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DO you TRY to fake being NT?
Almost every moment when I'm around other people 18%  18%  [ 13 ]
Only at work but not in other social situations 6%  6%  [ 4 ]
In most social situations with people I don't know that well but I'm myself around my friends 22%  22%  [ 16 ]
I can't fake NT at all 8%  8%  [ 6 ]
I try to fake NT where the stakes really matter (job interview, etc) but that's about it 19%  19%  [ 14 ]
I choose not to try to fake NT at all; people gotta accept me as I am 15%  15%  [ 11 ]
Other (post below if none of the above fit) 11%  11%  [ 8 ]
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08 May 2011, 10:29 pm

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I want to say I basically had no idea, which is at its base true, but I have had hints here and there over the past 14-15 years I think (from the first time I realized I do palilalia, to the time I realized that Asperger's is characterized by intense interests and monologues, and my tendency to somehow manage to spot other autistic people on forums and then get into mutual flame wars with them over semantics without consciously realizing they were autistic until we were up to our eyeballs, and I realized "wait, this is just like that argument I had with X.").


You must feel relieved now that you had your official diagnosis.
I suppose I had reasons to suspect I had Aspergers and then confirming it on an online test - there is a chance the result could be a self fulfilling prophecy. In other words did I skew my answers?

I tried doing the tests a couple more times and I still get the same result. For instance the AQ test I consistently get 43 (the cut-off for autism is > 32). While the caveat says these do not constitute a diagnosis I am fairly sure all the boxes have been ticked.

Despite this I'll continue walking the streets of Melbourne as an NT because simply I can.



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08 May 2011, 10:40 pm

I am glad to have the diagnosis. I do need it, where many might not.

People take me as NT, just weird and a bit hyper/restless, I think. But when I tell some I'm autistic, they say it makes sense. Sometimes, anyway. Those who don't tend to fixate on what children or more severe autism are/is like.



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08 May 2011, 10:41 pm

In my mind, I am just as NT as anyone else. Others might not see it that way.



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08 May 2011, 11:06 pm

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I am glad to have the diagnosis. I do need it, where many might not.

People take me as NT, just weird and a bit hyper/restless, I think. But when I tell some I'm autistic, they say it makes sense. Sometimes, anyway. Those who don't tend to fixate on what children or more severe autism are/is like.


Alas people either don't know what autism is or Aspergers or they think of Dustin Hoffman in Rainman. No happy medium yet.



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08 May 2011, 11:26 pm

I tried that in the relationship before my last one. Failed miserably and slaughtered tge relationship. I've always tried to be myself from then on.



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09 May 2011, 12:18 am

I do it mildly, I make more eye contact, I will try to be appear more engaged in social situations, try to go along with the NT group vibe mentality. Where my faking goes in the strongest, I fake empathy when its expected, its not overt.

With some people, I will sorta disengage myself and Im starting to act by a script in how I should be keeping the quirks down, keeping my rudeness and outward disagreeing down, keeping my "off" statements down. I present sides to me that people wanna see, I dont outwardly pretend to be someone Im not however. It seems a lot of NTs do that. They've sorta developed a script, an outward persona that they mindlessly present to people cause thats what people wanna see.



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09 May 2011, 12:28 am

I don't have to fake it. I'm something like 90% NT, I've been told. It's that last 10% or so AS that infuriates me. So close, yet so far. I get along with NTs, I look and act totally normal (even without trying) but I'm still not technically an NT, because of my symptoms. Eye contact used to be something of an issue for me, but after consciously working on it for a bit, it now comes naturally, to the point where no one would suspect I had to train myself to do it more.


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09 May 2011, 2:03 am

I just try not to piss people off and when in a disagreement, I let the other side win.

I wouldn't even know how to fact or even remember to. It's hard to think when I'm around people, in that chaotic environment. I usually get so much sensory overload I can barely speak. I usually just listen to people, stim when the stress levels are high enough and join in on conversation when I can. But I get a bit bored with what people talk about. Only a few days ago my sister and my brother's girlfriend were talking about what food they liked for ages. Oh what is the point? I just laughed in my head. Most times people irritate me. Why pretend to be like a bunch of irritating and boring food lovers? They also make fun of me for liking Star Trek so they can can jump off a cliff for all I care. I'm not pretending to hate Star Trek for anyone.


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09 May 2011, 5:30 am

Raptor wrote:
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When in Rome............


Yep. I learned this early.
If you act at least somewhat like them, they will be more likely to leave you alone.

I learned later that if you can get really good at something, you can act how you damn well please just as long as you don't hurt anyone. Talent makes eccentricity acceptable.


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22 May 2011, 7:25 pm

No faking for me; I just tried to BE normal from ages 12 to 25, and inevitably made little progress at a fundamental level I guess



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22 May 2011, 7:29 pm

I suggest that there is no 'different' Self or cognitive pattern that can be overridden by 'faking NT' in most cases - The evidence suggests that it's perceptions that are 'awry' to begin with, not thoughts



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22 May 2011, 8:41 pm

I only fake it when it really matters, like life altering situations, other than that. I am a card carrying member of wrongplanet 8)


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22 May 2011, 8:44 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
Raptor wrote:
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DO you TRY to fake being NT?


When in Rome............


Yep. I learned this early.
If you act at least somewhat like them, they will be more likely to leave you alone.

I learned later that if you can get really good at something, you can act how you damn well please just as long as you don't hurt anyone. Talent makes eccentricity acceptable.


I have to agree, as an artist and poet, people kinda expect me to be alittle weird....only if they knew MMMwwwwhhhaa :twisted:


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