Maybe this will be a useful wake up call for some here....
Because for many women its a requirement to have a job/car to even think of being with someone.
I see. I've dated jobless/carless men before. I don't see what the big deal is, as long as I'm not expected to pay their way.
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I pay my own way on dates, unless the other person feels very strongly about it, and even then I'll pick up the next date.
I agree with everything you say, except paying yourself for dates, a man should do so out of his own kindness and politeness, as I think this is something that will be sadly lost if woman don't let them pay out of that kindness/politeness.
Of course, it's not necessarily about the money in that perspective, but more about how they represent themselves to the woman.
Other then that, I would'nt care how much a woman has.
The person that did the asking should be the one to pay IMO. I don't understand why the man should be expected to pay by default.
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Or maybe not.
Lets face it Boo: the internet has made it very easy to find info to backup just about any claim you may have because anyone can put something online and its unlikely that no one has thought of anything similar.
Right now I could point you out thousands of articles on why males are only interested in sex(and just about any other male based stereotype which is basically what you´ve done).
Does that mean that all this stereotypes are true for every men and we are doomed?, thats up to you to decide but if I was to answer this question I´d have to quote one of my hs teachers when he said that the internet is a very useful tool for finding information but anyone can post an article online so you cant just take something as a fact just because its on several websites.
Im not denying that there´s some truth to every stereotype and this one is probably no exception but if you do some research on marriage counselors etc, you´ll see that most of them mention that having your basic needs filled(which is basically what this stereotype is based upon) is no longer enough and most people are changing their priorities
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Lets face it Boo: the internet has made it very easy to find info to backup just about any claim you may have because anyone can put something online and its unlikely that no one has thought of anything similar.
Right now I could point you out thousands of articles on why males are only interested in sex(and just about any other male based stereotype which is basically what you´ve done).
Does that mean that all this stereotypes are true for every men and we are doomed?, thats up to you to decide but if I was to answer this question I´d have to quote one of my hs teachers when he said that the internet is a very useful tool for finding information but anyone can post an article online so you cant just take something as a fact just because its on several websites.
Im not denying that there´s some truth to every stereotype and this one is probably no exception but if you do some research on marriage counselors etc, you´ll see that most of them mention that having your basic needs filled(which is basically what this stereotype is based upon) is no longer enough and most people are changing their priorities
Gawd, where did I say that every man is this or every woman is that or every man/woman will be like this for good? I just posted a link, and even the author didn't imply this.
Yes, it's true that a lot of men are only interested in sex, stereotypes often represent the largest minority.
Stereotype mass-paranoia, stop it.
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Lets face it Boo: the internet has made it very easy to find info to backup just about any claim you may have because anyone can put something online and its unlikely that no one has thought of anything similar.
Right now I could point you out thousands of articles on why males are only interested in sex(and just about any other male based stereotype which is basically what you´ve done).
Does that mean that all this stereotypes are true for every men and we are doomed?, thats up to you to decide but if I was to answer this question I´d have to quote one of my hs teachers when he said that the internet is a very useful tool for finding information but anyone can post an article online so you cant just take something as a fact just because its on several websites.
Im not denying that there´s some truth to every stereotype and this one is probably no exception but if you do some research on marriage counselors etc, you´ll see that most of them mention that having your basic needs filled(which is basically what this stereotype is based upon) is no longer enough and most people are changing their priorities
Gawd, where did I say that every man is this or every woman is that? I just posted a link, and even the author didn't imply this.
Yes, it true that a lot of men are only interested in sex, stereotypes often represent the largest minority.
Meh.
Im just saying that you cant live by generalizations(and you shouldnt even be using them here but we turn a blind eye unless it goes too far) and you shouldnt treat things on this article as facts, just in case.
Dont worry Im getting around answering your other wakeup call in a similar manner.
Evan Marc Katz, really? This guy is a modern day snake oil salesman if there ever was one. His advice is patriarchal and misogynistic tripe, and does more harm than good. He's a so-called "dating guru" in his mind only.
And if this article is any indication, he's clearly run out of things to write about lol...
Both genders select for good genes and fertility. One indicator of good genes is attractiveness. Other indicators include wealth and social status. If you happen to be successful, chances are that your genes have contributed to your success and that your offspring will inherit these qualities. Even if that is not the case, inherited wealth gives future offspring a social and economic advantage.
It is therefore not really surprising that wealth and status can be important criteria for sexual selection. Emphasis on "can". I think the gold digger stereotype is as unfair as "men only want arm candy and a living sex doll without a brain".
Lets face it Boo: the internet has made it very easy to find info to backup just about any claim you may have because anyone can put something online and its unlikely that no one has thought of anything similar.
Right now I could point you out thousands of articles on why males are only interested in sex(and just about any other male based stereotype which is basically what you´ve done).
Does that mean that all this stereotypes are true for every men and we are doomed?, thats up to you to decide but if I was to answer this question I´d have to quote one of my hs teachers when he said that the internet is a very useful tool for finding information but anyone can post an article online so you cant just take something as a fact just because its on several websites.
Im not denying that there´s some truth to every stereotype and this one is probably no exception but if you do some research on marriage counselors etc, you´ll see that most of them mention that having your basic needs filled(which is basically what this stereotype is based upon) is no longer enough and most people are changing their priorities
Gawd, where did I say that every man is this or every woman is that or every man/woman will be like this for good? I just posted a link, and even the author didn't imply this.
Yes, it's true that a lot of men are only interested in sex, stereotypes often represent the largest minority.
Stereotype mass-paranoia, stop it.
most men are not just interested in sex. not sure how many you are implying by saying "a lot".
and what WAS your point in posting the link, then? i did already ask that.
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Yeah, it's a strange thing to use...since it means less free time.
If I were to go into dating, using my Job Occupation wouldn't seem to be a good idea, as it means I'd only be available for a small amount of time.
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