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03 May 2012, 1:11 pm

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Just check out any thread that I've posted in. I feel like I write novel-length responses compared to everyone else, and it makes me feel bad.


Funny, I look at other people's responses and feel bad that mine is so short in comparison. I don't know about the rest of the people here, but I like longer, in-depth responses.
I'm glad to know that some people do, because that's my biggest concern about this, that when I write a long post people probably just skim over or ignore it as too long, and that it's a waste of my time (which it may be nonetheless).

I'm one of those people who, when I buy a book, feel a bit cheated if the book is too short. :D



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03 May 2012, 1:12 pm

I do talk to much and type to much but when I have something to say or type I will even though people will disagree that matters not to me.



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03 May 2012, 1:21 pm

I was actually thinking this morning, about an hour before seeing this topic, about how long all the posts on WP are compared to the other forums I visit. If I feel like a post is way too long, I'm in the habit of giving it a tl;dr version at the end.

And that whole paragraph was unintended. I clicked post reply just to comment on how this topic is an exception because people are being self conscious. Kinda funny.



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03 May 2012, 2:06 pm

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I can't seem to edit as I write, so I just ramble on and then once I have finished writing whatever it is, I try and edit it until it is a reasonable length. I remove any superfluous words, sentences that aren't necessary and sometimes whole paragraphs. It takes some time and often things are still too long.


This is me. Absolutely. I'm writing a paper right now that has to be 4-7 pages. Right now it's 9.5, and I've only used half of my sources. I have a hard time understanding why other people can't make minimum length. Stopping now. :lol:


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03 May 2012, 2:57 pm

My problem is I want to talk a lot, but don't get listened to. I analyse things in too much detail. I just don't bother much anymore.



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03 May 2012, 3:10 pm

I tend to want people to explain things in detail to me like I do to them. Sometimes I don't understand what they mean and I say "What do you mean?" and they give me some quick answer that doesn't tell me anything and I'll say "I don't get it" and they say something else and I say "I still don't get it" and they try again to say something quick and I say "No, I mean why is <this> and what does <that> have to do with it and why can't you do <the other thing>?" and by that time they think I'm just being a smart ass or difficult on purpose and they just get disgusted and walk away.

Oh well.


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03 May 2012, 3:20 pm

Hey OliveOilMom, it's good to see you. I often don't understand what other people say either. It doesn't mean I'm stupid, it's just that it's usually worded in a way I just can't comprehend. I usually get, "Don't worry" with an annoyed expression.



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03 May 2012, 3:52 pm

Yeah, I hate when I can point out the precise grammatical or word choice error giving me problems understanding someone, and they think, because they have heard this incorrect structure their whole life, and I'm smart enough to pick out precisely what it is, that I must be f***ing with them. At that point it's just a pain to get a good explanation out of them. >_>



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03 May 2012, 4:26 pm

smudge wrote:
My problem is I want to talk a lot, but don't get listened to. I analyse things in too much detail. I just don't bother much anymore.


We'll listen :P analyse away!



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03 May 2012, 5:40 pm

I get told I talk to much esspecially when I talk about or type about a topic I enjoy.I annoy people sometimes without realizing it when I go on and on about the same thing.


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03 May 2012, 7:02 pm

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I get told I talk to much esspecially when I talk about or type about a topic I enjoy.I annoy people sometimes without realizing it when I go on and on about the same thing.


If someone mentions a subject in passing that is or used to be one of my topics of special interest, or if they mention a fact about something within that topic, I will immediately jump in and start talking about it and won't know when to shut up. I have learned to break up my long "lectures" on topics into short paragraphs and end with a question pertaining to the topic so they can feel like they are part of the conversation. If I do that I can sometimes draw somebody into a conversation with me about something I am actually interested in. I'm sure that lots of people think that I'm talking just to hear myself talk or because I like to talk about the topic or I'm wanting to show off or something, but that's not it. At the time that I go into "lecture mode" it's really important to me for the other person to know the things I'm telling them about this topic. I feel that if they will only listen, really listen to me about it for five minutes that they will find it interesting. I just really, really, REALLY want them to learn about the topic, preferably from me.

God forbid they bring up a special interest topic while they are at my house because I will light up like a Christmas tree, start going on about it and bring them several books on the topic and while I'm talking to them about it I will be paging through the books and putting book marks in various sections for them to read, which pertain to whatever it is that we talked about. I've sent so many people home with books that it's not funny. Sometimes I get them back, sometimes I don't.

Funny thing is, my kids friends know that I know a lot of off the wall stuff that most people don't care about and that my husband knows a lot about his special interest topics (WWII, Star Trek, space, space travel, astronomy - no, he really is NT) and they will come into the room where we are and ask us about something in his topics or if it's something crazy or obscure they come to me. They do this when they are talking about the topic and wondering something or arguing about it. They know that one of us will probably know the answer or I can find out the answer real fast, and with many topics chances are good that I will send them back to their friends with a book or two on it.


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04 May 2012, 1:49 pm

I have been told I write essays for text messages. If someone were to ask me how my day was, I would go into detail about everything that happened that day from the moment I woke up to the moment I got their text message. I've gotten a little bit better about this and now I'll usually just talk about how my classes went, or just stop myself altogether and say, "It wasn't too shabby," or something. It's so easy for me to get into essay-mode, though, and I end up doing it a lot. After I send the message and see that I used a couple thousand characters it's like... OOPS. Some people appreciate that I don't leave out anything, but others... Well when they respond with, "Haha cool," or something like that, it's pretty clear that they probably didn't read my entire message and aren't really interested in the conversation anymore. Oh well.


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04 May 2012, 2:10 pm

YES

I am a compulsive self-writer
like having some kind of public diary or something..
usually about social situations
which some people find obnoxious because
i am always perplexed by social situations..



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05 May 2012, 3:54 pm

I don't talk enough when socialising with people, but I do talk non-stop to my mum and some other close relatives. I'm always constantly yakking so much that I get told to ''stop talking for five minutes''. I don't seem to hear myself going on and on. But I'm completely the opposite when I'm with people outside my close family - I stand there and say nothing and only speak when I know I'm being signifficantly spoken to, and even then I only utter ''yes or no'' answers and never have a proper conversation. I can never win with myself!


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05 May 2012, 6:35 pm

I type so much that my posts are usually two or three paragraphs long and can easily double that if I'm really passionate about whatever it is that I'm typing about. Whenever I create a topic that I'd like to have input on, I try to include a "short version" at the top that gets straight to the point so that I'll have a better chance of getting replies from people who don't like reading extra-long posts.

I also talk a lot in real life. My nickname in elementary school was "Chatterbox" and a couple of years ago my Nana told me that I'm the most talkative person she's ever met.



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05 May 2012, 8:39 pm

Another thing that I noticed is that, when someone IMs me or e-mails me, I never really know when to stop replying. Some people who communicate with me online a lot quickly say goodbye and immediately log off so they don't have to spend twenty minutes parting ways. It's kind of an entertaining defense mechanism. On the other hand, when I try to break it off on my end first, I tend to offend the other person because I won't say goodbye properly. I can't win.


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