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Salome
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04 Dec 2010, 9:59 pm

I live in my own world which is all in my head. The problem with this is that I don't get anything done. I have many ideas and resources but I can't get out of my head and realize them! I'm not sure how to explain it. I'm stuck somehow, paralyzed. It's like I don't exist outside of my thoughts.Or is it the world that doesn't exist. Hm, sorry I can't explain it any better. Is there anyone out there that has the same problem and if so have you been able to make it better?



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04 Dec 2010, 10:08 pm

Yeah, Im with you on that too. I don't know how to make it better, I'm still working on it as I just found out Im an aspie. But yeah, I find it crippling. In my mind, Im capable of all these great things, but I think them through and they usually end up as a failure, dead end, or an excuse for not doing it. Somehow that world has become comfortable to me. Ill think up ideas of what I want to do as a career, a hobby, a girlfriend and it gets me happy and motivated for the time being. I think of how life would be with those things, they are ideal thoughts and I think them through to the end. So, since I know the result, I dont even try to do it, why should I, it wouldnt be an interesting journey.

Its like my mind does this so I dont put myself out there in the world. If I do this, I wont get hurt, I wont make mistakes. Im terrified of both of those things. I often get disappointed when I actually do attempt something only to find that its not even close to what I imagined. Ugh, I feel your pain. I too would like to know how to deal with this. It makes me feel like Im lazy and unmotivated.



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04 Dec 2010, 10:15 pm

Me too, I just get lost in thought so much of the time. A little aloof.



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04 Dec 2010, 10:26 pm

I think this is pretty standard for aspies. It's great to have a place full of similar people!



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04 Dec 2010, 10:42 pm

Salome wrote:
I live in my own world which is all in my head. The problem with this is that I don't get anything done. I have many ideas and resources but I can't get out of my head and realize them! I'm not sure how to explain it. I'm stuck somehow, paralyzed. It's like I don't exist outside of my thoughts.Or is it the world that doesn't exist. Hm, sorry I can't explain it any better. Is there anyone out there that has the same problem and if so have you been able to make it better?


I could have written your post. I'm the same.



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04 Dec 2010, 10:49 pm

Yes, I can relate to this. It's like I'm psychically paralyzed. It's very hard to explain to someone that you can't do something when logically there's no reason why you can't.



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05 Dec 2010, 1:17 am

I'm shocked! I never knew there were other people out there who felt like this!! !! Until I was diagnosed about a month ago I never even considered that I had Aspergers. I've spent my life feeling like I'm a lazy,no good looser. I can't even begin to express how much your replies mean to me . Some of you explained it so much better than me :lol: . I do wish there were something to be done though, I'm already 33 and going nowhere.



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05 Dec 2010, 1:45 am

Salome wrote:
I live in my own world which is all in my head. The problem with this is that I don't get anything done. I have many ideas and resources but I can't get out of my head and realize them! I'm not sure how to explain it. I'm stuck somehow, paralyzed. It's like I don't exist outside of my thoughts.Or is it the world that doesn't exist. Hm, sorry I can't explain it any better. Is there anyone out there that has the same problem and if so have you been able to make it better?


Let me see if I understand. You have thoughts, ideas and intentions in your head, and somewhere in the back of your head you have an idea how to do them, but you can't quite articulate it, much like, one might be able to "see" the presidents face in their mind, and knows how to draw an accurate portrait of the president, and one knows how to use a paper and pencil, yet despite this, the person cannot draw an accurate portrait of the president.

So in your head, you have thoughts and ideas but they are stuck in your head because either you are lacking some aspect involved in being able to implement them.

And perhaps in some instances you do know how to implement them but still don't because the part of your brain that initializes the process does not get the command to do so.

Is that correct?



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05 Dec 2010, 2:24 am

I know how you feel. Most of the time I'm inside my autsitic world....And it takes forever to just get back to reality....



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05 Dec 2010, 3:07 am

Yes. Relate to this 100%. If I did even 1/10 of the grand ideas I've thought through in my head I'd probably contribute something useful to this world, but for some reason I have great difficulty realizing any of them. I even signed up for a lifecoach but found the coaching was superficial and expensive. Not sure what else to do.



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05 Dec 2010, 3:10 am

I know how you feel. I have this rich inner world, but I find it very difficult to express to other people. I feel like I can't write stories about my imagination because there isn't a linear plot to it- it's mostly feelings and ideas about characters rather than a concrete story about them. I also attempt to express my imagination through artwork, but even though my artwork is decent, it really doesn't do the beauty of my imagination justice.

My mom once suggested that maybe I'm having trouble expressing my inner world to people because I subconsciously don't want to share it with anyone; that my imagination is such a private and special thing to me that I don't want anyone else to have a good idea of what it's like in there.



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05 Dec 2010, 4:58 am

Chronos wrote:
Salome wrote:
I live in my own world which is all in my head. The problem with this is that I don't get anything done. I have many ideas and resources but I can't get out of my head and realize them! I'm not sure how to explain it. I'm stuck somehow, paralyzed. It's like I don't exist outside of my thoughts.Or is it the world that doesn't exist. Hm, sorry I can't explain it any better. Is there anyone out there that has the same problem and if so have you been able to make it better?


Let me see if I understand. You have thoughts, ideas and intentions in your head, and somewhere in the back of your head you have an idea how to do them, but you can't quite articulate it, much like, one might be able to "see" the presidents face in their mind, and knows how to draw an accurate portrait of the president, and one knows how to use a paper and pencil, yet despite this, the person cannot draw an accurate portrait of the president.

So in your head, you have thot involved in being able to implement them.

And perhaps in some instances you do know how to implement them but still don't because the part of your brain that initializes the process does not get the command to do so.
ughts and ideas but they are stuck in your head because either you are lacking some aspec
Is that correct?


Yes sort of. I think it's a combination of my brain not getting the signal and there being something missing in order to implement them but I also have the same problem as Rudi described . Thinking things through with all the pudding ( I mean I now what is going to happen) and therefore the journey is not interesting.



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05 Dec 2010, 6:10 am

Salome wrote:
I live in my own world which is all in my head. The problem with this is that I don't get anything done. I have many ideas and resources but I can't get out of my head and realize them! I'm not sure how to explain it. I'm stuck somehow, paralyzed. It's like I don't exist outside of my thoughts.Or is it the world that doesn't exist. Hm, sorry I can't explain it any better. Is there anyone out there that has the same problem and if so have you been able to make it better?


Welcome to the world of Aspergers. This is pretty much what autism is but Aspies have a varying ability to break out of our boxes and deal with what is outside. I am lucky in that I have a wife who can reach inside my box and draw me out into the world, and I have kids who can engage with me and also draw me out into the land of the living. Without them I'd be stuck inside my own brain.

I descibe it as being stuck in a glass box. I can see the world but don't feel it. The world is just wallpaper to me.



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05 Dec 2010, 7:11 am

spacecadetdave wrote:
The world is just wallpaper to me.


this...is very well said. The world feels flat to me. And the lack of connection between my 3D world , inside my head, where things DO happen, and outside, where things "look like they happen", is causing major trouble for me too.
I have also had that feeling of: doing something in my head, in order to be prepared when the time comes to do it in real life, and feel a if it has been done already, i know how to do it now, i don't need to actually move my body and do it to know what will happen. so i lose interrest.
Sometimes i ask myself if that's not the thing we truly share with non verbal low functionning autistic people.



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05 Dec 2010, 9:04 am

I'm practically in my own world literally 80% of the times and it does get to the point where it affects what is around me, I even starved myself which was even worse but also because there was something going on in the summer and reflecting too much on my past.

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