Do you know any 'as*hole Aspies'?

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I have to keep reminding myself of that; sometimes I can be an awful hypocrite.

You will become just like the people who are mean to you. And then, if you complain about their meaness, you will be a hypocrite. That's how I was most of my life, and still often am. We have to try to remember that wise old saying "Two wrongs don't make a right."

I've only met one Aspie IRL, and I only learnt that he was one recently. The guy was kind of a jerk, though part of me wonders now if he was merely very blunt.

My friend who is also an aspie is an English teacher and he has a tendency to come off as a bit of a smartass to his students. However I doubt he would say that it's attributed to his AS. It's just in his personal nature.

If anything the worse kind of people I have to deal with are people who use their intellect as some kind of grand holy pedestal for themselves regardless of whether they're NT or an autie. They'll be quick to close off any other view or personalities as being stupid while they believe their personality or beliefs makes them more intellectually superior to others and some will really get nasty about it in your face too. Me being a girl I have to deal with this kind of stuff from guys all the time...especially those that dont have a lot of self esteem and thus use their intelligence as a crutch to hit people (especially girls) with.

I am guilty of this one.. it's one of my worst personality traits and I'm working hard to stop doing it. I am not however a male chauvinist, and I do not have any reason to believe either sex is more intelligent.

I try and be nice to people no matter what but when someone is mean to me, I tend to be mean back. I see it as self defense and I don't even care if I am seen as a bully or a bad person. I just think that person is stupid then and just as bad as that other person.

I don't even mention I have AS when something goes wrong. Like if someone got offended with what I said or a misunderstanding happened.

Exactly league girl. I don't even mention the AS unless it is absolutely necessary (IE: when talking to my healthcare professionals.). What I say is what I say, and as I have mentioned, making people all happy and s**t isn't in my personality. If they get offended they get offended. I won't apologize because apologies mean jack s**t, its just a waste of time. A large portion of my personality I feel definitely has developed due to what I feel as a response to society's BS social "dancing". I just feel society is far to inefficient to even improve itself, and I personally feel that my path is more time and energy efficient. not spouting facts, just merely opinions.

basically, the following phrases are a large part of me in response to behavior arguments anymore.

If it happened it happened.
Can't change what happened.
Why should I care?
If you don't like who I am, tough luck.


stuff like that, and variations thereof....

not apologizing for your actions could lead people to think you are an as*hole. if that bothers you, you already know what you can do to change it. it is doesn't bother you, then be prepared for people to treat you the same way, and you will have no recourse to ever complain about it.

I apologize anyway for offending even if I think I did nothing wrong. I guess because I do it to be nice and I want them to forget it and move on. If they don't, the apology was useless then and I wonder what is the point in apologizing if people like to hold grudges?

Last edited by League_Girl on 20 Oct 2010, 10:35 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Yep, I even coined a phrase to address it: "being an Aspie doesn't mean you aren't an as*hole", to describe people trying to lay of bad behavior on AS.

@ Hyperlexian: Its because I just feel apologies do nothing. Ive been in many situations where they have just pissed off and annoyed people even more. Yeah I know I get called an as*hole on occasions, and all I say to the person calling me one is, "s**t happens, no use bitching and moaning about it, might as well just move on with your life instead of whining about it." It gets to the point where sometimes I just call myself emotionally pragmatic. I don't let my own or anyone elses get in my way. I might 'lend' an ear though and "act" like I give a s**t, but I usually don't. What I do consider odd as hell is that friends, family, and even people ive known only a short time coming to me for relationship advice. I guess it could be because my advice has helped people, and they just spread the word. Its a bit weird how an ass like myself can be trusted to give people advice :/

@League_girl: As I said in my reply to hyperlexian, that is kinda why I don't appologize. Most people I personally know of or just been around don't really ever accept them. Of course, I've "grown up" in the coal regions, so we are all are a bit more like the aussies/irish/any other similar society. Around here its a bit of a cultural thing to just simply not give a s**t.

And I sometimes feel like giving up apologizing. Like I have said, what is the point if people don't move on? I sometimes think as*holes are sometimes created by society because of how people act and you get so sick of it, you decide enough and shut down and you get less nicer. One of them be not even apologizing anymore because you got so sick of people not moving on after you apologize. So you decide "that's it, I am done." Now you have become a jerk because of stupid people.

Basically.

brassholes come in all varieties.

What's a brasshole?