How do I stop myself from having crushes?

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How do I stop myself having crushes because right now, I really don't want to screw up, I just hate the fact that I have them, I saw this quiet person that I see around, she doesn't seem to be hanging around with her mates as such and she seems smart and I only wanted to get to know her.

Next thing you know, I now start having a little crush but I don't want to cheat and I don't want to end up being a royal butt just for making the same mistake that I did ages back (it's a long story).

What do I do to stop this? I can't stand it.

To make matters worse, one of my best mate tells me that me and her would suit each other... <sarcasm>Great that was so helpful </sarcasm>

- SBI. :/

I have crushes all the time. But i'd never do anything about them because I love my boyfriend.
If you love your partner, you shouldn't even think of acting on it - if you want this other girl, break up first.
Cheats suck.

I think you can't stop yourself having crushes but you can stop yourself from acting on them.

I don't think you need to stop it. I find 'Crushes' mildly enjoyable. If you are in a monogamous relationship, then acting on it would be different. Can you not trust yourself to not act?

Public castration is a good idea.

Self-control is what you need.

I'm unable to stop having crushes. I don't think it's a problem. Acting on a crush takes quite a bit of intentional effort. If you neglect to make that effort, there is little risk.

But look at things logically:
Is a fling with her worth losing your entire relationship?

If it is, break up with your girlfriend now and then pursue whomever caught your attention. If it is not, keep your crush in your spank bank until you're "over her".

Yeah, I'm real classy.

I hate having crushes too. I have such a problem with not knowing how to stop and it just drags on forever. In the past I used to get so upset and obsessed. I never did anything like stalk or pursue, I just kept it to myself. I would then find someone new to obsess over or try to anyway which usually it wouldn't work. So I learned the hard way that if you are having these feelings for someone to just drop it by engaging in your hobbies. If you find yourself not being able to focus on hobbies because you are still thinking about that person then pick up a new hobby. I have found with new hobbies, it's better because it requires more focus than your already mastered hobbies and since it requires so much focus you don't have time to think about that person.

Then make a habit of when you take a break from that hobby to go outside and walk around. Unless you live in a bad neighborhood then perhaps pick up something that requires meditation or exercise.

You can also collect rocks and attach a significant value to one rock such as a stress relief rock that you hold onto when you are feeling upset. Just hold it and think about things that make you happy.

Specifically morgan hill poppy jasper for happy.

I don't know. Where did you put your Willie Nelson cd?