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Are you?
Introverted and shy 20%  20%  [ 46 ]
Introverted and shy 24%  24%  [ 57 ]
Introverted but confident 12%  12%  [ 29 ]
Introverted but confident 16%  16%  [ 38 ]
Extroverted and outgoing 2%  2%  [ 4 ]
Extroverted and outgoing 2%  2%  [ 4 ]
Sometimes introverted, sometimes extroverted 12%  12%  [ 27 ]
Sometimes introverted, sometimes extroverted 12%  12%  [ 29 ]
Total votes : 234

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04 May 2011, 7:03 am

I'm only extroverted because of my drug abuse - I mean my medication. Ha ha ha.

I'm naturally introverted and have no desire to be around people. When I was younger I was like that and I've gone back to that. It feels more natural. Although I've had some experience with socialising and have some social skills...I guess.


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04 May 2011, 7:27 am

I think there is not necessarily a full understanding of introversion and all of its facets; when I'm around people, I don't generally shut up; I'm excessively talkative, but I'm an extreme introvert nonetheless because I thrive in frequent solitude; I don't do so well with extended periods of time in solitude if I notice it.

I'd agree with the poster who suggested that extroversion, while possibly present in earlier days, could be discouraged by the reciprocation during interaction.



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04 May 2011, 7:48 am

chaotik_lord wrote:
I'd agree with the poster who suggested that extroversion, while possibly present in earlier days, could be discouraged by the reciprocation during interaction.


I second this. I think this is definitely true of myself. :|



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04 May 2011, 7:50 am

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Ok, I'm tired of people saying Asperger's basically means being a shy introverted person with social anxiety. This is not what Asperger's is!

It is perfectly possible for a person with Asperger's to be confident, extroverted, and enjoy socializing with people. I am like this. I know two other girls and one guy with Asperger's IRL who are like this.


I think this is one of the reasons why people try to dismiss aspergers. I think it affects my personality, but it's not all that I am. I think it's very possible to be an positive, confident and extroverted aspie. I know plenty of them. It makes sense, really. If you don't understand social boundaries, what's going to stop you from attempting to engage in conversation with someone? Just because somebody is sociable, it doesn't mean that they are not socially inept or disabled by this ineptness.



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04 May 2011, 7:50 am

it very much depends on the situation, company, topic, setting, and my mood.

i think i am all of those combinations at different times.



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04 May 2011, 8:56 am

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I totally agree; I am anything but shy; I alternative between talking too much (about my interests and "dominating" the conversation" to being too quiet (say nothing cuz the topic doesn't interest me so I space out and daydream).

I am also sick of people saying that Aspies all wanna be hermits. I need some social interaction on a regular basis and am very grateful to have friends right now. I also admit to needing significant time alone to think, daydream, and read.

There are plenty of introverted NTs and I'm sure there are some extroverted Aspies. What defines our "aspie-ness" is our difficulty reading other people's social cues so my theory is that some Aspies may naturally be extroverted but become introverted over time after repeated rejection and failure to react to those cues and socialize in what NT's would refer to as "in an appropriate manner." Therefore, it is possible that there may be more naturally extroverted Aspies than the Meyers Briggs test shows.

This this this.

I think I would naturally be more extroverted, but I've been force to withdraw over the years due to bullying and rejection.

I have social anxiety around my peer group, for this reason, and I experience a level of general anxiety when I am outside of my room (due to too much environmental stimulus). But I have no problems with approaching strangers or people who are outside of my peer group. I'm not typically shy. I'm actually over-talkative when you get to know me or get me on a subject that I'm interested in.


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04 May 2011, 9:31 am

I am an extreme introvert and live all alone on 40 acres to prove it. LOL!

That said, I have more friends than most NTs and am the "life of parties" when I go to them. I have no fear of making an ass of myself in public and have all the pictures to prove it. :D :D :D You guys should see my fb page. LOL!

Being introverted has NOTHING to do with being shy. An introvert simply gets drained of energy when being with people so they choose to not be with them all the time. Most of the time, I choose to stay home on my farm rather than go out and that is fine with me. A shy person, however, wants to be with people but has fear so they end up being alone a lot too. Being shy sucks. Being an introvert is awesome if you can afford to have privacy when you need it.

I believe there are not many true extroverts who have AS. It is more likely they are socially confident (as am I) but who end up getting tired quicker than NTs at parties due to their hypersensory issues and having to track/follow multiple conversations and context switching that goes on in groups. Unless an Aspie doesn't suffer ANY of these issues, they need their down time to recharge too which means they are introverts and socially confident NOT extrovert. An extrovert gains energy around people and an introvert will lose energy around people.



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04 May 2011, 9:45 am

I don't think introversion/extroversion really captures any of the essence of AS. I can be VERY engaged in a conversation or with people, depending on the subject. Or I can be completely silent and in my own world. It's more like an on/off switch. I can be alone, and I like it. But if you engage me in a way that attracts my focus, I'm more like Cyclops from X-Men sans visor.


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04 May 2011, 9:48 am

I couldn't really pick a poll option. I don't consider myself shy though. I think the difference between me and a shy person is that a shy person has the words but is too afraid to speak them, whereas I don't have the words to begin with and wouldn't be afraid to speak them if I did.

I am an introvert though, and the others are right. Introversion is not the same thing as shyness. There are extroverted shy people and introverted people who aren't shy.



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04 May 2011, 10:00 am

I'm an extrovert and have PDD-NOS. I know some shy NTs as well.



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04 May 2011, 10:01 am

So there is no option for someone who is gregarious but tends to feel and act more like a golden retriever who wandered into the room?

I think we see people with AS all the time who are obviously not gifted with charisma, but they are outgoing and happy almost to a fault. For those of us who are like that, the problem is not getting people to like us, but it's getting people to think we have more good sense than a puppy-dog that tends to be the problem.



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04 May 2011, 12:39 pm

I'm an introvert. I'm relatively confident about most intellectual pursuits but quite shy/inhibited about social stuff. I'm confident about theory/school stuff but anxious about real-world application.



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04 May 2011, 12:43 pm

sunshower wrote:
Ok, I'm tired of people saying Asperger's basically means being a shy introverted person with social anxiety. This is not what Asperger's is!

It is perfectly possible for a person with Asperger's to be confident, extroverted, and enjoy socializing with people. I am like this. I know two other girls and one guy with Asperger's IRL who are like this.


I just get of people associating AS with geekiness or intelligence. If any of this were true I wouldn't be constantly insulted and demeaned by geeks on a daily basis like I was in college.



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04 May 2011, 6:13 pm

^^^^^

MIT Geeks ?


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04 May 2011, 6:21 pm

I chose to be introverted as I find most people as boring as they find me, listen to them.

I tried being "fun" and "outgoing " loud aspie when I was younger didn't work , perhaps it worked for you (people may have assumed you where just a insensitive vulgarian) it works for many people in the business world (how else are you supposed to get ahead in life ?) so if it works for you , go right ahead. who am I to judge ? :)


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04 May 2011, 6:27 pm

I'm an introvert-extrovert. On tests, though, I always score as an extrovert. Usually, my pattern goes like this: I become super extroverted and outgoing for a certain period of time. Since I just blurt things out constantly without knowing how what I say will affect somebody, at some point, I experience a fall-back. I then withdraw into a period of introspection where I just need to think about things without any interruptions. Then, after a while, I re-emerge and the cycle repeats.


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