Why Your Job Won’t Make You Happy

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01 Apr 2011, 3:41 pm

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Relationships make your life great, not jobs. But a job can ruin your life - make you feel out of control in terms of your time or your ability to accomplish goals - but no job will make your life complete. It’s a myth mostly propagated by people who tell you to do what you love. Doing what you love will make you feel fulfilled. But you don’t need to get paid for it.

A job can save your life, though. If you are lost, and lonely, and wondering how you’ll ever find your way in this world, take a job. Any job. Because structure, and regular contact with regular people, and a method of contributing to a larger group are all things that help us recalibrate ourselves.




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01 Apr 2011, 3:48 pm

A lot of annoying generalisations in that article.


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01 Apr 2011, 4:13 pm

My job won't make me happy because I don't have one.


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01 Apr 2011, 4:22 pm

I totally disagree with that. The only time I was ever depressed was when I was doing poorly in school, which can be considered my occupation. Last semester I remember waking up in the morning and feeling like crap (I am not a morning person), until I realized that I was going to be working on something fun that day. Having an enjoyable job is definitely something worth getting out of bed for, while hating it can have the opposite effect.

Not to mention that happiness is extremely relative and subjective.


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01 Apr 2011, 4:59 pm

I'm very happy with the job that I have, now. :)


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01 Apr 2011, 8:53 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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If you are lost, and lonely, and wondering how you’ll ever find your way in this world, take a job. Any job. Because structure, and regular contact with regular people, and a method of contributing to a larger group are all things that help us recalibrate ourselves.


In the first place, that's not how I recalibrate myself. Structure, regular people, and larger groups sap my energy.

In the second place, if I *do* have a job, then I have to become whoever the job demands that I be - probably a "regular person." Pretending to be normal for too long can make me very sick indeed.



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01 Apr 2011, 9:00 pm

I love my job, but I work to live - not the other way around.


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01 Apr 2011, 9:08 pm

If you love your job, you're lucky.

I personally have not liked any of the ones i've had.



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01 Apr 2011, 9:19 pm

i would love to luck into a job that i could love. maybe in the next life...



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01 Apr 2011, 10:19 pm

Jobs don't make happiness... jobs make money. It takes a loving connection with someone you can trust your very soul with to bring happiness.



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01 Apr 2011, 10:21 pm

for some people, though for others, meaningful, enjoyable, challenging activity, and someone to love- may be a kitty- can bring happiness.


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02 Apr 2011, 3:39 am

Jobs - doing what other people tell you in order to make them much more money than you'll ever get - are a rather depressing, but often necessary concept. Of course they won't make you happy.



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02 Apr 2011, 5:32 am

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02 Apr 2011, 7:30 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Relationships make your life great, not jobs. But a job can ruin your life - make you feel out of control in terms of your time or your ability to accomplish goals - but no job will make your life complete. It’s a myth mostly propagated by people who tell you to do what you love. Doing what you love will make you feel fulfilled. But you don’t need to get paid for it.



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Have you been talking to those commie socialists again!! !!. This view can be very damaging especially for young men, even more for young aspie men.

What relationship come easy to men who are socially and financially and disadvantaged. In my experience, I don't know any woman who is dating a man who is socially and financially disadvantaged more then they are. It is even true in regards to height. An Aspie man may not be able to change his height or social kills by much but he can improve his wealth considerably and my have an advantage over NTs. Buddhism my try to teach you how to be happy but it ignores loneliness to some degree and offers no scientific solution.

So there are too choices .
You can continue the same way hoping that later years become easer as you acquire wisdom to compensate for the slowly dwindling resources to find love.

Or become a high status man

If convention wisdom brings love, then the old wouldn't suffer loneliness and isolation and neither would aspies.



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02 Apr 2011, 7:51 am

You know, yesterday I quit my job. I'm about to be called by two employers and there's a high probability both will want to hire me. Since I was on vacation until yesterday, I won't be paid this month. Therefore, my current job would only get in my way.

Right now, I'm feeling great.



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02 Apr 2011, 10:54 am

Jobs are the sux! :x