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Introverted and shy 20%  20%  [ 46 ]
Introverted and shy 24%  24%  [ 57 ]
Introverted but confident 12%  12%  [ 29 ]
Introverted but confident 16%  16%  [ 38 ]
Extroverted and outgoing 2%  2%  [ 4 ]
Extroverted and outgoing 2%  2%  [ 4 ]
Sometimes introverted, sometimes extroverted 12%  12%  [ 27 ]
Sometimes introverted, sometimes extroverted 12%  12%  [ 29 ]
Total votes : 234

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05 May 2011, 12:36 am

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Ok, I'm tired of people saying Asperger's basically means being a shy introverted person with social anxiety. This is not what Asperger's is!

It is perfectly possible for a person with Asperger's to be confident, extroverted, and enjoy socializing with people. I am like this. I know two other girls and one guy with Asperger's IRL who are like this.


well you can add another to your list :) because I'm like this to :)



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06 May 2011, 8:26 am

TPE2 wrote:
Phonic wrote:
edit: you can be shy and confident


How you can be "shy" and "confident" at the same time? I am not an English-speaker, but my ideia is that the definition of "shy" is "person who is quite and introvert because lack of confidance" (in contrast with a person who is quite and introvert simply because he does not like - or like only in reduced levels - to talk and socialize).


Actually, you can be shy and confident at the same time. Being ''unconfident'' doesn't mean you're ''shy'', exactly. There are other ways you can be confident, and it doesn't necessarily mean you mix really well.
I know someone who is shy, but she's just graduated from university, and is going on to do what she really wants to do, and at the end of this year she has arranged and planned to fly out to California to do the career she wants to do - all on her own. She must be confident if she's doing that all by herself, because I wouldn't because I'm unconfident. Also, she is confident in herself - she never puts herself down and she's been studying really hard for some years. She doesn't have many friends but she has some, who are shy people too.

And I have a cousin who make friends really quickly and easily, and she is outgoing. But when it comes to looking for jobs, she doesn't seem to have much confidence to do it, and it isn't laziness because she really wants a job.

So yeh, you can be unconfident but not shy. OK, I'm both shy and unconfident, which hasn't got me anywhere. I think if I had more confidence in myself I wouldn't struggle with life so much, whether I'm shy or not.


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06 May 2011, 8:39 am

Yeah, that's pretty much why I said I couldn't choose an option, because I'm neither introverted and shy nor introverted and confident. I'm introverted and not confident, but not shy. :lol:



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06 May 2011, 11:05 am

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I think there is not necessarily a full understanding of introversion and all of its facets; when I'm around people, I don't generally shut up; I'm excessively talkative, but I'm an extreme introvert nonetheless because I thrive in frequent solitude; I don't do so well with extended periods of time in solitude if I notice it.


Same here.



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01 Aug 2011, 9:36 pm

I would describe myself as extroverted and not confident. I like to be around other people, in general I like and in fact crave social settings, although if it gets too noisy or if there are multiple conversations happening at once I can get overwhelmed. But I tend to find a small group of people and just listen, only occasionally saying anything. I just kind of hover there and freak people out with my silence. I have a hard time sensing the cue when it is appropriate to jump in and say something, so I just don't. And I like to have things well thought out before I say it, so by the time I am ready the conversation has often moved on to something else.



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01 Aug 2011, 9:45 pm

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Being ''unconfident'' doesn't mean you're ''shy'', exactly. There are other ways you can be confident, and it doesn't necessarily mean you mix really well. [/quote]

After reading this maybe I am more shy than unconfident.



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01 Aug 2011, 9:47 pm

I'm a 100% introvert. I am usually shy (depending on the situation), but I can give myself confidence and speak up when I need to.

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Being ''unconfident'' doesn't mean you're ''shy'', exactly. There are other ways you can be confident, and it doesn't necessarily mean you mix really well.


Exactly what I was trying to say.


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01 Aug 2011, 11:25 pm

I'm not shy anymore. I think I just didn't care about anything outside of my interests so people thought I was.
I don't have much interest in talking people except for 3 people in the same band, a welsh singer, the band After the Fall, and Trial Kennedy and my one or two friends if I ever see them again.

People exhaust me. I'll talk to them and hang out for awhile but any longer than I want to and I'll start going quiet because I get angrier and angrier, and if someone says something insulting I'm outta there.

I'm pretty sure I'm an introvert because I feel the most energy when I'm alone, give or take a few cats.


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02 Aug 2011, 6:15 am

I'd say I'm extroverted and outgoing and autistic.

Extroverted because I get energised by being with people. I do get drained too though - the more I try to socialise normally. If I stay truer to myself/my autism, I feel good with people.

Outgoing - when I feel like it. But I'd rather be with somebody having fun than being by myself, because that's just more exciting to me.


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02 Aug 2011, 11:34 am

Shyness is social anxiety - you are extremely anxious in certain social settings. Most shy people I've met tend to come across as really quiet until they get to know you, at which point they're as chatty as anyone else. (I knew a developmentally disabled girl who was extremely shy - for the first few minutes in the program each week she'd speak in a whisper, avoid eye contact and hang back from the activity. Once she calmed down she got bossy and engaging, telling the volunteers where to stand and controlling all the action with a smile on her face.)

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When I take the myers-briggs test, I generally score as being introverted, or on the knife edge between the two. In reality I would say I am both introverted and extroverted, but my introversion stems more from my Aspergers than my personality. At social events, I generally am one of the most outgoing people there - the "life of the party" so to speak (not just saying this, it's how things generally pan out), and I am nearly always asked to way more social functions than I can attend or cope with. I am confident around people and love getting right in the thick of things at parties. But on the flip side I require long periods of intense solitude and isolation to rest and recharge, so I believe this is what causes me to score as being introverted.


I'm pretty much exactly that.

I think AS is a personality type, but it's separate from introversion. It's more about being intense and hyposocial. Hyposocial doesn't mean introverted, it means less focused on social things. You can be extroverted hyposocial, or introverted and not hyposocial. Basically it means that unlike NTs, you don't have an intense interest in people. You don't constantly monitor relationships (gossiping), and when you're interacting with others (however much you can tolerate) you're more interested in the practical purpose of the interaction rather than interaction for its own sake.



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01 Sep 2014, 12:34 am

sunshower wrote:
Ok, I'm tired of people saying Asperger's basically means being a shy introverted person with social anxiety. This is not what Asperger's is!


That's what it is for some people (like me).



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01 Sep 2014, 1:00 am

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I think AS is a personality type, but it's separate from introversion. It's more about being intense and hyposocial. Hyposocial doesn't mean introverted, it means less focused on social things. You can be extroverted hyposocial, or introverted and not hyposocial. Basically it means that unlike NTs, you don't have an intense interest in people. You don't constantly monitor relationships (gossiping), and when you're interacting with others (however much you can tolerate) you're more interested in the practical purpose of the interaction rather than interaction for its own sake.

Bingo!
I voted "introvert but confident", but I am often extraverted too, in small assemblys - around a subject, but I´m often almost shy. It depends on who´s present. I like company, but the word is, as written, hyposocial: I like to be social under the "right" conditions, but at a limited level. And I never got a kick from being social for the sake of being social.
As may be a disorder, but it is a personality type as well.


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