14 Jul 2011, 9:31 am
CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
spongy wrote:
Now seriously you dont have to ask him about his feelings towards you but asking him to hang out with you(couple activities are a plus)eventually sends the right idea.
Ever heard of the word coffee/insert beverage of choice here Ive been told that asking him to have one with you can be quite helpfull.
Ever heard of the word coffee/insert beverage of choice here Ive been told that asking him to have one with you can be quite helpfull.
This reminds me of the scene in The Big Bang Theory where a girl at the university offers to buy Sheldon a pizza for supper and makes it clear (though indirect) that she is asking him on a date. Sheldon agrees, Leonard says, "Sheldon, do you know what just happened?" and Sheldon replies, "Yeah, I got free pizza!!"
"The Big Bang Theory" is a joke. No one so socially inept as these characters would have been able to get any further than junior high with crappy social skills like them.
14 Jul 2011, 10:03 am
14 Jul 2011, 11:02 am
Lonermutant wrote:
CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
spongy wrote:
Now seriously you dont have to ask him about his feelings towards you but asking him to hang out with you(couple activities are a plus)eventually sends the right idea.
Ever heard of the word coffee/insert beverage of choice here Ive been told that asking him to have one with you can be quite helpfull.
Ever heard of the word coffee/insert beverage of choice here Ive been told that asking him to have one with you can be quite helpfull.
This reminds me of the scene in The Big Bang Theory where a girl at the university offers to buy Sheldon a pizza for supper and makes it clear (though indirect) that she is asking him on a date. Sheldon agrees, Leonard says, "Sheldon, do you know what just happened?" and Sheldon replies, "Yeah, I got free pizza!!"
"The Big Bang Theory" is a joke. No one so socially inept as these characters would have been able to get any further than junior high with crappy social skills like them.
As for asking someone out, I'm not quite sure about the indirect approaches with aspies because I've tried some on a guy I liked but was too nervous to ask him out and he never got the hints. Here are my suggestions as to the clues that would indicate whether he likes you or not, gleaned from my personal experience:
- He is willing to do something that seems to be not in his line of interest but where you are present (most likely just to see you again!)
- He smiles at you a lot
- He mentions your name and the word "only" in the same sentence
- He brings up the topic of relationships at least once in your encounters WITHOUT talking about some other potential girlfriend/crush
- He never/rarely declines when you make an offer to meet up/talk
With my current boyfriend, though, we told each other directly that we like each other before attempting to do anything else that is intimate in nature. I told him about my feelings for him first, though. I know it's often hard to gather that courage, but it may well be worth it in the long run!
14 Jul 2011, 11:16 am
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