - basically a simple, stress-free cure for being horny! That is why I find the idea appealing.

Friend + sex partner = win win!

This will probably get moved to Adult now that I've said that! :lol:



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24 Aug 2010, 4:04 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
if there's no will for a long life commitment like marriage or forming a family then there's no point of starting a serious relationship in the first place.

It's either black or white , that's what I think. Grays are stupid ....grays have no sense.


Either you live on one night stands and escorts (so just sex) or you either try to be with someone in a long long (with no time restriction, until further notice) commitment.

Casual relationships for weeks , months and even for few years are useless.


why? seems to me like

a friend + a sex partner = WIN


No, it's pointless .....how this would end up?



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24 Aug 2010, 4:14 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
if there's no will for a long life commitment like marriage or forming a family then there's no point of starting a serious relationship in the first place.

It's either black or white , that's what I think. Grays are stupid ....grays have no sense.


Either you live on one night stands and escorts (so just sex) or you either try to be with someone in a long long (with no time restriction, until further notice) commitment.

Casual relationships for weeks , months and even for few years are useless.


why? seems to me like

a friend + a sex partner = WIN


No, it's pointless .....how this would end up?

how is it pointless? please explain.


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24 Aug 2010, 4:32 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
if there's no will for a long life commitment like marriage or forming a family then there's no point of starting a serious relationship in the first place.

It's either black or white , that's what I think. Grays are stupid ....grays have no sense.


Either you live on one night stands and escorts (so just sex) or you either try to be with someone in a long long (with no time restriction, until further notice) commitment.

Casual relationships for weeks , months and even for few years are useless.


why? seems to me like

a friend + a sex partner = WIN


No, it's pointless .....how this would end up?

how is it pointless? please explain.



Simple , because one might fall for the other while the other might not , this is the typical scenario of sex buddies. One night stands or escort will provide the sexual pleasure without this risk of emotional attachment.


And I can't see what the point in starting something which its end is pre-determined after x period of time.

Most relationships might fail after x period of time because s**t happens , but at least they usually come to the end when the two don't love each others anymore .

In f**k friendship, you might love him , you might become so attached to him , yet you know that he will leave you for another girl after some x period because this was the agreement . After he leaves you , he will start telling you his sex stories with the new girls ....because ...f*** , he's your best friend too.

Sex buddies is the worst type of casual relationships.



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24 Aug 2010, 4:59 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
if there's no will for a long life commitment like marriage or forming a family then there's no point of starting a serious relationship in the first place.

It's either black or white , that's what I think. Grays are stupid ....grays have no sense.


Either you live on one night stands and escorts (so just sex) or you either try to be with someone in a long long (with no time restriction, until further notice) commitment.

Casual relationships for weeks , months and even for few years are useless.


why? seems to me like

a friend + a sex partner = WIN


No, it's pointless .....how this would end up?

how is it pointless? please explain.



Simple , because one might fall for the other while the other might not , this is the typical scenario of sex buddies. One night stands or escort will provide the sexual pleasure without this risk of emotional attachment.


And I can't see what the point in starting something which its end is pre-determined after x period of time.

Most relationships might fail after x period of time because sh** happens , but at least they usually come to the end when the two don't love each others anymore .

In f**k friendship, you might love him , you might become so attached to him , yet you know that he will leave you for another girl after some x period because this was the agreement . After he leaves you , he will start telling you his sex stories with the new girls ....because ...f*** , he's your best friend too.

Sex buddies is the worst type of casual relationships.

no, i disagree. people can break up even in a regular relationship, and that is no reason to avoid the relationship. same thing with FWB - one may fall for the other, and may not. but the plesure gained easily could outweigh the distant future possibility of mixed or changed emotion. plus, most people don't have a deadline in mind - a FWB situation could last for 40 years - you can't see the future or know how long it would last - generally it is not actually predetermined.

i'd say visiting a prostitute is the worst possible solution, but that is because, in my own opinion, i consider it a disgusting and horrible way to use another human being.


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24 Aug 2010, 5:09 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
if there's no will for a long life commitment like marriage or forming a family then there's no point of starting a serious relationship in the first place.

It's either black or white , that's what I think. Grays are stupid ....grays have no sense.


Either you live on one night stands and escorts (so just sex) or you either try to be with someone in a long long (with no time restriction, until further notice) commitment.

Casual relationships for weeks , months and even for few years are useless.


why? seems to me like

a friend + a sex partner = WIN


No, it's pointless .....how this would end up?

how is it pointless? please explain.



Simple , because one might fall for the other while the other might not , this is the typical scenario of sex buddies. One night stands or escort will provide the sexual pleasure without this risk of emotional attachment.


And I can't see what the point in starting something which its end is pre-determined after x period of time.

Most relationships might fail after x period of time because sh** happens , but at least they usually come to the end when the two don't love each others anymore .

In f**k friendship, you might love him , you might become so attached to him , yet you know that he will leave you for another girl after some x period because this was the agreement . After he leaves you , he will start telling you his sex stories with the new girls ....because ...f*** , he's your best friend too.

Sex buddies is the worst type of casual relationships.

no, i disagree. people can break up even in a regular relationship, and that is no reason to avoid the relationship. same thing with FWB - one may fall for the other, and may not. but the plesure gained easily could outweigh the distant future possibility of mixed or changed emotion. plus, most people don't have a deadline in mind - a FWB situation could last for 40 years - you can't see the future or know how long it would last - generally it is not actually predetermined.

i'd say visiting a prostitute is the worst possible solution, but that is because, in my own opinion, i consider it a disgusting and horrible way to use another human being.


I did not say the prostitute way is much better, I've never went to a prostitute even when I had many chances before. I am virgin btw.

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generally it is not actually predetermined.


Maybe not as an exact period of time, what's predetermined is the fate of this relationship, its end would be unavoidable.



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24 Aug 2010, 7:03 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
if there's no will for a long life commitment like marriage or forming a family then there's no point of starting a serious relationship in the first place.

It's either black or white , that's what I think. Grays are stupid ....grays have no sense.


Either you live on one night stands and escorts (so just sex) or you either try to be with someone in a long long (with no time restriction, until further notice) commitment.

Casual relationships for weeks , months and even for few years are useless.


why? seems to me like

a friend + a sex partner = WIN


No, it's pointless .....how this would end up?

how is it pointless? please explain.



Simple , because one might fall for the other while the other might not , this is the typical scenario of sex buddies. One night stands or escort will provide the sexual pleasure without this risk of emotional attachment.


And I can't see what the point in starting something which its end is pre-determined after x period of time.

Most relationships might fail after x period of time because sh** happens , but at least they usually come to the end when the two don't love each others anymore .

In f**k friendship, you might love him , you might become so attached to him , yet you know that he will leave you for another girl after some x period because this was the agreement . After he leaves you , he will start telling you his sex stories with the new girls ....because ...f*** , he's your best friend too.

Sex buddies is the worst type of casual relationships.

no, i disagree. people can break up even in a regular relationship, and that is no reason to avoid the relationship. same thing with FWB - one may fall for the other, and may not. but the plesure gained easily could outweigh the distant future possibility of mixed or changed emotion. plus, most people don't have a deadline in mind - a FWB situation could last for 40 years - you can't see the future or know how long it would last - generally it is not actually predetermined.

i'd say visiting a prostitute is the worst possible solution, but that is because, in my own opinion, i consider it a disgusting and horrible way to use another human being.


I did not say the prostitute way is much better, I've never went to a prostitute even when I had many chances before. I am virgin btw.

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generally it is not actually predetermined.


Maybe not as an exact period of time, what's predetermined is the fate of this relationship, its end would be unavoidable.

i don't think it is unavoidable. maybe even, the relationship could mtually evolve to something else.... or not. it could also stay the same.

but neither of us has any proof to back up our assertions of how it could or could not be successful!


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25 Aug 2010, 4:17 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
if there's no will for a long life commitment like marriage or forming a family then there's no point of starting a serious relationship in the first place.

It's either black or white , that's what I think. Grays are stupid ....grays have no sense.


Either you live on one night stands and escorts (so just sex) or you either try to be with someone in a long long (with no time restriction, until further notice) commitment.

Casual relationships for weeks , months and even for few years are useless.


why? seems to me like

a friend + a sex partner = WIN


No, it's pointless .....how this would end up?

how is it pointless? please explain.



Simple , because one might fall for the other while the other might not , this is the typical scenario of sex buddies. One night stands or escort will provide the sexual pleasure without this risk of emotional attachment.


And I can't see what the point in starting something which its end is pre-determined after x period of time.

Most relationships might fail after x period of time because sh** happens , but at least they usually come to the end when the two don't love each others anymore .

In f**k friendship, you might love him , you might become so attached to him , yet you know that he will leave you for another girl after some x period because this was the agreement . After he leaves you , he will start telling you his sex stories with the new girls ....because ...f*** , he's your best friend too.

Sex buddies is the worst type of casual relationships.

no, i disagree. people can break up even in a regular relationship, and that is no reason to avoid the relationship. same thing with FWB - one may fall for the other, and may not. but the plesure gained easily could outweigh the distant future possibility of mixed or changed emotion. plus, most people don't have a deadline in mind - a FWB situation could last for 40 years - you can't see the future or know how long it would last - generally it is not actually predetermined.

i'd say visiting a prostitute is the worst possible solution, but that is because, in my own opinion, i consider it a disgusting and horrible way to use another human being.


I did not say the prostitute way is much better, I've never went to a prostitute even when I had many chances before. I am virgin btw.

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generally it is not actually predetermined.


Maybe not as an exact period of time, what's predetermined is the fate of this relationship, its end would be unavoidable.

i don't think it is unavoidable. maybe even, the relationship could mtually evolve to something else.... or not. it could also stay the same.

but neither of us has any proof to back up our assertions of how it could or could not be successful!


ok , then let's try it you and me lol



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25 Aug 2010, 4:20 pm

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ok , then let's try it you and me lol

lol!! !! technically, we would need to be friends first, and we don't know each other. (plus i'm a teensy bit married heehee)


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25 Aug 2010, 4:54 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
if there's no will for a long life commitment like marriage or forming a family then there's no point of starting a serious relationship in the first place.

It's either black or white , that's what I think. Grays are stupid ....grays have no sense.


Either you live on one night stands and escorts (so just sex) or you either try to be with someone in a long long (with no time restriction, until further notice) commitment.

Casual relationships for weeks , months and even for few years are useless.


why? seems to me like

a friend + a sex partner = WIN


No, it's pointless .....how this would end up?

how is it pointless? please explain.



Simple , because one might fall for the other while the other might not , this is the typical scenario of sex buddies. One night stands or escort will provide the sexual pleasure without this risk of emotional attachment.


And I can't see what the point in starting something which its end is pre-determined after x period of time.

Most relationships might fail after x period of time because sh** happens , but at least they usually come to the end when the two don't love each others anymore .

In f**k friendship, you might love him , you might become so attached to him , yet you know that he will leave you for another girl after some x period because this was the agreement . After he leaves you , he will start telling you his sex stories with the new girls ....because ...f*** , he's your best friend too.

Sex buddies is the worst type of casual relationships.


Actually I agree that this is a major danger of FWB arrangements. It doesn't make them pointless in all cases. However, I do agree that this is a major emotional risk . I have never been in such a relationship and would never want to be precisely because of this risk.



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25 Aug 2010, 6:23 pm

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Actually I agree that this is a major danger of FWB arrangements. It doesn't make them pointless in all cases. However, I do agree that this is a major emotional risk . I have never been in such a relationship and would never want to be precisely because of this risk.
i am reluctant to post much of my own experiences on here, because it is publicly searchable. but i think in some cases it can work. it depends on the mindset i guess, and each person's current situation.


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