three year old daugter with no social skills

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10 Jan 2012, 6:46 am

a 3 year old with ASD and no social skills ( apart from playing along side other peers ) not even to younger brother, doesnt like books or blocks,but learns many things very well from audio- visual song learning .no peers in the area to coach into socialising with her,does her socialising program at an autistic school. how to get to treat her social aviodance ? :(



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10 Jan 2012, 7:21 am

Well no offense but the child is 3 years old, let her be a three year old....other then that you kind of just have to wait and see what sort of issues come up and then come up with solutions or ways to improve things. But try not to focus too much on negatives and let her be herself as well. I mean you did say she learns well so encourage her to learn...I know that was one of my favorite things as a child was learning new things and it offended me if anyone tried to stop it. For instance when my first grade teacher trying to keep me from reading books on account of them not being written for 7 year olds well I had above average reading skills so books for 7 year olds were boring.

As for social avoidence, people naturally avoid people that make them feel uncomfortable....so if she is being bullied or generally ostracized from the group by the group its likely she will avoid them and I don't imagine trying to force her not to avoid them would really help. And in general people on the spectrum don't develop perfect social skills so you have to kinda choose what battles to fight and which ones not to. I mean there is nothing wrong with someone preferring their own company, so unless the avoidence is caused by bullying or feeling ostracized its probably not a huge problem.


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10 Jan 2012, 1:19 pm

thanks a lot. i was wondering if can get her more at ease socially starting at 3,to minimise future social problems. is that possible at three ? i know that she is young but i want to give her the best chance possible to overcome probems in her life . any good free readings on the web ? i was thinking along side the writings of Patrichia Harkins,thnx a again .