Are you currently in a long term romantic relationship?

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Are you in a long term romantic relationship?
Diagnosed/suspected AS/ASD FEMALE – I’m currently in a LTR 30%  30%  [ 34 ]
Diagnosed/suspected AS/ASD FEMALE – I’m NOT currently in a LTR 23%  23%  [ 26 ]
Diagnosed/suspected AS/ASD MALE – I’m currently in a LTR 18%  18%  [ 21 ]
Diagnosed/suspected AS/ASD MALE – I’m NOT currently in a LTR 27%  27%  [ 31 ]
I do not have AS/ASD and/or I just want to see the results 3%  3%  [ 3 ]
Total votes : 115

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09 Mar 2011, 5:35 pm

I think your stats will get skewed as people will tend to answer who are in a relationship.

Im not in a relationship.



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09 Mar 2011, 5:45 pm

Well internet polls have outrageous selection bias, a poll should be done more out of curiousity than expectingg a concrete result.



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09 Mar 2011, 5:45 pm

Married in 1983.

Still going ...


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09 Mar 2011, 6:06 pm

I've had way too many relationships, the tricky part for me is working out when I shouldn't get into one. I'm hopeful that I can work my current one out, he's undiagnosed, a firts for me - it's taking a lot more work "behind the scenes" than any of the others which is putting a massive strain on me, but out front, the time we spend in each other's company is unquestionably the best quality and happiest I've ever had.



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09 Mar 2011, 6:14 pm

I'm a diagnosed female, and have been with my partner for almost 8 years, living together for the past 6. I believe my sweetheart has many aspie traits, and we are happy. Messy and unorganized, but happy :)



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09 Mar 2011, 7:12 pm

almost two years now, and i love him more than ever. hes perfect for me :D <3



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09 Mar 2011, 7:22 pm

I was in a relationship with a neurotypical girl for 4 months. She is very demanding by nature, can't sit still, but is honestly the best friend I've ever had. She's a great person, excellent mother (no kids with me), and I'd be lost without her. We are still very good friends. She didn't want to continue with a relationship because I was not romantic enough and kind of boring, which is true. I honestly tried, but it really was exhausting. We had some great moments together, and I still love her to death.

Before that I was with one other girl, but she was kind of odd (I suppose I have a neurotypical view of people) and we tried to have a relationship about 3 times. She didn't want to get serious, she was difficult to deal with, and said I was boring. I knew there was something odd about her, but looking back I couldn't tell if she was on the spectrum or not, I doubt she was. She was very spontaneous, which she complained that I wasn't, and that I was boring. She was extremely goofy, didn't take criticism well but said she never cared what other people thought. Was hard to figure her out.

Before that I had a small fling with a girl when I was in college. But all through my life, because of my anxiety, I always had an awkward approach to girls and have made a fool out of myself many times because I never had the guts to talk to them or held a conversation with them. As a result of that, most of them thought I was a freak or a weirdo. As I've gotten older, it's a little easier for me to flirt and be friendly with girls who I have an interest in, but it's still very difficult, and they have to at least initiate something, because it's hard for me to do that.



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09 Mar 2011, 7:34 pm

I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years, and its going great, I feel we have a very strong relationship. We live together and spend very little time outside of school & work not together :)

Before that I had been single for about 3-4 months. Since 16-17 I've spent very little time not in some sort of relationship


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09 Mar 2011, 8:02 pm

Three years with my NT boyfriend...not sure I'd call it romantic though (I dislike romance).


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09 Mar 2011, 8:33 pm

Female, diagnosed. I'm not in a long-term relationship and never have been. Then again, I'm only 18...there's still time.



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09 Mar 2011, 8:55 pm

Bloodheart wrote:
Three years with my NT boyfriend...not sure I'd call it romantic though (I dislike romance).


5 years (almost) of non romantic relationship.



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09 Mar 2011, 9:02 pm

ediself wrote:
Bloodheart wrote:
Three years with my NT boyfriend...not sure I'd call it romantic though (I dislike romance).


5 years (almost) of non romantic relationship.


What makes it non-romantic? (different people could interpret that different ways)



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09 Mar 2011, 9:10 pm

wavefreak58 wrote:
Married in 1983.

Still going ...


Same here, it's been 28 1/2 years since then - Still going strong



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09 Mar 2011, 9:48 pm

I'm a diagnosed female, and have been with my boyfriend for much longer than I was married to my NT ex-husband. I think my boyfriend has Aspie traits, and when I came out to him as being diagnosed, he was supportive. I think my ex-husband would have used my diagnosis as another way to verbally abuse me, so it was a good thing the diagnosis came after the divorce was finalized.



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09 Mar 2011, 9:58 pm

I look at these results and think one thing: sub-clinical.



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09 Mar 2011, 10:14 pm

No I'm not. I have girl parts, and I'm diagnosed with AS.


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