How did you or your aspie child survive high school

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04 Jan 2012, 2:05 am

Small, excellent private school, where everyone knew everyone else (teachers, students). Would have been eaten alive at a public school.



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04 Jan 2012, 2:11 am

I ended up getting one close friend from doing wrestling my junior year but otherwise I played videogames and read



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04 Jan 2012, 5:24 pm

It was a great learning experience.

> People are manipulative when they get the chance
> People do not feel empathy/guilt/remorse
> If you smile a lot, make lots of hand gestures, and do very sarcastic/dry wit jokes, people are drawn to you



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04 Jan 2012, 6:35 pm

Played truant a lot, hardly ever did my homework (Im a serial procrastinator unfortunately), drifted from friend to friend until they got sick of me. At times when I was between friends I spent my breaks either in the library, in the art labs or hiding in the toilets. Still managed to pass with more GCSEs than a lot of the people in my year, much to the annoyance of my teachers who I suspect were hoping to use me as an example of what happens when you dont put the work in. Showed them 8)

I wasnt diagnosed till my 20s though, I wish I could go back to secondary school now, armed with a little more knowledge about myself and what I want and actually make an effort



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04 Jan 2012, 9:14 pm

I avoided people as much as possible.

I visited a classmate's house four times in four years. Three times for class assignments (no choice there), and once when two well-meaning acquaintances almost literally dug me out of my home and into theirs to try to make me socialize with them. Heh. :wink:

These were not really upsetting experiences. I simply did not know how to relate to my neurotypical peers and found the whole situation quite amusing as I tried to understand their chit-chat and petty drama.

Once I began university, I discovered people more like myself and began "hanging out" more often as my social skills improved.



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04 Jan 2012, 9:16 pm

I joined in the crowd that accepts anyone who wants in regardless of who they are. Drug addicts :P



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04 Jan 2012, 10:07 pm

Music got me though High School mostly, honestly, I got easier as the years went on. I vivdiy remember listening to "We gonna make it" by Jadakiss and sometimes songs from awesome Rocky movies over the years to give me the motivation to go out in the harsh world and do what needs to be done.

The loaner issue was the biggest thing to tackle in HS, Gym and the actual school work isn't far behind.


Also, my special interests.



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05 Jan 2012, 2:38 am

I endured it until year 11, then left and went to an adult education school (imagine a TAFE for highschool). Glad it's over now.



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05 Jan 2012, 1:41 pm

It's actually kind of funny that the only four things I actually learned back in High School was...

1. How to fight and win.
2. Where to get good, black tar heroin. (Not that brown powdery s**t)
3. How to make black tar heroin injectable.
4. Which veins to use so people don't see the holes.

Some real good life skills I learned in those 4 years.



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05 Jan 2012, 7:46 pm

I dropped out of high school after a period of school refusal, mostly over stress - I could not cope in a school anymore, I was profoundly unhappy in this environment.


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05 Jan 2012, 11:10 pm

I never talked to anyone and just looked intimidating to warn off bullies and the like. I have no friends but I didn't suffer through high school! I also willingly joined an alternative high school so weird people were the norm there, it felt great actually.



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06 Jan 2012, 5:22 am

i was lucky enough to be enrolled in a very small private high school. 30 students at most in one classroom. Had the same classmate from 1st year to 4th year. 10 minutes of walking from house to school. They also know my dad is in the police force so some decided to leave me alone most of the time. The problem started though during my college years. My mom wants me to enroll in big universities and I did. I have to be independent and live in a dorm. That's when my being different really became apparent. I was stupid to think that if i force myself to be people friendly like joining org and attending those parties my social awkwardness will just disappear. The only thing it did to me is to literally drain away my energy until i could no longer take it and just dropped out. I was diagnosed as clinically depressed which doesnt make sense but i accepted it anyway. So what i did is to just enroll to the community branch of a university. I was giddy when i found out that the number of students they accepts are less than 700. Its like i'm back on a familiar territory. The school days are just three times a week and since i was older than most of my classmates they don't question my being aloof. Of course i couldn't escape the group works but its more tolerable than being in a dorm with hundreds of girls (and some bullied me) and in a university with thousands of students. Its a good compromise i think. Imagine my happiness when i finally graduate and its not because i was so happy i accomplished something but because i can at least get away from people. by that time they have become too chummy and keeps wanting me to be in their group outings. The only bonding moment i truly enjoyed with them is DOTA playing and that's because we're staring at the computers and dont have to talk for hours. My college classmates are really nice i love them but i just dont want to be with them all the time because its really just draining. Now its work and romantic relationship that im still struggling with.... I guess its never gonna stop no matter how much i learned from previous experience about socialization. So basically if there's an option to enroll on a smaller school with small number of students then i guess its the best way. You can still socialize without being too drained because at the end of the day you still have your home to recharge. That's how i get by.



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06 Jan 2012, 9:13 am

I was kinda in my own world, i think that i ignored a lot of it.



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06 Jan 2012, 7:32 pm

I kept to myself mostly and studied a lot. Reading was helpful too.