Using Aspergers as a crutch or excuse ??

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06 Feb 2012, 9:54 pm

Being a weakling got me out of cutting up my own food until I was 15.

And I still wish I had someone cut my steak for me. It's a task!


I do tend to avoid things that cause me trouble.



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06 Feb 2012, 9:58 pm

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When I do something wrong, I try harder and harder, until I get it right. I'm a fighter, and I want to show people, that I'm not the victim, that they want me to be.


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06 Feb 2012, 10:32 pm

Dan_Undiagnosed wrote:

In a very small way using an ASD as an excuse makes it that little bit harder for everyone else who comes into contact with some jerk who thinks people on the spectrum are excuse making quitters.


Nah, jerks are jerks who will think that anyway. Someone who says "this is harder for me because I'm autistic" isn't going to change their mind for the worst.



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06 Feb 2012, 10:51 pm

The only time I would be making an excuse is when I don't do something I'm able to do. I've not been able like that in a long time because of a small window of motivation and focus and the medication give me even more and I don't want to waste that time I am on it. When I can do it I will do it.

Maybe if I was purposely rude and blamed it on autism. But most time I am apologising and saying I didn't realise.

If I didn't want to socialise and people said I was using with autism as a crutch so I didn't have to but really I'm thinking about the last horrible experience and not wanting to go throw it again. Though I will still socialise despite the same thing happening over and over again.

I gets sensory overload if I walk down my own street but I must still do it. No one else will buy groceries for me or make me exercise.

Working with severe sensory issues and a medication that is not always reliable and needing regular meals every couple of hours and a break much longer than five minutes...sounds like a nightmare. But I'm always free (not literally - I need to make some money) to take photos of local bands and artists. Still got sensory issues but with the right supports in place I may be ok.

That's why I want to be a writer. Low sensory environment, don't have to deal with a lot of people. Can eat whenever I choose to.


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06 Feb 2012, 11:20 pm

TBH, eating and peeing whenever I choose to, and sitting on a comfortable chair, has had to have a part in my own academic 'choices' (or - lack thereof),


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06 Feb 2012, 11:24 pm

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TBH, eating and peeing whenever I choose to, and sitting on a comfortable chair, has had to have a part in my own academic 'choices' (or - lack thereof),

If that's sarcasm I don't understand why. I was talking about myself and my own executive dysfunction issues.


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06 Feb 2012, 11:29 pm

It's not. I should also add, I got sick a lot, and I like the privilege of not showing up when I'm sick. That used to worry me, but I 'get' how what I'm saying might not sound serious.


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28 May 2018, 4:55 pm

My ex is a prick and blamed his sh***y behavior on his diagnosis.
I sucked it up for a while.
Then I figured, that in actual fact he's just a selfish lazy liar.



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14 Jul 2018, 3:26 am

Hanotaux wrote:
I'm sure there is already a topic on this, but sometimes I feel like I use Aspergers as an excuse for life-failure.

I'm not sure if I'm a total failure in life, but what I mean is that I use Aspergers as an excuse for all sorts of things like not wanting to work and be productive and for dysfunction with my family............ stuff like that.

Instead of just shaping up and trying hard to succeed at different things in life, I just say "Aspergers" and hang my head down. Anytime I mess up, I just blame it on Aspergers, clumsiness, social-ineptness and all of that.


This is because you are a NT. You use anything as an excuse for your behavior. How boring.