How many of us here are self sufficient?

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Same here... My place may not be my own house/mortgage yet, but it's a nice apartment and relatively clean & stocked. I hated, HATED room mates and their selfish, rude behaviour. I need my privacy and quiet recharge time... and the freedom to walk around nekkid if I need/want to.

A tip for all you with out of control lives; think of life as a contact sport (rugby, american football, martial arts, boxing etc) or that you are in Valhalla and you are a super star or eternal Viking. Every morning just pump your psyche up and go hit the day like its the biggest day of your life. Okay, so I don't quite maintain that sort of adrenalin pumping madness every day, but I certainly have transferred that anxiety energy into the channelled rage of a pro sportsman. It works for me although some people think I'm a bit intense at times and at other times I'm like the tree sloth. No moderation in my case. Omg but this wine tastes good.

I am pretty self-sufficient. I have a mortgage on a nice flat with my wife and work full time in a software development role. I am less sure how well I would do without the support of my wife though. She does a lot of work around the house and manages the budget and shopping...and drives for us both...and keeps me from getting too stressed about stuff. ...and reminds me about all the stuff I keep forgetting. ...Actually, I wouldn't survive very long at all without her before regressing to some sort of cave-man. Better stick with her I think!

I'm not self sufficient since 2011 (contract of temporary work ended). I can't have my own home, I have always shared it with other people or I have lived with my parents. To pay an apartment you need a lot of money, you can't pay it with the low salaries of here or the high rates of unemployment. If you get a job, the contract is only for 3-6 months and normally is only part-time contract. You can't organize your life on these conditions. Young people only can have own apartment if they have a girlfriend/boyfriend and if both of them have a job, so they can afford the rent. Single young people have to share apartment with two or three people. I lived alone once because rent was not very expensive (it was not cheap either), but it was only 10m2 (it was a studio in very good conditions, but too small).

Really?

I learnt something new today

I have a mortgage on a single bedroom flat of 74m2, and a vehicle loan. I'm doing ok materialistic wise. Yet I do need someone to buy me clothes. I hate buying it.

I am, yes. Did not initially have any choice in the matter but I survived, I learned, I am okay. The short version is that I was 17, living with my mom, she met a man, married him, moved out, covered the last few months rent on the apartment while i finished highschool and before the lease expired, then for me it was obtain employment and own apartment or move in with father. Which, to me, was closer to an option between get a job/apartment or live on the street. The street would have been preferable to living with father.

Anyway. I did it. I am proud to say that I managed, regardless of the circumstances. I like my current job. I own a car. My apartment is reasonably nice.

Now there's a role model! I bet you have lots of stories to tell, MrStewart.

I am self-sufficient. I've been living alone for 6 years now, 4 before that I was living with my one brother (who I also suspect is AS). We both have managed steady jobs and I pay all my own bills. At this point I could never move back in with my parents so self-sufficiency is important to me.

see my post... I am newly self sufficient

I'm somewhat obssessive about self sufficiency. I don't like asking for help with things. I find ways to get around doing 2person jobs on my own I used to be self employed. These days I recieve disability pension, though not for aspergers.
I live alone in the forest. I built my own house, I made up my own solar power system. I do most of my own repairs to things. I'd grow my own food but the critters keep eating it whenever I try. I like making stuff.
I don't have any trouble handling the day to day business of life stuff, though I'm a bit chaotic with it

to keep the critters away from your stuff, build an elevated cache, just like dick proenneke did, as described in his "alone in the wilderness" tale.

Thanks for the suggestion.

I've got plans along that line, but other things are in the queue before it, and food is cheap here so it's not critical from that angle, it'spurely asthetic and quality related. One day ( he says gazing into the distance)

I think I would describe myself as self insufficient but I really have no choice.

I have very similar sentiments. I have a place in the woods as well, backe dup to a creek and national forest land. I have learned to do most everything I needed to to renovate the house, and then keep things going. Partly because I don't like to ask for help, or to need help, and partly because I love learning new things. I have started to have trouble with the day to day stuff though, as I have gotten more anxious, and am not sure how to get things back under control.

I do like living with a partner, but roommates are a different thing, and often too annoying to be worth it.
I need my space, and people to respect that need. Also, I like it best if there is someone special there, but not necessarily talking or interacting with me. Hmmm. That sounds like I want a cat. (3 are plenty!)

I have struggled with this for years. I cannot seem to maintain self-sufficiency. I was doing well a few years ago when I had a well-paying job, but lost it due to my AS traits. I am currently at my least sufficient since my teens. I am literally living on charity. I am overwhelmed by what it would take to get a diagnosis, get help, and dig myself out of this hole when even NTs can't find work. I abhor the idea of going on disability, but given my track record, I may not have a choice.