Is there anyone who has Aspergers and is also social?

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I'm learning how to socialize. I'm pretty good at it within my friend group of about 6 people, but we're odd kids. I can do polite small talk with strangers/adults for a bit, but struggle a LOT after a minute or two. Getting better at it, but painfully slowly.

I'm highly uncomfortable around strangers, but if I've been around a person a lot I can be very talkative when I'm in the mood.

I am always bad at socializing and communication, no matter how hard I try. I always tried and practiced to be better socially, but in the end I still have difficulties in communication skills, weak voice, weak eye contact, and most of all, very wierd responses/gestures. For this reason I am very quiet around people.

Maybe I should just say I like socializing but I am not the best at it.

It really depends. I'm extremely shy around those I don't know. I do have people I regularly talk to, and I'm not sure if they're friends or not because I have no idea how to tell if somebody is a friend. My teachers have observed, and told my psychologist, that when I socialize with others that my conversations are extremely one-sided, and that my idea of having a conversation is basically that I lecture the other people for 20 minutes about whatever topic I'm interested in. I have bad anxiety within crowds. I don't go to parties or anything like that because of that and the noise. Some of my teachers have said that I need to learn to interact more with others. My parents are starting to send me to appointments with a specialist focused in teaching social skills. So actually, I'd say, that from the responses I receive from authority, my social skills are still pretty bad. But this year is actually the first that I have people I can talk to who respect me, so I'm going with sometimes because it's improving.

I'm somewhere in the middle. I consider myself sociable, but I think about how much I go out, and realise it's not a lot.

I can be very social with people who I feel comfortable around. I enjoy being with people and talking but when I'm tired or in a bad mood, I am less talkative around others.

My problem is, and this happened throughout school, is that I can initially appear I guess pretty "cool" and charismatic of sorts, but then once people figure out I'm different, it's more worse than if I had never talked to those people. So, in public with random people I'm reasonably good socially, if not more outgoing than most people, but the problems occur when I need to "fit in" to a group or something later. So, it's quite a mixed bag, really. In some ways, better socially than a lot of people, in other ways, significantly worse than most.

I'm VERY social, like my life depends on it. I've got waaaayy too many friends who don't like eachother, and at the same time will all go up to me and ask,"Yo Bri, you free?" or "Bri let's chill today!" Sometimes it even gets in the way of my grades and other commitments -_____-

I'm very social with my group of friends, just not everyone.

I used to be very asocial but in the past 6 months have tried hard to make more friends and engage in class conversations. I think I went a bit over-board and now people see me as, 'that annoying b***h who rambles on about anything', but oh well. I haven't made any friends despite talking to so many people(I actually got to a point where I'd basically approach anyone who seemed lonely, even if in the corridoor and shared none of my classes at college etc.).

But yes. I try to talk to people when I can.

Before this change I pretty much ignored everyone bar 3 people and teachers.

I hug everyone I know. I suck at conversations and it's tiring to meet people. It's almost like I switch from asocial to shy extrovert sometimes.

I have aspergers, and I am very social. I have a lot more of a variety of friends that anyone I know too, ranging from the drama kids to the cheerleaders

I am at times. When we have a company meeting (we're looking for investors) I would put on a Captain Kirk persona, but today someone said I am more like Clint Eastwood now!

Personally I'm only sociable when im either with my nt friends or when im comfortable with the people around me... if i feel any neg vibes i shell up...